I am not a weakling, how can I overcome my emotions

Look at everything openly, work hard to do it, admit the reality if you can't do it, and don't force it. A person's life is nothing more than doing three things, one is what he is willing to do, the second is what he is unwilling to do, and the third is what he must do. When what you have to do is what you don't want to do, it's a pain in life, but what you have to do is what you're willing to do, and it's a joy in life.

Everyone is working hard to make their lives happy. In fact, happiness is a kind of perspective, from this side it is pain, and the other side may be happiness. When you have nothing, your happiness is that you still have a healthy body; When you don't enjoy a healthy body, you are happy because you still have a healthy heart; When your heart doesn't exist, your happiness is that you've lived.

I once read an article that said, "There is a proverb in the West that is said to come from ancient China," but I have never heard of it in China. "If you want a few hours of happiness, go for a drink; If you want three years of happiness, go for marriage; If you want a lifetime of happiness, go to the gardener.

Their explanation for the gardener's lifelong happiness is: doing useful things, being in harmony with nature, exercising the body and having new joy every day. I read a study on "happiness" by a university in the United States, and they defined happiness as:

The degree to which it is subjectively perceived as appropriate. Specifically, it is: a positive state of feeling meaningful, satisfied, and fit for one's life.

In the end, they came to the conclusion: "A happy person is a challenging person who has high goals while not forgetting his talents and potential; A person who is proud of his achievements and social recognition; A person who has self-esteem, self-love, freedom and self-confidence; A person who is helpful and accepts help; A person who knows that he can handle pain and frustration; A person who can feel joy in the small things of daily life; Writing this, I really feel like I'm very close to a happy person." Happiness is a day and unhappiness is also a day, so we have to live each day happily.

Every day, you have to say to yourself: "I am so happy, just like the hieroglyphic word "music", a person with both hands dancing on his musical instrument. "Everybody decides whether they're happy or not.

Remember that happiness is not a thing, but a mood. As long as you do what you want to do, what you like to do, and what you are good at, you can be happy. But warn yourself:

Then other people's happy life to do the model to practice, is to ** yourself. Having said all this, happiness in general is: knowing yourself, affirming yourself, and practicing yourself.

If you find these difficult to understand, then remember the 8 words "need very little, satisfy very easy".

Have you ever thought about something that scares or scares you? What can we do afterwards when it may be pain, danger, embarrassment, rejection, loneliness, control, disgust, knowing that we are afraid?

1.Take the courage to be your truest self.

Comparing ourselves with others is one of the most common behaviors we do, and it's okay to compare, but it's just that we don't want to accept the way we are. You may try too hard to achieve your ideal self, and end up in a vicious cycle of self-doubt and anxiety. So we have to look inward, to know and accept who we are, and then to have our whole self, which is the only way to grow and become our true self, and your true self is not your most perfect side, but every side of you.

2 .To show vulnerability is to show bravery.

When we are bold enough to show ourselves, we become super vulnerable, and in most cases, the deepest fears in our hearts will be confronted that we are not good enough, negative comments, opposing opinions. But what we didn't expect was that you would have succeeded in taking the first step, because there are many people who also want to have the courage to show themselves, but they just can't do it, and once you show your true self, the brave soul will definitely be seen. When you make yourself visible, you will be seen.

3.Choose to get up and act instead of striving for perfection.

Seizing opportunities can lead to failure, rejection, and emotional pain, but when you know where you want to go and are determined to reach the finish line, there's nothing more important. Failure is not that you did something wrong, but that you didn't take action at all. Accomplished people seldom sit back and wait for things to happen by chance.

They go out there and let things happen.

4.Learn to say what you want and what you deserve.

Our lives are short, but we always have a greater fear of change than the fear of spending our lives waiting, you need to learn to fight for what you want, need and deserve, because when you have the courage to say what you want, you can really get it.

If you are often afraid and weak in your heart, you must always remind yourself to be a strong person, don't be afraid, in fact, there are many people who are inferior to yourself, and you must give yourself enough self-confidence.

I think the best thing to do is to encourage yourself and be confident, so that you can overcome your fears.

We should face our inner fears and weaknesses, and we should not run away from them and make ourselves stronger.

We will always meet such people in our lives, and when they encounter things, they will always be angry indiscriminately, and such people will give people a feeling of lack of quality and education. At the same time, such a person will not control his emotions in this way, and will have a great impact on his work and life.

First, learn to accept your bad moods.

If we find ourselves in life that we are also a person who cannot control our emotions, then first we must learn to accept ourselves and accept our bad emotions. We should not feel that accepting ourselves is choosing weakness, in fact, only when we accept ourselves will we be better able to change ourselves. Accepting yourself from the bottom of your heart is the beginning of changing yourself.

Second, learn to change your bad mood.

If we want to learn to control our emotions, after accepting ourselves, we need to pay attention to our emotions everywhere in our lives. We can set ourselves a small goal, which can be broken down to a month, or every day. If we control our emotions during the day, we give ourselves a reward, which will be a motivation for ourselves.

