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Yes, such an approach is too hypocritical, the daughter-in-law should thank her mother-in-law for helping her take care of the children, people are old, and various behavioral habits are different from young people, and they should be understood.

Of course, it is very hypocritical, because it is not easy for the elderly to take care of the children, and I think it is very excessive to find fault with the elderly.

This approach is indeed too hypocritical, the mother-in-law has helped her daughter-in-law share so much pressure, but the daughter-in-law is still not satisfied.

This is not normal! In modern society, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a topic of great concern. Some young people may face such problems when they are in a relationship:

The boyfriend asks his girlfriend to please his mother, in order to establish a harmonious relationship between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. To a certain extent, this phenomenon reflects the influence of traditional family values, but it also raises reflections on individual freedom and family relationships.

First, we need to recognize that everyone has their own values and lifestyle. When dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you should respect each other's differences, rather than forcing each other to act completely according to their own wishes. The boyfriend asks his girlfriend to please his mom, probably out of the expectation of family harmony, but this does not mean that the girlfriend has to fully cater to the other person's requirements.

Secondly, we need to pay attention to the fact that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not static. As times change, so do family structures and values. In this process, both sides should strive to adapt to the new environment, seek common ground, and resolve conflicts.

It is a sign of filial piety for a boyfriend to go home to accompany his mother, but this does not mean that a female friend needs to sacrifice her own interests to meet the other person's expectations.

Finally, we need to advocate politically objective journalism that focuses on the causes and effects behind social phenomena. For the phenomenon of a boyfriend asking his girlfriend to please his mother, we can analyze it from multiple perspectives, such as family education, social atmosphere, etc. At the same time, we should also pay attention to the psychological needs behind this phenomenon, such as a sense of security and belonging.

In short, dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law requires both parties to work together, respect each other's differences, and seek common ground. The phenomenon of a boyfriend asking his girlfriend to please his mother reflects the influence of traditional family concepts to a certain extent, but we should look at this issue with an objective attitude, pay attention to the reasons and influences behind it, and provide useful thinking for building a harmonious family relationship.

Many mothers want their mothers-in-law to be young and clean and hygienic with their children. I am also very envious of mothers who have such mothers-in-law. Because I haven't met it, my mother-in-law is very unhygienic and doesn't like to be clean. Let's spit it out with everyone:

My mother-in-law is in her 50s, compared with the mother-in-law around her, not too young and not too old, it stands to reason that the 50s are not to the extent that they don't love to be clean, but my mother-in-law is like this, especially not hygienic, after my baby is weaned, he began to drink milk powder, and the bottle is often not cleaned and poured water directly into it for the child to drink, I have seen this practice several times, I know that it is not easy for the elderly to help watch the child, so every time I see it, I will euphemistically say to my mother-in-law, Try to rinse the bottle in pouring water so that it is more hygienic, my mother-in-law not only listened to the sedan chair, but also said: Isn't there still some milk at the bottom of the bottle, just pour some water for the child to drink, how good, so it is not wasted. To be honest, I don't know how, I know that the older generation is more economical, but I really don't agree with that.

Another time was in the summer, I just came back from work, I saw my son holding a bottle in his hand drinking water, I walked over, saw the child's bottle inside the straw black and spotted, I took it directly from the child's hand, carefully looked at it was all mildew, my anger "bang" exploded, you don't know, how angry was at that time? Summer is hot, easy to breed bacteria, the bottle is more often boiled with boiling water, sterilized, if there is no time to cook, you use boiling water to scald, I am also acceptable, I don't think the child has to be pampered, as long as not sick almost OK, I said: Mom, this bottle is not washed?

My mother-in-law said, "I've washed it." I said:

Why are there so many dark spots in the straw after washing? The mother-in-law said, "Oh, I didn't pay attention.

Just this sentence,...I was truly speechless.

Many people are like this, and the more they feel that they can't count on it, they have to rely on that child in the end. I think my mother-in-law just thinks that her daughter-in-law is easy to handle, so she will do this, I don't think there is any need to deal with her, let my husband deal with it.

I think my mother-in-law's approach is particularly incorrect, you can't snub anyone in your life, and you should do your best to help the children, and you shouldn't wait until you have something to do before you go to someone.

The mother-in-law ignored the little daughter-in-law and went to bring the baby to the eldest son, and the father-in-law was sick, but she came to find the little daughter-in-law, which was obviously a differential treatment. Find your younger daughter-in-law when you have something, and help your eldest son when you're fine, you may think you're a bully.

Personally, I think that my mother-in-law's behavior is too much, both of them are her daughters-in-law, they should be treated fairly, and everyone is equal, she is too much to do this, and it is also chilling.

Personally, I think that the daughter-in-law who is self-employed is too hypocritical to do this, because even if her in-laws are rural, she should not dislike her in-laws, not to mention that her husband is also rural, she did not choose to dislike her husband, and she also married her husband.

