Why are the elderly reluctant to go to nursing homes?

In the past, in order to work and live, parents had to help take care of their children after retirement, and they never had their own life. If they are old and can no longer take care of themselves, he would prefer to find a nanny or caregiver to take care of the elderly at home, and the children can still help take care of them, which is also a saying.

Faced with the question of whether to go to a nursing home, perhaps because of different concepts, or because of the different pace of life, everyone will have their own opinions. A psychological counselor in our city said that in fact, it is mainly in the elderly who cannot live in nursing homes, and they must not only combine the actual situation, but also respect the wishes of the elderly. The key is to remember that the elderly should be sent to nursing homes or nursing homes, and they should visit them at both ends of the three days as children, and they should also take the elderly home during the New Year's holidays to share the joy of family.

Parents accompany their children to grow up, and their children can accompany them to grow older, or parents may prefer to find a lifestyle that suits them. On the one hand, the elderly living in nursing homes solves the worries of young people and reduces their burden; On the other hand, the elderly have also received standardized care and professional care, and the elderly have a relatively stable social circle, will no longer be so lonely, will be much more cheerful, and live a healthier and longer life. Isn't that what we like to see as children?

Whether you are filial or not, you can't just look at the surface, but should focus on the substance.

By the end of 2017, there were 240.9 million elderly people aged 60 and above in the country, and there were 10,000 elderly people over 60 years old (registered population) in our city. With the development of society, people's concepts are also developing, whether it is at home for the elderly, or sent to nursing homes for the elderly, children should always keep their parents in mind, think of them, love them, considerate, care and care for them. Of course, it is true that there are single-child families or for other reasons can not take care of the elderly, and the elderly can not be ignored, should consider which way to make the elderly happier, there are special people to take care of, there are many peers as companions of the nursing home, not can not choose, the key is to see whether the children have a "love parents, so that parents enjoy more love" heart.

If children want their parents' old age to be fuller and more colorful, and send them to a nursing home and visit them often, even if they do not leave them at home, it is still filial piety. On the contrary, in order to take care of his own face, he left the old man at home to spend his life like a year, which is unfilial piety. Therefore, when we make choices about the elderly, we may wish to think about how our children will treat us when we are old.

The reason why the elderly are reluctant to go to a nursing home. The first is that I am afraid that the nursing home service staff will treat me badly. The second is that he is unwilling to leave the home where he has lived for the rest of his life.

Because he has a very deep affection for this family. The third is that when I go to a nursing home, I seem to have left my children. Because the older you get, you want to be with your children.

The main reason is that the elderly are worried that the cost of living in a nursing home is not as good as saving money for the elderly at home, and at the same time, they are worried that they will not be well taken care of in the nursing home, and that the hardware facilities are not perfect enough, and the nursing staff is not professional enough and professional, which will be bad for themselves.

Many elderly people in traditional families will choose to care for the elderly at home, because they want to live in a familiar environment, and they can't do without the company of their children, and they want their children and grandchildren to be happy. Home care not only helps to make the elderly happy, but also solves the psychology of the elderly who are reluctant to leave home, which is a good choice.

When it comes to the topic of old-age care, many people say that raising a child is not for him to take care of the elderly, and when he is old, he will go to a nursing home. So are all the older people now going to live in nursing homes? But the fact is that few people around them are willing to send their elderly parents to nursing homes, and under normal circumstances, the elderly live alone and their children visit occasionally, or the elderly live with their children is the most common state.

In real life, I, like most people, am reluctant to send my parents to a nursing home, and the reasons behind it may lie in the following two points: I am worried that the elderly will not live well in the nursing home, although everyone is preaching that the conditions of the nursing home will get better and better, but after all, it is a place for the elderly to gather, and many people are still reluctant to send their parents to the nursing home, because they are worried that the elderly will not be happy in the nursing home. This unhappiness can be physical or psychological:

Worried that the conditions of the nursing home are not good, and the elderly are abused by caregivers; Or after all, the nursing homes are all elderly, and there are too many people leaving, which is easy to cause a certain mental burden on the elderly. At the same time, if you don't meet someone who can speak, the old man will be lonely and lonely in his heart. When my cousin was studying medicine, he was arranged in a relatively large hospital, which had an old cadre ward, and the conditions inside were very good, with TV, air conditioning and independent toilets, as well as good medical conditions, and there were more professional nurses to take care of him.

But because most of the children are abroad, the old man is also very lonely and lonely. Therefore, some people are reluctant to send their parents to nursing homes, because they can't bear to let their parents live happily in nursing homes. Worried about being blamed by others, and being said to be unfilial, children are reluctant to send the elderly to nursing homes, one of the reasons is the influence of traditional concepts, thinking that sending parents to nursing homes is unfilial piety, and will be poked in the backbone by others.

Under the influence of traditional concepts, the concept of raising children to prevent old age is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, and it also makes children feel that their parents have raised themselves, and when their parents are old, they should take good care of their parents, otherwise they are unfilial and they will not be able to pass the inner hurdle. A neighbor of the old Kufan family, the old couple has three sons and a daughter, but they all work in other places, and the old people are not willing to live in the big city, and now the old man is old, several children always feel that it is unbearable to send the old man to a nursing home, and will be ridiculed by relatives, so everyone simply raised funds to find a reliable nanny to help take care of the old couple, and assigned a son who is closer to take care of the old man every once in a while.

In real life, many people are still reluctant to send their parents to nursing homes, and considering many aspects, it is better to let the elderly stay in an environment that they are more familiar with.

