I feel that I always have a different concept from my father, how can I communicate with him?

Indeed, even the closest family members, living together under the same roof and growing up in different eras, have ideas that will collide. My concept and my dad are the whole opposite, combined with me for so many years"Struggle experience".I think communication is still very necessary and very skillful.

First of all, you should have a calm mindset, and drilling into the horns of the bull will not help solve the problem at all, but may push yourself to the extreme. For example, the cognition of the parents is to attack education, thinking that in addition to the path they have chosen, no matter how old their children are, no matter what they want to do, they must pour cold water. In fact, this kind of behavior seems to be what it is nowpuaWell, but when I was a child, this type of education was particularly popular.

At one point, I was very depressed and even self-doubting, but then I left home and experienced a lot, and I often communicated with teachers and friendsI realized that the most important thing should be my own thoughts, and learning to block out the interference from my parents is also a kind of practice.

As the saying goes"As long as the mind does not slip, there are always more ways than difficulties. ”On the issue of marriage and love, the parents are also very traditional, and it is actually the most uncomfortable when the old and the new collide. It is believed that the vast majority of parents hope that their children will marry and have children early, and every day it is a fixed pattern of various urgings.

They even think that it is more important for girls to have a husband and children than to have a successful careerEvery time I hear such a point of view, I want to break off the relationship, but fortunately, the reason is still there. I used to think that my father was not such a person, but I didn't expect him to be immune.

From a psychological point of view, the main mode of communication between me and my father at this stage is thisSeek common ground while reserving differencesTry to find some psychological consensus. And thenAvoid head-on conflicts, find contradictory points from his train of thought and persuade him, and then make him change part of his thinking, "Defeat magic with magic".So far, the test has paid off. It's just that this way it doesImperceptiblyCommunication should be done slowly, otherwise it will be counterproductive, and it is better not to communicate.

I suggest you can check it outThe Art of War and PsychologyAfter all, communicating with your parents is to fight oneFight wits and courage, if you don't speculate, you have to shut up quickly, otherwise the war within the family will be "on the verge of breaking out", don't ask me how I know.

Fortunately, it is Father's Day, and if you have a lot of trouble with your father, you can simply take this opportunity to invite your old father to have a meal and have a good talk. This atmosphere is there, the children talk to themselves, they can't lift the table and leave, right? Therefore, communication is also about the right timing.

All in all, it's really hard to get right.

When communicating with your father, consider the following:

1.Respect your father's opinion: Even if you have a different opinion, respect your father's opinion, don't easily question his decision or express dissatisfaction, and try to be calm.

2.Listen patiently: Listen to your father's views and opinions first, and understand his views and ideas, so that you can better understand his position and ideas, and can also lay the foundation for subsequent exchanges and communication.

3.Gentle expression: When expressing your opinions, you should express them gently, avoid intense emotional expressions, and try to support your opinions with objective language and facts.

4.Provide solutions: If your views are different from those of your father, try to come up with solutions that will make him feel that your ideas are constructive and that you are considering a solution to the problem.

5.Appropriate concessions: If you have some differences of opinion with your father, you can also make appropriate concessions, make compromises according to the specific situation, and find a mutually acceptable solution.

In conclusion, communicating with a father requires respect and listening, trying to be calm and objective, providing constructive solutions, and making appropriate compromises.

Be patient, you have to remember that he is sheltering you from the wind and rain all the time, think more from his point of view, and many problems will be solved.

No communication or less communication. We often worry about not being able to find lovers or friends who match the three views, but in fact, even if it is a family, it is possible that the three views are different, so there is no need to be entangled.

It's normal that your own concept is different from that of your father, and don't insist on changing his concept and keeping yourself the best!

If communication is poor, try not to try to communicate again, this is very undesirable!

I have lived with my father for more than 20 years, and now I feel more and more sleepy. Fathers and sons can never sit together, and their own concepts of Wang Xuhao are different. The antagonistic relationship formed is often very awkward, but there is no way to do it.

1: My father pays attention to career stability, and I want social practice.

My father once arranged a lot of things for me to do, hoping that my career would be stable. In fact, I have done some of these things, but they are often incompatible with my development path. What I need is social practice, and I have accumulated experience and knowledge in many jobs, and I have quarreled with him a lot for this.

2: In the eyes of the father, the son will never be qualified.

I don't know what other people are like, anyway, no matter how good I do in my dad's mind, I'm still not qualified. In his heart, he has to follow his ideological planning route, he goes east, as a son, he wants to go west, it is absolutely impossible, otherwise it is unqualified.

3: The strict father's educational philosophy is completely different from that of his son.

In the 60s and 70s, one of the characteristics of people paid attention to filial piety under the stick. My philosophy is completely different from that of my father, and the constant beating and scolding will only encourage their negative and rebellious mentality, because this leads me to quarrel with my father a lot.

