Talk about why many elderly people don t want to live in nursing homes?

At present, the software and hardware of low-grade nursing homes are lacking, especially the poor sense of responsibility of the service staff, the bad attitude towards the elderly, and the Internet has exploded a lot. Secondly, many elderly people who are not good at social communication feel lonely and uncomfortable in the new environment. Nowadays, the new way of "group pension" is very popular in society, and it is also good for several elderly people with compatible personalities and hobbies to find a suitable place to help each other and take care of each other.

Therefore, many elderly people are reluctant to go to nursing homes.

The nursing home is faced with people of the same age who are in a similar situation to themselves every day, and the whole atmosphere is depressing, and if there is a family to take care of them, they will be sent to the nursing home.

Not accustomed to group life. The elderly have their own tempers, and it seems that there are more playmates in collective life, but there are also more contradictions, and where there are crowds, there are naturally disputes. Living in a house with others is also inconvenient, although the life is regular, but after all, there is less freedom at home.

There is too little intimacy in the nursing home, the nursing home is too unique, and the nursing home is too free to feel, so the nursing home is too peaceful, too cold and cold, and the elderly don't want to live in the nursing home!

The traditional concept is that the deep-rooted concept of the Chinese is to raise children to prevent old age, and only those who have no children go to nursing homes, and those who have children and daughters go to nursing homes are children who are not filial. Accustomed to the happy life of several generations in the same house, the children inherit the happy life under their knees, and they can't bear to live without their children and grandchildren.

The ordinary life of ordinary people The general reality of ordinary people's two and four ordinary people's ordinary income of ordinary work The common phenomenon of ordinary pension The extraordinary reality of ordinary phenomena The ultimate fact of old-age care is that home care for the elderly is less than 10% Centralized pension is more than 90% The elderly do not want to go to nursing homes Only if the old people themselves have a lot of money or their children have a lot of money can they have the conditions to hire professionals to take care of the elderly at home How many of them can achieve such conditions 10% is very conservative Don't talk about those ozone words It's useless Reality is reality According to the calculation that the parents are 25 years older than the children, the parents are over 70, and the children are also over 45, this is the fact, in terms of the overall situation, the birth population in the 70s and 80s is the last group of pensioners, and it is also the first batch of age groups to enter nursing homes in large numbers!

In fact, it's very simple, nursing homes are expensive, how long the days will be, no one knows, so a little money also wants to save, don't want to spend it, if your country runs a nursing home, don't charge money, you see if anyone enters, just afraid that everyone will enter, your country can't afford to raise, don't want to go.

In a nursing home, there is no cozy feeling of children gathered together. And most people's thinking is still relatively traditional, that is, to raise children to prevent old age, and they hope that their children will provide for themselves when they are old.

It is very inappropriate for people who cannot be trusted to take care of their own food and daily life.

Because the elderly in China prefer to live with their children, they feel more comfortable.

Why are most elderly people reluctant to go to nursing homes?

First of all, the idea of Chinese relocation, Chinese since ancient times this kind of thinking is very serious, unwilling to leave home, homesickness complex is very serious, after getting old, they do not want to leave home, so even if life outside or life in another place will be more exciting, they are not willing to go out, some old people are not even willing to go to their children's homes to take turns to retire, let alone go to nursing homes. The homesickness of the wanderer will be particularly serious when he is old, even if he does not spend his old age at home, he still wants to return to his hometown after death. Therefore, this kind of thinking of relocating to the land determines that the old man is unwilling to go out in his bones.

Secondly, the old people pay more attention to the feeling of home, now the nursing homes are generally in the suburbs, some in the mountains, the old people live there and feel that it is difficult to see their children and grandchildren, it is more difficult to see them at home, either busy with work or no time to go to school, so they feel that they can not see the children when they go to the nursing home, if they are at home, it is more convenient to do anything, the children are willing to come back when they have time, and the other is that the nursing home has no atmosphere and breath of life, everything is simple and unfamiliar things, and they have to be re-familiarized, so they still feel safe when they live at home。

Again, people pay more attention to their "dignity" after getting old, in China many times the elderly who have lost the ability to take care of themselves are the majority of the people in nursing homes, if they go to nursing homes to care for the elderly feel that they are really old, their own can not take care of it, the old people have a kind of disobedience to the old mentality, feel that they can do anything, so for this kind of "care" in the heart or do not accept.

