Marriage is a matter of two families, what kind of woman will not be despised by her in laws?

Very independent and self-reliant woman. Such a woman is very confident and very thoughtful, and she can be respected by others.

It could be the kind of woman who can be particularly financially independent and then have a career of her own.

In general, he has his own principles and bottom line, he is more tactful, he has his own job, and his mother's family is richer.

It depends on your own mentality, you can't control your husband's family. If you don't have interest, you don't have such a mentality, you will be very happy, but the quarrel, isn't it all vented?How can there be a psychological shadow?

At best, there is a barrier, and it is awkward to get along. So is our family. But what can be done?

Ignorance of human nature, you can really only hate iron and steel, and it is a matter of course to be good to them, and never say anything to them. I can't help it.

You don't need to balance, if you don't like it, stay away, resist if you are bullied, divorce if your husband doesn't give her strength, and struggle for a long time. You have to understand the psychology of your mother-in-law and hope that your daughter-in-law will listen to her words and make sacrifices and sacrifices for the family. Why?

Unless there is a mine, my mother-in-law is dead, and there is a possibility of inheritance, if you don't like it, go back, don't bully people like this!Your kindness is weakness in the eyes of your in-laws, and your filial piety is fear in the eyes of your in-laws. Your home, my home, his home has a sense of distance.

The balance lies in the adjustment of the mindset, and the problem lies in the way the problem is handled.

There is no husband and wife who are not noisy or noisy, and there is no mother-in-law who is really as close as mother and daughter. In China, because of various traditional concepts, daughters are afraid that they will not marry when they are old, so they would rather stick to their in-laws' family than be older women. Your parents should feel inferior in their hearts.

Because he is divorced, he is likely to find a new wife, but you are unlikely to find a new husband. You can't control your in-laws. The only thing you can control is your own parents.

Forbid them to do things, communicate with them, and let them know that the more they do, the more your heart will hurt and your status in your in-laws' family will be lower.

No matter how much your parents' economic status is higher than that of the man's family, once the attitude of the whole family is lowered, the man's family will look down on your whole family. Of course, it cannot be ruled out that your parents just want to spoil you and not endure suffering. Then this will only give them full freedom to do what they like.

You can't control it. In China, there is no way. Both adults must be involved.

I got married in China and then went to the United States. Both parents have hated each other's family for more than ten or twenty years.

If I don't like my in-laws, then I try not to have close contact with them, only fulfill my own obligations and responsibilities, and don't worry about them, and live my own life behind closed doors.

I'll give myself some psychological cues. At the same time, keep yourself open and close. In the face of some unfair handling issues, I will not quarrel with the other party. At the same time, I will try to respect my in-laws. And it will also avoid some direct conflicts.

Do things on the surface and behind the scenes, often tell her husband about some bad behaviors, and according to a detail, she will say it over and over again, and she can't remember how good she is to him.

I will choose to be out of sight, and more is better than less. As long as you don't care, you won't be upset.

In marriage, if a woman has her own career income, housework is cleaned up, and she has her own set of things, her in-laws will look down on you.

has its own bottom line, has its own career, does not rely on independence, will not participate too much in the affairs of the in-law's family, and knows what to say and what not to say.

After two people get married, if you want to get higher and higher in the status of your in-laws' family, first of all, you must be a self-sufficient woman, whether it is during pregnancy or childbirth, because in the hearts of your in-laws, they will feel that if you don't work and have no income, then they will feel that you are just living on their son, you are a person who does not make money, if you buy and buy in various ways, even if your mother-in-law's family is rich, they will also look down on you, and your well-bred in-laws will pretend not to see it, But it must not be so enthusiastic about you. But if you talk about your in-laws who are not very well-educated, you may be scolded directly.

So girls, whether they are married or not, must have the ability to support themselves, have a good job, and must be motivated, you can't be eliminated by this society, otherwise you will be eliminated by your in-laws and husband, and if you don't want to get married, you can't hold your head up in other people's homes, you must have a job of your own, how much income may not be very important, but you must always prove to them that you can be good without their son.

Moreover, even if you have a good job, then if your husband is not polite to you, he has a bad attitude towards you, and always blames and scolds you, even if your in-laws look down on you in the first place, they will eventually look down on you from the bottom of their hearts, because their son looks down on you, and their son has that attitude towards you, so you see, they will look down on you for a long time, they will look down on you, and they will not care about your feelings.

So you must control your husband, your husband's attitude towards you after marriage directly affects your in-laws' attitude towards you, if your husband's attitude towards you is particularly good, and especially spoils you, as long as you are not the kind of person who is lazy and lazy, under normal circumstances, your status in your in-law's family will be higher and higher, because their son likes you, and you work very well, how can they look down on you.

A woman with a very positive outlook, a woman who can maintain financial independence, a woman who is very reasonable in doing things, a woman who is reasonable, and a woman who is very measured in doing things, such a woman will have a higher and higher status in her in-law's family, and she can also gain the respect of her in-laws.

A woman who has her own career and can quickly gain a foothold will be respected by her in-laws at the same time, and she will have a good relationship with her mother-in-law.

A woman who is particularly sensible and knows how to maintain family relationships and has a good relationship with her mother-in-law can have a high status.