Studied but cannot comprehend! Why are many people reluctant to associate with their former colleagu

Because there will inevitably be interests between colleagues, and every day together, there will be conflicts in many small things, just for the sake of face, and the need for work, temporarily buried in the bottom of the heart, and when you retire, there is no need to scruples, so there will be no more contacts.

Not necessarily. Many people become colleagues only because of work, and they may not be able to become friends.

Because the relationship with colleagues is not so good, it may be just because of the work connection, there is no contact in private, so many people do not associate with their original colleagues after retirement.

Actually, I don't want to go back and forth until I retire, but because of my work, I have to face it every day, so I definitely don't have any contact after retirement.

It may be because colleagues live relatively far away from each other, which is not conducive to contact, which leads to many people being lonely when they are old, and because they feel that they are not very reliable in long-term contact.

Because I didn't get along well with these colleagues when I was in office, and there were some conflicts of interest, I didn't want to associate with my original colleagues.

I feel that I should spend my old age in my own home and family after retirement, and I should have a lot of noisy things to care about my children, so I rarely have contact with my former colleagues.

Why are many people reluctant to associate with their old colleagues after retirement?

It is because there are always a lot of unknown things in daily life, and many people have been deceived in such a workplace.

I think there are three main reasons!

The first is that there are grudges against each other when they are on the job:

Everyone knows that colleagues are not friends, let alone classmates, but are actually acquaintances at work, so their relationship is wonderful. Due to various reasons, everyone will encounter this and that problem in their careers, of course, some are due to different personalities, some people are due to different purposes, but more because of work tasks, advanced job titles, welfare benefits and other aspects of professional involvement, will produce some grievances and grievances in the workplace, because it is inevitable that more than ten years, so that decades together, it is inevitable that this phenomenon will appear. So once separated, I really don't want to savor those boring things anymore.

The second is that I am afraid of hurting my colleagues in contact

Why? Since a person is separated from the work unit, he dares to stop commenting on some guidance of the unit or some phenomena that he is not accustomed to, so if this person is always talking about the affairs of the unit with his colleagues, it is inevitable that some words will be easily passed on to the guidance, and the guidance will not make the retired personnel what they do? However, he must have thoughts about his colleagues on the job, so that he may misunderstand and cause his colleagues to be hurt, which is equal to the gain and loss.

So this is one of the reasons why retired people are reluctant to keep in touch with their old colleagues.

When people are not retired, they are crawling in the workplace and have high morale. And once you retire, your thoughts will be different, and if you have your own preferences, you will devote yourself more and more to it when you have time; Those who don't have preferences have to find some preferences to pass the time, and basically have no free time, and they are going to deal with the trivial things of the unit, of course, they also don't want to recall the grievances and grievances of the unit. In order to prevent me from being unhappy, I am reluctant to socialize with my colleagues, and would rather find classmates, comrades-in-arms, and hair children than colleagues.

Of course, a very small number of good colleagues can also be promoted to friends, and the relationship is still close, which is another matter.

To sum up, the subject asks why people are reluctant to contact their former colleagues after retirement. I think there are many reasons, but there are three main points: first, colleagues are competitors, and there have been grievances in the workplace; Second, contact with colleagues is easy to hurt him, especially some colleagues on the job, once they say some complaints, it is easy to touch the unit or guidance, which will cause unnecessary troubles and entanglements; The third is that I am disgusted with the atmosphere of intrigue in the workplace, and I am even more reluctant to fall into it after retirement.

In other words, my preferences are too busy and I don't have that free time.

Therefore, except for the special promotion of a few colleagues to friends, most people are really reluctant to contact their former colleagues after retirement.

Because colleagues often have no real feelings between them, they just work together, and the suspicion between public colleagues is actually supported by work, and there is no need to maintain these behaviors without work, and the communication between colleagues is not sincere, just because of work.

Because the two of them were only some interests before, now that they have retired and have no interests, they don't want to contact each other anymore.

Personally, I think that it is not that there is no connection, but that the lives of two people do not intersect, and there is naturally less contact.

Because everyone has their own things, and the relationship is very dull when they are at work, and the two families are very far away after retirement, and they don't see each other much.

The two of them are no longer working in the same place, and they have retired, and they feel that there is no need to contact their colleagues, indicating that the two people do not have a real relationship when they are working.

Because the relationship with colleagues was not very good when I was in the unit, and I had my own life after retirement, there was no need to contact my former colleagues.

Because I know my old colleagues too well, I need to socialize as soon as I get in touch, and the expenses are too great, so this will happen.

Because they don't feel the need to contact their colleagues anymore, and if they continue to keep in touch, they will only find something to do with them.

Because colleagues are not necessarily friends, there are all kinds of relationships in life, and the relationships at work are more complex, and they all work for their own interests.

Because he quietly felt that he was trembling after retirement, he was very bad, very lonely, and didn't want others to know, and he also felt that there was no need to contact his colleagues anymore, and there would be no connection, so he didn't contact him.

Because they worked together in Xiangxian Wheel before, there were some frictions that were very upright, in fact, they didn't want to see each other for a long time, but they were forced to work, they could only endure it, and they could avoid it perfectly after retirement.