Again, slowly learn to control your emotions.

Only those who can control their emotions can control their lives. So when we realize that we are in a bad mood, we have to learn to change and control it slowly. In this way, we will slowly change our emotions, and we will find that we have more and more friends around us, and our life and work will become smoother and more exciting.

Emotions can be controlled, so many people say that they were born with such a hot temper, just to give themselves an excuse not to change themselves. Therefore, each of us must learn to control our emotions, and only when we can control our emotions can we see our own excellence and strength. Don't let your emotional control affect your work and life.

Be patient in everything, learn to listen and think carefully, learn to empathize with problems, and maintain a good attitude.

I think this has a lot to do with your personality and temper, and it is also closely related to the influence of your family of origin, and it is very difficult to change, you need to constantly suppress yourself, try to pause for 10 seconds before losing your temper, and let yourself calm down.

Then you have to be good at controlling your emotions, and you also need to know how to divert your attention.

Be the master of your own emotions. Don't be easily provoked by whether your heart is strong enough to oppose the other person's words. Cultivating oneself to become a strong person, not being swayed by others, and facing things calmly is the basic cultivation.

Whatever comes your way, take it calmly and consider the consequences of doing it. You can't get angry easily.

That is to overcome the negativity. In daily life, make full use of effective working hours and complete work with quality and quantity, so as to avoid overtime. If you receive an urgent task temporarily, you will inevitably rely on overtime to complete it at this time, it can be regarded as a test of yourself by the leader, and if you have completed the work excellently, this may be an opportunity for you to be promoted.

There are two sides to everything, and we must look at the problem dialectically, not just see the negative side.

In the face of work, make a work plan for the week before the start of each week, and then decompose and list the daily plan according to the weekly plan, and then carry out the work in an orderly manner according to the plan; At the same time, set a measurable goal for each job, and clarify the level of excellence and passing; For the work that you can't do, you should confirm with your leader or colleagues as soon as possible and seek solutions, don't be depressed, have no feedback, and finally let yourself fall into a low emotional trough.

If you want reason to overcome emotions, you must learn to manage your emotions, calm down as much as possible when you encounter problems, think about the development of things, treat things with reason, use IQ to solve problems, accumulate more life experience, learn more theoretical knowledge, and make yourself more calm!

How can reason prevail over emotions? I think we need to do the following:

1. Control your emotions. Because only when your emotions are under control can you have the mind to think about other things.

2. Properly release your own pressure. We often encounter all kinds of difficulties in life, so we must learn to release our stress appropriately, and our emotions will be relieved.

3. When we think about the problem, we must calm down, so that we will be more satisfied with the results we want to achieve.

It's all up to your own willpower, and if you want reason to overcome your emotions, I think you can read more books, and after a period of "mind cultivation", you can improve your realm. In this way, when your realm is high enough, the whole person will not be easily swayed by emotions. In this way, reason will prevail at all times.

In fact, relatively speaking, you should really overcome your emotions, only in this way can you make yourself able to do better things that are not troubled by emotions, and there will not be too many troubles, and we should know how to control our words and deeds, so that we can make ourselves more mature.

If you want your lychee to overcome your emotions, of course, you have to learn how to control your emotions, this is not done in a day, you have to remind you from time to time to stay sober, treat everything twice, don't let your emotions control your thoughts, in fact, when you develop the habit of thinking twice, your reason will naturally overcome your emotions.

I think when there are some negative emotions, don't completely use reason to occupy, appropriate relaxation and venting, is also a good choice, people are like a balloon, to know how to vent, in order to better inflate, when calm down and then use rationality to think and accumulate experience, next time you can overcome emotions!

If you want reason to overcome emotions, I think at this time you have to be tepid in everything, because everyone may encounter some painful and unfortunate things, so we must calmly face all the difficulties and setbacks encountered in life, when we encounter some unhappy things, we must learn to vent our emotions, do not let emotions occupy our minds.

Don't do anything when emotions come up, even if you close your eyes and rest for a few minutes, when dealing with this matter, doing things with emotions will only make things worse and worse, so calm down, think about happy things, think about what to eat at night, smoke a cigarette, drink a glass of water, your mood is better, and reason naturally prevails.

If you want reason to overcome emotions, you must find a way to control your emotions, close your eyes and rest for a few minutes, let your mood slowly calm down, and then carefully analyze this matter to see if there is a good solution, only in this way can you slowly overcome your emotions.

In fact, I think that reason should indeed know how to overcome these emotions, so that it is possible to do some things well, for example, when your emotions come up, you should know how to suppress them, or take a deep breath to adjust your emotions, I think it can be much better.

When I am in a bad mood, I will always find a way to restrain my emotions, let my reason overcome my emotions, even if I am in difficulty, but also to make myself stronger, you must know that bad emotions are not helpful to yourself, you can only find a way to overcome the difficulties you are facing now, put a better mentality, in order to solve the problem.