Finally, do not want to let the child carry the name of "unfilial piety", although our country is now very open, but in the hearts of many people, the concept of "raising children to prevent old age" is still very heavy, feel that the old will be at home with future generations, if the child sends the elderly to the nursing home, how much will be felt that the children are "unfilial", therefore, the elderly are more willing to be at home, even if the children do not come back often, the old people are still willing to think and look forward to it.

Seniors who don't want to live in a nursing home have their own reasons. The pension platform has summarized the following four reasons:

1. China is a country with deep traditional concepts, and people's traditional concepts remain unchanged.

The old man just wants to live with his children, in the same house for four generations, and sharing the joy of family is happiness and filial piety; There are also reasons why the elderly are attached to their children and are reluctant to dismantle this home.

Decades of family life have made the old people invest a lot of affection in this home, which can be said to have taken root. Entering a nursing home meant demolishing the house. This is the main reason why the elderly choose home care, and it is also the biggest system defect that the nursing home system cannot make up for at present.

2. The first of the pension institutions is unacceptable.

The number of elderly people is increasing, and elderly care institutions are popular. It is also because there are many elderly people and the burden on families is heavy. Therefore, many people do not refuse nursing homes, but the reason for not going to nursing homes is that they are worried about the problems in nursing homes.

3. There are great concerns about the service quality of nursing homes.

Many people have questions about nursing homes, is the service really qualified? Is the service of a paramedic***? Based on the problem of pension life in the relationship itself, many elderly people choose to be accustomed to home-based pension.

4. Not free, not accustomed to collective life.

The elderly have their own personalities, and collective life seems to have many playmates and contradictions, and of course there are troubles where there are people. Living with others is also inconvenient, and although there are rules of life, the result is that there is little freedom.

With the intensification of aging, many nursing homes have become sought-after, and some still need to queue up, with good medical measures and good food. However, there are still many elderly people who are reluctant to enter nursing homes, so let's take a look at the reasons below.

1. Not free enough. Some elderly people with convenient legs and feet will play cards and watch TV in the chess and card room of the nursing home, but if you want to leave the nursing home to go out for a walk, you have to play ** to the children, obtain the consent of the children, and ask for leave from the nursing home to go out, because to ensure the safety of the elderly. Some elderly people who like to run will feel very unfree.

2. Food problems. Some elderly people have picky tastes, although the food in the nursing home is good, but it is generally not a small pot dish, and they will not be dissatisfied because they specialize in making dishes.

3. Mood problems. Some of the children of the elderly in the nursing home often come to visit, and some of them have not been visited for several months, they will have comparisons in their hearts, they miss their relatives very much, and there will be emotional problems.

4. Take care of the problem. Some aunts' care is very meticulous, and there are no complaints, but people are different from person to person, and it is more troublesome to take care of the elderly after all, especially the bedridden elderly, so some attitudes are also very general, after all, they are not their own parents, they are strangers.

5. The pension institutions are high. With the increase of the elderly, pension institutions have become a hot seller, and it is precisely because there are many elderly people and the family burden is heavier that the problem of pension will arise. Therefore, most people do not reject nursing homes, but the reason why they choose not to go to nursing homes is to worry about the problems in nursing institutions.

Finally, the traditional concept of the Chinese is at work, believing that the elderly can only be happy if they live with their children, live together for four generations, and share the joy of family.

The reason why many Chinese elderly people are generally reluctant to live in nursing homes, on the one hand, is influenced by traditional concepts, especially the concept of raising children to prevent old age, on the other hand, they think that living in nursing homes is relatively restrictive, and some elderly people think that the cost of living in nursing homes is relatively large, and their pensions are relatively small, which has caused them to be reluctant to live in nursing homes An important factor, in fact, for those who have stable incomes and relatively high incomes, the choice conditions are better. Nursing homes with complete medical and service facilities in all aspects are actually not a kind of enjoyment? The most important thing is to adjust with the mood of the elderly themselves, whether it is to choose home care, or choose to live in a nursing home for the elderly, on the one hand, we should take into account the overall mood and inner feelings of the elderly, on the other hand, we should also take into account their own economic conditions, the actual experience of their children and other factors to measure, of course, for many elderly people, accumulate more material wealth when they are relatively young, so that when they are old, they will not be too passive, And it will also reduce the burden on children to a certain extent. As the children of the elderly, no matter what, we must know how to respect the wishes of the elderly, and at the same time care more about the elderly, not only from the material aspect, but also from the emotional aspect, whether the elderly choose to live in a nursing home or home care.

