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Mother's family.
Most people are neutral: they are all important, but they can't say what the underlying reasons are, and they basically look at the problem from the perspective of the family.
From my point of view, in fact, these are two different issues, for the mother's family, you are very important, and the mother's family is also very important to you, you can get the love of the mother's family without putting much effort into the family, which is very simple; And the in-laws are different, you are for the in-laws family, in addition to your husband, other people will treat you as an outsider at the beginning, which is understandable, so you have to make a lot of efforts to make the in-laws accept themselves and get the love of the in-laws, which is more difficult, so it is easy to have a lot of incompatible relationships between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
I think the mother's family is more important, because the mother's family can love themselves without reservation when they don't have much to pay for the family, this is the love of parents for their children, we also have to feed back to our parents, return our love, so the mother's family is more important.
After all, for an outsider, I can't do the love of my parents to an outsider, the best thing I can do is to take the initiative to guide the other party to integrate into my family, how much you can do depends on your efforts, after all, it can't always be the mother-in-law who is paying and the daughter-in-law doesn't react much.
As for the in-laws, except for their husbands, in fact, other in-laws regard themselves as outsiders, and before others accept them, they will never be able to enter the core area of the family, just like a vase, dispensable, not to mention of any importance. And I have to make a lot of efforts to make myself an important member of my in-law's family, at this time, my mother-in-law's family, for you, is an important person, and this is something that can only be achieved after years of hard work.
That's right, I have lived in my mother's house for more than 20 years, and I have long been an important member of my mother's family, and I have only been at my mother-in-law's house for a few days, and I am dispensable like a vase, who will pay attention to myself?
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After getting married, it is naturally more important to have your own small family.
Because the law of human development is like this, after marriage, the husband and wife conceive children together. So normally, it is reasonable for a woman to put her own small family in the first place after marriage.
Moreover, the husband and wife run their small family well, and the parents of both parties are more assured!
I think so! Filial piety to parents is definitely a must, but there must also be a degree, if the family is poor, there is no need to give everything they have. Life needs to go on, and you have to have a plan.
Then husband and wife also need to tolerate each other when they get along, because both parties grew up in different environments, and all aspects of personality and ability are definitely different. If you dislike each other, the marriage will definitely not last long.
Once we get married, our social roles will suddenly increase. In addition to being the other person's spouse, you are also a member of the other party's family, the daughter-in-law of your in-laws, and the mother of your children in the future.
The roles have increased, the burden on the shoulders has increased, and the pressure and troubles have followed.
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I want to tell all women in the world that your in-laws' family is your real home, and your parents-in-law are your real parents, and I hope you will always be the real daughters of your in-laws!
Since a woman gets married, first of all, you have to accept everything from your in-laws' thoughts, attitudes, and psychology. You have to understand that your mother-in-law's side is your real home, your mother-in-law's family is your worthy struggle and nostalgia, your parents-in-law are the people you are most worthy of love and filial piety, they are not your biological parents but better than your biological parents, in your life, they are indispensable, you can say that you love them a point, they will love you 100 percent!
Family affection dictates that the mother's family is his own relatives, and his parents are always his closest people. After getting married, my mother's family will always be my own family.
But the mother's family is also important.
Since a woman gets married, the focus and main position of your life is in your in-law's house, you spend 80% of your life in your mother-in-law's house, you occasionally go back to your mother's house, you are just a guest of your mother's house.
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I personally think that for two couples, after remarriage, the in-laws are more important to themselves, and the reason why I think the in-laws are more important to themselves is mainly because many couples will live with their mother-in-law after marriage, if they do not deal with the relationship with their mother-in-law, it will make the relationship between the husband and wife have a lot of contradictions, and even affect the education, cultivation and growth of children.
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After getting married, of course, the mother-in-law's family is more important, after all, the mother's family understands and cares about themselves very much, and the feelings of the mother-in-law's family need to get along seriously, and the emotions invested are more.
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After getting married, I think I still have to focus on my mother-in-law's family, and of course, I usually have to go back to my parents' house more often, and I should take care of both of them.
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It depends on the situation, if the mother's family is patriarchal. If your mother-in-law's family is good to you, of course, your mother-in-law's family is more important, if your mother's family loves you. If the in-laws are not good, of course, the mother's family is more important, if they are all patriarchal.
If it's not good, of course, your own family is the most important.
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After getting married, it is more important to be a family member of the in-laws. Because, the husband is the pillar of the family, the children will take their father's surname in the future, and the in-laws' family will have the same surname.
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It should be treated equally!
Of course, it also depends on the situation, nothing is set in stone, as the saying goes, ten years to see the mother-in-law, ten years to see the daughter-in-law! Just married, in the first few years of marriage, you will definitely pay wholeheartedly, see how your in-laws treat you, if you pay in return, your in-laws' family is also very good to you, then you can always treat everyone equally, if your in-laws treat you badly, I think you still have to look at your mother's family, of course, since you are married, I think you still have to focus on your own small family, mainly the other half, after all, your husband is the one who accompanies you to old age.
Then again, how can you take care of everything when you get married, there is always one who owes it, such as having a child, such as marrying far away! Wait a minute! will be affected by these factors! If you have time to spend more time with your parents, after all, they went to your in-laws' house when you can reciprocate.
The above is purely a personal opinion!
