My husband has a problem, or I have a problem

A typical lazy man, it's best to have a good talk with him, tell her that it can't go on like this, no matter how much money she makes, at least she has to work, after all, she is not a rich man, right, if you indulge for a while, you will exhaust yourself. This kind of man does have a problem and despises it.

Here's a piece of advice for you: talk to him well, and if he really can't change it, then it's better to break up. After all, if this continues, it will be more harmful to yourself, your family, and your children.

You can't indulge this kind of person, otherwise you will be even more lazy.

Don't you know how expensive it is to raise a child now? Don't know how stressful it is after buying a house?

It's hard to imagine how such a man can endure a wife like you until now???

Think for yourself.

Good luck!

Typical lazy to do this kind of person who can't repent suggests that you take the child to live alone, cut off his finances**, force him to work, if he can't do it, he has to accept his fate, or divorce.

First of all, I would like to say that you are an independent and autonomous woman. Emotionally, you take the initiative to maintain your relationship with your husband. This is something I admire, and it's rare in this money-first society.

But it is also your accommodation that will never make you a step of separation. Also give your husband a leverage to become even more lazy? A normal family needs a man who can stand on his head and feet, no matter what the man's ability is, or what his income is.

As long as he is willing to work hard, even if he lives poorly, you will feel very steady. Now it's your husband's problem, and to be honest, if you still love the husband in front of you, try to separate from him,1 so that you can completely calm yourself down and think about whether what you've done to him over the years is love or a habit to him. 2. Scare your husband to see if he really cares about your feelings and can understand you, so that he can try to change for you.

I won't persuade you to divorce unless you do. Because people don't have a few decades in this life, and 10 years of relationship is not something that can be let go. After all, it's a family and its children are innocent, don't let your children lose a hardworking and understanding mother because of his lazy father.

He's like this, you're still around, you're still nervous, you're still cheap, take the child away as soon as possible. A man who is not a little self-motivated, what is the use of keeping him.

This problem should have been exposed in the two years of love, since you chose it at the beginning, now you can only bear it yourself. Since drinking alcohol is a trigger, please advise your men to drink less, at least not to get drunk. And then there is some truth in your analysis, maybe he has some knots.

But when you say the truth after drinking, I feel that it is, but you should be scolding your ex-wife. In other words, he is soothing his ex-wife's harm to him by hurting you. You're right, the child is too young, and divorce is also a harm.

I don't know if he is willing or not, it is best to see a psychiatrist, if you don't want to go, go to the mediator of the local community neighborhood committee, and let the family give him a lesson, and it is also good to counsel and counsel. You should give him another chance and leave an observation period to observe and observe, even if you want to leave now, it is estimated that the court will not necessarily support it. Family, tolerate each other, tolerate each other, improve each other, rely on each other, and that's it.

Finally, I wish you a happy marriage and a happy family in the near future.

After reading your narrative, I can tell you with certainty that your husband does have psychological problems, and the crux lies in his first wife, who now can be said to distrust you, afraid that you will run away with his money like his first wife, so he never gives you money. In addition, it is drunk, after getting drunk, he subconsciously regards you as his first wife, so he will scold you like that. In his case, either he should find a psychiatrist to enlighten him and see if it will work, if it doesn't work, it is recommended that you sue for divorce.

Since he is a heavy drinker and a domestic violent, the court will sentence you to leave. Of course, you have to have proof of this.

Dear, your man's injuries may seem serious. But no matter how serious it is, it is his fault to be angry with his wife after all.

In fact, all people in the world are sick in their hearts, but it is only through self-regulation and the help of those around them that they can slowly adjust their emotions to a positive attitude.

Since this is the case, you might as well suffer a little grievance yourself first, and tell you a little way to improve:

1.Know that what everyone needs is a sense of being valued, and you have to make him feel that he is the most important person in the family.

2.Man, tired outside and needs the warmth of home, don't dislike his nonsense after drinking too much, you should help him lie down, just listen to his complaints, the ugliness of the family should not be publicized, and he didn't say three or four to you in front of outsiders, right? So it's not a big deal, what you need to be comforted and understand when you are wronged on the outside.

3.Men always silently endure the cruelty and complexity outside, and rarely use crying or confiding to vent themselves, so men die faster than women.

4.About the economy You might as well be like this, since he bought all the firewood, rice, oil and salt, you don't have to worry about these trivial things, shouldn't you be happy?

If you adjust your mentality, you can live a good life, but it hasn't reached that incorrigible point.

Listening to your description of the husband who seems to be a person's wine is not good, and a little distrustful of you, it seems that there are some other penetrating factors that make you more and more disgusted with him, and only you can decide whether to divorce or not, but this kind of day is long and no one can stand it, I think it is still good to leave, and now it is better to end the mistake as soon as possible, than to fall deeper and deeper.

Marriage is nothing more than love, sex, and responsibility. The way husband and wife get along with each other and the way of social relations and friends are no different, tolerance, understanding, and communication. It is recommended to compare the above key factors to see where the root cause of the conflict is, and only by finding the root cause and communicating and resolving it will the marriage be harmonious.

Quarrel is to vent some dissatisfaction, not the thing itself is worth arguing.

Your husband is still living in the shadow of his ex-wife, let's leave as soon as possible, while the children are still young, I am looking for a man who can be good to you and the children to live, your life is too grinding, while you are still young, you should break it, I wish you happiness in the future.

Is there a shadow in his ex-wife's runaway? Maybe it has something to do with drinking, and there is no virtue after drinking.

Through the intervention of a third person, the most effective method may be psychological counseling.

Don't support divorce, support more communication when your husband doesn't drink!