Living in a nursing home is equivalent to leaving the familiar growth environment for many years and lacking a sense of control over life.

There is a saying in China that leaves fall back to their roots, and many older people hope to live in their familiar environment in their later years, have old friends, have memories of their youth, and live in the home for many years is their roots when they are old. In the dead of night, I always want to find a tranquility, find a space to be alone, and then let my thoughts drift with the wind, and escape for a while in the tranquility of cranky thoughts. When the soul can't bear the load of life, it can only send a signal to the sky that it is tired, too tired, and this feeling of tiredness is not something that ordinary people can imagine.

Every day I want to find peace in my soul, however, it is really difficult.

There is nothing in the world, and mediocrity disturbs itself. Maybe I'm just a philistine. Why look for tranquility in anything?

In fact, I want to hope for peace, in this extraordinary and bad day this year. I reflected and reflected. Most of the time I don't understand what I'm doing.

Kind of life. Kind of always tugging at people's minds on certain days. When it comes to the tranquility of seeking, everyone expects to have this moment.

For me, it may feel a little heavier in moments of solitude, but it's not absolute. Sometimes, although people are in a noisy and noisy environment, but the heart has already flown to the realm of not knowing what kind of, I often smile on my face, and I have seen through all the complicated things in my inner constancy. People sometimes pretend to be a master of the world, but in fact, it is not the case, and the appearance of all this is also due to countless times of crawling, and then the end of reflection.

There is no real excitement of benefits, no real heartfelt reverence for life and nature, no gratitude and appreciation for life and the world, no kind and transparent understanding, no kind and susceptible heart, no final awakening, and no natural tranquility and detachment. In many cases, the motivation to seek tranquility is far greater than the force caused by all external things, and it may also be a process of excellence in the pursuit of tranquility for each individual.

Who does the nursing home serve? Is it the elderly, or is it the children?

If it is an old man, there are two types.

One situation is that the elderly are healthy, can take care of themselves in daily life, and have a clear mind, but in this case, why should they live in a nursing home, and is it not good to live at home?

The other situation is that the elderly are unhealthy and have poor self-care ability in daily life.

The essence of the pension problem is a Russell paradox.

Its core lies in the fact that people who need pension services do not have the ability to defend their own interests; If she has the ability to defend her interests, she will not need to be old-age care.

Pension is such a scenario.

When an elderly person intends to enter a nursing home and reaches an agreement with the nursing home that "I give money, you take care of me", it means that he has lost or is about to lose the ability to take care of himself, including the ability to "claim rights for himself and punish violators".

How can an elderly person who needs help with dressing and eating by herself if she is abused by a nursing home? How to go about making noise? How do you assert your contractual interests?

If he is so capable, isn't it good for him to live on his own, be self-sufficient, and enjoy himself, why should he go to a nursing home?

Even if you don't talk about abuse and deliberate neglect, you just don't take care of it well, don't care so much, don't respect it enough, and it's enough for the elderly. There is no point in talking about contracts on this issue, what can you do if you break the contract?

What can we talk about?

Feelings, conscience.

Who will willingly take care of you and be good to you when you are powerless to counteract?

Someone with whom you have feelings.

That's why when it comes to pension, many people still naturally think of their children.

What could be more reliable than the affection between parents and children?

The relationship between the partners is also reliable, and the young couples are always together. But the problem is that the partner will be old by then, and it will not be easy to say who will take care of whom, so it is better to return to the children.

When you can't claim your rights, your children can claim them for you, and then the costs of default are built up again. At this time, the elderly go to the nursing home, which is really guaranteed by the contract.

Unless you have a more intimate relationship with a nursing home or someone else than your children, a nursing home cannot replace your children.

Of course, some people don't have a good relationship with their children, and their children don't want to take care of them, and even their children abuse the elderly, so it's a pity that you fall into a situation where you can be slaughtered by others.

When many people come to that point, they are unreliable, endure illness and humiliation, and suffer the sun and the moon. Maybe you haven't done anything wrong, but you can't escape the natural law of birth, old age, sickness and death, but this is the limitation of human beings as animals, and physiological aging and disease are such cruel things.

So in the end, people can rely on themselves the most. It is better to rely on no one than on yourself, and we must do three things in advance:

The first is health, always health.

The second is to prepare pension money.

The third is affection, and it is necessary to gradually establish some reliable intimate relationships when you are young.

Hope we all have a happy old age!