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One is the person closest to her husband, and the other is the person closest to herself, both of whom are important people. If you have to divide, of course, the mother's family is more important, this is the person who gave birth to you and raised you, as well as the brothers and sisters who grew up together, and relatives who are related by blood, so the mother's family is more important!
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After getting married, the mother-in-law's family is more important, because marrying into the mother-in-law's family is to be with the people of the mother-in-law's family, and the mother's family is also very important to get along for a long time. After all, they are their parents and relatives. But you should also treat your mother-in-law's family as your own family, and getting along well will be more important than your mother's family.
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After getting married, all three are important! Whichever family has a problem, it is emotional torture, family injury, and inconvenience in life. These three are the most important things in your life!
It's your dearest and dearest! Both parents raised you and are still helping you raise your next generation. Others just look at you and say something to you that may be very pleasant to you, but it is your parents who really help you.
Don't say that some people come to see you, listen to you, etc., all this has to be rewarded. Others just listen to you complain and laugh at you. Nowadays, many people's mentality is envy, jealousy, and hatred.
Only your parents give you without asking for anything in return. Don't say that your parents help you to provide for your old age, morally and legally speaking, you should have to provide for your parents! Don't say that the law says that the man and the woman each support their own parents, it is you who help each other to support each other's parents!
If you don't handle the support of your parents well, can your small family be good? If you don't ask his parents, he can leave your parents without asking. This question should be sent by a girl, don't listen to what you don't give me, I won't support my mother-in-law.
The women who say this are all people who just want to take advantage and don't know how to be grateful, and they are women who don't get the love of their mother-in-law and stir up trouble, she also wants you to be the same as her, you ask the person who said this to you, will she help you watch the child when you are in trouble? Is it possible to give you financial support without asking for anything in return?
And it's only your parents who can really contribute to the money. Even those of your relatives may not be able to do it. Relatives and friends come to see you and invite you to dinner, and you want to invite you back!!
Don't be stupid, maintain your own family, let both parents be happy and healthy, that is happiness, let those who are right and wrong envy and jealousy. When both parents are healthy, they will not and do not need to let you take care of them, and they will help you. On the contrary, it always makes parents angry and will get sick.
When your parents are sick, can you really ignore them? Think about it! Selfishness and lack of gratitude are the grave of happiness!
Think about the good and the bad.
The relationship between the three families is good, and the four elderly people are supported together, and you can rest assured that your small family will be better!! On the day of marriage, the three families are one big family!! Work together for happiness!
Empathy, honesty, mutual tolerance, and happiness. I want to be happy for a while, and only care about the present. I want to be happy all my life and treat each other in harmony.
Home and everything is prosperous!
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If you are an only child, then, after marriage, your in-laws' family and your mother's family are equally important, and I hope you will treat it with a bowl of water. If you have an older brother or younger brother, then it is recommended that you take the lead in your in-laws. The water spilled by the married daughter.
If you take care of your mother's family too much, you will develop their righteous habits and cultivate an extremely irresponsible brother.
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After marriage, the mother's family is more important. For example, when you are sick, it is your mother's family who cares about you the most. And my mother-in-law will only think that if I take care of you, I will be noble, and you will have to repay me in the future. And the mother's family is selfless love for themselves.
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I think that after getting married, your in-laws' family and your mother's family are equally important, your parents are the ones who have the grace to raise you, even if you get married, you are also their daughters, and your in-laws' family is a person who will accompany you for a lifetime, and you need to put in a lot of effort and effort, I think it is equally important.
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I think that after getting married, my lover is the most important thing. The in-laws and mothers' families are their own relatives, they are equal, and they must care for and love them. There is no more important one between them.
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After getting married, the mother's family and the mother-in-law's family are equally important, after all, they are all a family when they get married, and they must treat the relatives of the two families equally, do not favor which side, which side will also have an impact on their own lives, after all, your husband's relatives and your relatives are your lifelong family affection.
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Of course, it is important to have your own mother's family. Because the mother's family is the one who gave birth and raised herself, and she is also the person who is most sober about her blood relationship, it must be the mother's family that is more important.
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I think it is naturally more important to have your mother's family, because your mother's family is the harbor and support after you marry into your in-law's family.
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It is important for both the in-laws and the mother's family after marriage. Moreover, the elderly on both sides are of the same importance, and they all have the obligation to support.
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From my point of view, in fact, these are two different issues, for the mother's family, you are very important, and the mother's family is also very important to you, you can get the love of the mother's family without putting much effort into the family, which is very simple;
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Although you are married, if Xu is more important, it is your own family that is more important, because they are related to you after all, and your mother-in-law's family is related to you? Tell me about your children.
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I think it's important for both families to be treated equally and understand each other, which is good for your family.
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After getting married, the mother-in-law's family and the mother's family are all a family, and they must be treated equally. The in-laws and mother-in-law are their parents and relatives. After getting married, don't treat your mother's family as outsiders, and don't treat your in-laws as outsiders.
After getting married, the mother-in-law's family and the mother-in-law's family must be filial and caring, they are all a family, and they must be treated equally. After getting married, it is more important to be a mother-in-law and a mother-in-law. After getting married, your mother-in-law and mother are the closest people to your husband, and they are both members of the same family, so both of you must treat each other equally and be filial to each other.
After getting married, both the mother-in-law's family and the mother's family should care, love, and be filial, and they must all be a family and treat them equally. After getting married, your mother-in-law and mother are all your family, they are all a family, they must be filial, and they are all rents in a family. Nian Ling Zhao, so both of you should treat him well.
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