1. Relying on nursing homes is a very realistic pension option.

In real life, relying on nursing homes is a very realistic pension option. ......On the one hand, there are many elderly people who have chosen to go to nursing homes for the elderly, and on the other hand, there are many elderly people who are ready to choose nursing homes because other ways of caring for the elderly are not suitable for them. ......Therefore, relying on nursing homes has become a realistic pension option for many elderly people.

2. The pension conditions in nursing homes are not as comfortable as those for children to support and care for the elderly.

Judging from the actual situation, the old-age conditions of nursing homes are still lacking compared with the support of children and daughters. ......For example, the accommodation conditions of the nursing home are not as good as at home, for example, the food conditions of the nursing home are not as delicious as at home, etc., and more importantly, the loneliness and loneliness of the nursing home cannot be resolved, which makes the nursing home is not the best choice.

3. Relying solely on children to provide for the elderly is not a perfect pension choice.

Although most people still want to be supported by their children, this type of pension is not perfect. ......The reason for this is that, on the one hand, young people nowadays are very busy with work and have no time to take care of the elderly, and on the other hand, many families now have only one child, and the pressure on him to support their parents is too great. ......Therefore, for the elderly, what kind of way to choose to care for the elderly also needs to be combined with their actual situation to make targeted choices.

In the current domestic pension system, nursing homes occupy a very important position as a major way of providing for the elderly. With the continuous improvement of the domestic pension system, the nursing home has reached a certain level in terms of facilities and services. This level is definitely superior for the elderly who cannot afford to provide for their children.

Moreover, with the popularity of the Internet, pension networks such as pension networks have gradually been established. However, nursing homes have never been able to fully meet the full recognition of the elderly.

The main reason for this is the attachment of the elderly to their children, and they are reluctant to dismantle the concept of this home. This kind of problem arises not only in our country, but also in nursing homes in various countries around the world. This is a common problem in the pension system, and it is also a problem that cannot be solved under the current situation.

This disconnection of family ties is the biggest obstacle to the development of nursing homes.

Nursing homes are gradually satisfying the material needs of the elderly, but they are powerless in terms of spiritual needs. The most likely way to solve the problem is to establish a way of connection between the nursing home and the home, so that the children and the nursing home also have a certain connection, so that this family link can be integrated into the nursing home. Of course, there is currently no effective method for this approach, and further research is needed.

It is believed that in the near future, the nursing home will be able to fill the vacancies here, so as to become a pleasant place for the elderly.

1. The environment and treatment of nursing homes.

With the development of society, the number of nursing homes is increasing, but why are the elderly reluctant to go? First of all, the environment and treatment of nursing homes are worrying. Due to the large scale of nursing homes, the living and living habits of the elderly are greatly restricted, and they cannot spend their time freely.

At the same time, some nursing homes are not in a good state of affairs, such as poor hygiene, old facilities and poor quality of food, which can affect the living experience of the elderly.

Second, it is difficult to adapt to the new living environment.

Older people are often accustomed to an independent lifestyle, but after going to a nursing home, they need to adapt to a new living environment and rhythm, which is a huge challenge for the older people. Many elderly people are unable to adapt to their new social circles and lifestyles, so they are reluctant to go to a nursing home.

3. The shackles of family responsibilities.

In addition, family responsibilities are very important for the elderly in China. Many elderly people believe that they should honor their families and do not want to cause trouble to their children, even if they need to take care of themselves. Therefore, they are not interested in nursing homes.

Fourth, the accumulation of life experience.

Wisdom and experience are invaluable, and going to a nursing home often loses a lot of social opportunities and opportunities to continue learning. Older people tend to prefer to continue their studies and participate in social activities, so they are reluctant to be isolated in a nursing home. Instead, they prefer to live with old friends, old neighbors, and family and continue to pursue the lifestyle they want.

5. Summary. Therefore, the reasons why the elderly do not go to nursing homes are complex. Although the facilities and service levels of nursing homes are constantly improving, the expectations of the elderly Lu Wei for freedom and family responsibilities are also constantly increasing**.

They prefer to stay at home, spend their old age with their families, and enjoy the freedom to continue their studies and participate in social activities.

Now pension is indeed a big problem, especially with the aging of the population is becoming more and more serious, but also to people's pension problem has brought a severe challenge, especially now many people in their fifties and sixties most of the family has only one child, it is difficult to rely on children to support the elderly, because they still have to work, but also to take care of their children. If you don't regret having no children, it will be even more difficult to provide for the elderly.

First of all, people are reluctant to go to nursing homes. Perhaps influenced by traditional concepts, many people are reluctant to go to nursing homes, even if the nursing homes are good, they always feel that they are not their home. When people are old, they prefer to stay in their own homes and do whatever they want freely, and most people still have scruples about going to nursing homes for the elderly.

Secondly, there is no ability to go to a nursing home. Because we all know that nursing homes are also profitable now, and if you don't have a certain economic strength, you can't support the cost of living in a nursing home. A month nursing home needs three or four thousand yuan, in the countryside, the vast majority of people do not have a pension, even in the city, some people's pension is only one or two thousand yuan, obviously, in this case, it is very unrealistic to go to the nursing home.

Third, some elderly people are afraid of going to nursing homes to be abused. Because once people reach old age, they are unable to move, and they are not able to do enough The service staff in the nursing home are not related to each other, and they are worried that the nursing home will not be better cared for. Rather than this, it is better to stay at home, which is why the elderly have some concerns about going to a nursing home.

In short, I think if you don't have children to care for the elderly, it's best to go to a nursing home, now most of the nursing home services are very good, and the environment of the nursing home is also very good, there are a lot of people of your age in the nursing home, you can chat together, dance square dance together, or do something you like and are interested in, which will make your mood very cheerful, and your old age will be very happy.