Communicate with them with understanding, try to put yourself in their shoes, and then express your thoughts in their minds.

Parents can listen to their ideas first, and then find out the difference between each other's concepts, and conduct an effective analysis of this difference, of course, it is best to use examples to illustrate the situation, and parents can better accept it!

First of all, in a calm atmosphere, so that each other can be more accepting of each other's opinions, at this time communicate with them your ideas, list the advantages and disadvantages of your ideas, and list theirs, and listen to whoever has more advantages.

If the child takes the initiative to communicate, I think it will be difficult to communicate. Because I've been through both cases, both of which happened to my dad.

For a while, my dad's mood was very low, but everyone knows that men are the kind of people who don't tell their families about things, especially their children, especially as a father, they all hope that their children can grow up happily.

At that time, I was very worried about my dad, so I asked him intentionally or unintentionally, and talked to him, but if he didn't want to, no matter what he said, he wouldn't tell you. At that time, I felt that I really didn't know how to communicate with my father.

Usually when I am fine, my father takes the initiative to communicate with me a lot, many times he takes the initiative and I am passive, and he leads the topic a lot. I think it's because he usually cares about me and understands me, but I don't know much about him.

Father's love is originally silent, deep, and not good at words, if you don't know how to communicate, just get to know him more, understand his preferences, and do more things he likes.

Fathers are not necessarily low in emotional intelligence, but they do not grasp the psychology of their children, do not know how to communicate with their children, often ignore their children's feelings, and do not know what kind of communication their children need.

Children's need for a sense of security is very great, for them, there is no one closer than their parents, if their parents are cold to themselves, there is always a feeling of abandonment.

And this sense of abandonment will make the child feel afraid and feel that he is not accepted, so he should also take care of the child's emotions and catch them well, so that the child can feel that his parents can accept and tolerate everything about him, so that he can feel strong love, and the father should also pay attention to taking care of the child's emotions.

When I was a child, I would feel this way, but when I grew up and understood my father, I didn't feel this way anymore.

When I was a child, my father was strict, silent, and steady, and the words he said were always true, and the whole family would obey every word he said. Therefore, in my young heart, I was full of awe of my father, but I was afraid in my heart.

At this time, I didn't dare to approach my father, let alone communicate with my father. I remember saying to my dad the most at that time was: "Dad, where is my mom?" ”

When I grew up, I really saw my father's love for me. Every time I leave the house, my mother keeps telling me, although my father doesn't have any words, but the eyes that come to me and the pat on the shoulder can feel the endless advice and reluctance. When I turned around after going out, I could vaguely see the thick figure behind the window.

A father's love is deep, hidden, and can only be felt if you experience it carefully. Every time I go home, I take the initiative to chat with my father, talk about my situation, tell me what happened, although my father does not talk much, but he listens very carefully, and every response makes me think. In fact, he was slowly passing on his own experience to me.

A father's love is not as conspicuous as a mother's, but it is also a deep love. To be able to experience the deep love of my father, how can there be an obstacle to communication?

No, I will tell my dad about everything, and my dad is also very good at helping me, they are all men, and they can talk together.

No, my dad is an open-minded dad who communicates well with us.

Yes, Dad always hides his emotions and only says that he is good, never what he needs.

Definitely, because my father always had few words, but he always cared for himself with his actions.

Sometimes, my dad is the type who doesn't talk much, so sometimes he doesn't know where to start.

I don't know how to communicate with my dad, because sometimes my dad plays a mountain-like role, and they are usually more serious.

Yes, the more I grew up and the more I had nothing to say to my father, but I knew that my father was just expressing his silent love in another way.

Many times I feel that the image of my father is very strict, and I don't know how to start a conversation with him.

My dad was a talker, and I basically couldn't interject.

It's so embarrassing to be with my dad that I don't know where to start.

No, I think it's good to communicate with my dad on a regular basis.

The world of the Father is the world of thought, consciousness, law, and order. And try to develop a brave and responsible side as much as possible. When your father appreciates you, you will naturally be qualified to enter his inner world, and the relationship will naturally become closer.

Father, the birthplace of love, brings the distance of separation to this world, or high up, or possessed as an ox, all of them rotate with the surging of all things, and only by chance collision can we see his side.

If it is not broken, how can there be the barrier of the topic, try to walk into the father, it is to yearn for memories, which needs to span the reincarnation of the years, ignite the vastness of the universe, and engrave the totem in the real and dreamy.

Father is an unmarked symbol, passed down from generation to generation for a surname, resounding through the streets of childhood, and sliding into the inert starry sky of life in the blink of an eye.

This is my father's life, busy with his childhood, and hurriedly written on the family tree.