Such a daughter-in-law is indeed too hypocritical, and she is very unfilial, and I think this practice will also be criticized.

It's really too hypocritical, because the in-laws are their elders after all, and it's very disrespectful to have a quiet banquet like this.

I don't think the words can be whispered too absolutely, good scum is like the socks with the sentence "without others suffering, don't persuade others to be kind", about the maintenance of parents, husband and wife should do a good job of communication, can not hide from each other, should understand each other, be considerate of each other, and finally reach a consensus.

Mother-in-law, I know that you don't want to take your granddaughter, and think that the child will be a burden to you, but you must know that you will get older and older, and you will not feel lonely if you have a child to talk to you, and if you don't help bring it, then I won't be able to go to work, and your son will go to work alone to support the whole family, isn't he more tired, and everyone is more happy with my burden.

If you don't help me take care of my daughter now, will you need me to take care of you when you are sick and hospitalized in the future? The feelings are mutual, you treat me badly now, do you think I will be good to you in the future? Besides, your granddaughter is also your granddaughter, and she is also your son's child, and you are helping to take your granddaughter to help you reduce your son's burden, if I don't go to work, the financial burden of the family will fall on your son, do you want to see your son more bitter and tired?

She said that if her mother-in-law did not help take care of the children, there would only be one person in the family who could earn money outside the home, and she would not be able to support the family at all.

She said, you don't have to help bring it, then we will choose to hire someone, and the person who is invited will definitely not be as good as your own family, and this expense will only increase the pressure on your son. And when the child grows up, the relationship with you will be estranged.

She said that only grandma with granddaughter we can rest assured, after all, granddaughter is also grandma's little padded jacket, I believe that others with mother-in-law will not rest assured.

As a daughter-in-law, filial piety to in-laws is due, but we must also have our own opinions, can not let anyone lead us by the nose, you respect me a point, I respect you very much, if you treat me badly, then I will also return the bad to you.

It's true, because my mother-in-law hurt others too much by doing this, and she didn't respect herself, so she suffered too much grievance, so she still shouldn't bear it.

I think this is a very normal thing, because everyone's emotions are mutual, and if the mother-in-law treats the daughter-in-law badly, the daughter-in-law will not be filial.

I think that's true, because saying such things often hurts my daughter-in-law's heart.

often counts the bad things about her daughter-in-law, says that she has made mistakes, and often complains to her son. He always doesn't pay attention to his daughter-in-law's own ideas.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been an inevitable problem in marriage, after all, under the same roof, looking down and not looking up, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are prone to friction. And they don't have any blood relationship in the first place, they only intersect because they love the same man. It's a pity that instead of getting closer because of this love, they have resentment.

Narrator: Wang Xiao.

My husband and I work in the same factory, and we come together after coming and going. Because the pressure of life is too great and there are not enough financial conditions, I think about having children later. But she couldn't stand the urging of her family, and gave birth to a boy in the second year of marriage.

After the confinement, I thought about going out to work and leaving the child with my mother-in-law. But what I didn't expect was that my mother-in-law refused. I thought my mother-in-law wanted to live a quiet life by herself, so I didn't care, after all, people are not obligated to help me take care of the children.

So, the idea of going to work to make money had to run aground, and I had to stay home with the children. But a few days later, I heard that my mother-in-law was helping my sister-in-law take care of the child, and I was quite dissatisfied with my mother-in-law's partiality, so I complained a few words to others, but I didn't expect it to reach my mother-in-law's ears. As a result, my mother-in-law accused me of being stingy in front of me at the dinner table, my sister-in-law also complied with my mother-in-law, and my husband also showed a disapproving expression.

Their family's attitude completely hurt me, and I ended up separated from my in-laws.

One day my mother-in-law had nothing to do, insinuating that I would not go to work and rely on her son to support me. I was angry: "I also want to go out to work, but who will take the child?"

If you feel sorry for your son, let him come back and take the child, and I will go to work. Hearing my words, my mother-in-law was stupid, and she never looked for me again.

After their children get married, parents must learn to let go and not get involved in the affairs of the young couple. Since the son didn't say anything about the daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law should not point fingers, so as not to cause unnecessary contradictions. It's okay for you to be partial to your daughter, but you also have to work hard to make a bowl of water even, otherwise it is very likely that there will be no one to support you.

Don't think I'm alarmist, there are many such examples.

Because the daughter-in-law said this sentence hit the key point of the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law couldn't distinguish it after hearing it, and felt very ashamed.

Because the daughter-in-law said:"I also want to go to work, but I don't have anyone to take the kids, and you don't help. If you feel sorry for your son, then let him go home and take the child, and I will earn money to support the family. “

The daughter-in-law said to her mother-in-law, "I raise my son by myself, and I earn the money by myself, why do you say me?" "In the face of the mother-in-law's unreasonable difficulties, the daughter-in-law should not bear it.