A sense of responsibility is a psychological state with a sense of mission, which refers to one's understanding, feelings and beliefs about oneself and others, one's family and the group, and one's responsibility for the development of our country and society, as well as the corresponding active mentality of following standards, being responsible and undertaking obligations. It is the main quality that a person should have, the foundation of a sound personality, and the guarantee of family happiness, stability and unity. Actively carry out theme activities that are conducive to physical health, make reasonable arrangements, exercise and fitness, plant flowers, study and training, and enrich their daily life; Let go of the mood and invest funds in community code flushing activities, Changchun University for the Elderly, and mass cultural activities to make yourself move.

Healthy and beneficial activities can give you a sense of satisfaction. As the saying goes, there are gains and losses, and there are limits to buying after retirement, and you don't spend too much money. There is no need to pick on yourself in terms of money, sometimes you are willing to buy your favorite clothes when you visit a large shopping mall and see your favorite clothes, and improve your aura by dressing up the spiritual essence; Have the opportunity to make an appointment with a confidant and good friend to take a trip to empty yourself, be willing to spend money on vacation travel to appreciate the splendid rivers and mountains of the Chinese nation, improve your quality of life, and obtain spiritual support from nature.

Confidants are hard to find, and friends are precious. Good friends, wide noise depends on quality and not on the total number, and a cart of potatoes is not as good as a luminous stone.

If you have three or five confidants who often get together to drink tea, chat, and play chess, it is also the fun of life. The position of being on duty and not being on the post is different, and the circle of getting along is different, so we should understand this problem in advance. To have a sense of shame, after retirement, do not force others, do not give problems to former friends and friends, grasp the solution when you can do your own things on the job, and do a good job of retiring and retiring your own docking.

Some people retreat and suffer a cold face from doing things, which in turn causes everyone to be really sorry for themselves.

As a result, the idea of closing oneself off and not wanting to contact friends is actually unnecessary. According to your own health condition, get along with friends and good friends within your ability, and never ask for extravagance. Nowadays, people who are not very good at physical and mental health generally avoid them, which should also be thoroughly understood, and there are many cases of accidents and situations in the elderlyTherefore, we don't have to go to anything, follow everything, we don't have to be difficult to let go of the planners, but we are grateful to others for taking care of our physical and mental health, otherwise you will fall into the river with high blood pressure, and no one will fish, you will have to be fished!

Because there is no deep friendship with colleagues, it is just based on work, and now Yuhui has no work bench to dismantle in Zaojube, so there is no need to disguise it anymore, I think this phenomenon is normal.

This is because many people work in the company, their relationship with colleagues is not very good, although the surface maintains a harmonious attitude, but the heart is fast and simple do not want to have too much contact with those colleagues, which makes them never want to have any contact with colleagues after retirement, this phenomenon is relatively normal and understandable.

After retirement, there is no value for the source of manuscripts, and now that you are retired, for them, you have no competitive reputation, even if your official position is very high, it will not bring them benefits, and your departure is just one more opportunity for them to be promoted. Some retirees just want to return to peace.

Many people don't want to contact their colleagues after retirement, which is also very normal, in fact, many people who quarrel with the macro relationship seem to be harmonious on the surface, but in fact, they are all intrigues.

Why do many people retire and stop keeping in touch with their old colleagues? It stands to reason that when you retire, you will have a lot of free time. In order to pass the time, you should drink tea and chat with old colleagues more, so it is reasonable, why don't you stop contacting old colleagues after retirement?

In fact, it is nothing more than such a few reasons, first, people take tea and cool. In the past, when I was on the job, I was still valuable to the company and to other colleagues. Now that I am retired, this value will naturally not exist, and others will no longer respect me.

In the past, when I was working, my colleagues would come over to say hello very warmly when they saw me, because others had something to ask for them, so they would always have a good relationship with themselves.

But now that I'm retired, it's useless for others, and others don't need to ask for their help. So many people understand this truth, and naturally they won't be bored.

Now that you're retired, you're still in touch with your old colleagues, and you're of no use to others, so who cares about you? Therefore, many people are very knowledgeable, understand the truth that people go to tea and cool, and they no longer contact their old colleagues after retirement.

After retirement, I don't want to contact my colleagues in front of me, because the contact of my colleagues is only related to work, and now I don't work, so there is no need to contact.

These people have been in the company all their lives, and there will definitely be some contradictions when they get along for a long time, and this is also a relief for them after retirement, so they will not contact their colleagues. They don't feel the need to contact them anymore after they leave, and they don't want to put too much pressure on themselves.

First of all, after retirement, there has been a great change in living habits, and the common topics between colleagues will be reduced, and they no longer want to participate in some work-related issues; The second is that there is less time to socialize with former colleagues, and the previous interpersonal relationships and feelings do not want to spend a lot of time to operate and maintain, because they are no longer bound by human feelings; In the future, they may just want to simply retire, they no longer want to participate in complex working relationships, and they are no longer needed for their abilities and aspects when they retire.

In fact, many relationships at work are connected through interests, most of the interpersonal interactions are because you can bring certain benefits to both parties, you have the value of being used, then others are willing to interact with you, you can bring benefits to others, then everyone wants to have a good relationship with you. But once you retire, when you are not in the workplace, the rights, relationships, and resources have been removed, and you have no resources that can be used, and others are naturally unwilling to spend time on you, just like digging for gold, there are no resources in this mining area, and people have already rushed to the next mining area. Then this mining area that no longer has any use value will be cared for, and the same is true for people who retire.