I have low self esteem in my hometown, I come from a small city, what should I do if I have low self

Updated on psychology 2024-06-04
11 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Go your own way and let others say that you actually have low self-esteem, or you can communicate with your family and tell them not to hit you. Say something encouraging, because it will have a big impact on you, and I think they will understand.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    You're '86.

    Still young. If you don't want to be at home, you can go outside.

    But be prepared to endure hardships.

    It's really not easy to get outside alone.

    But as long as you try.

    Good work.

    Will use the interest.

    In fact, every parent loves their children.

    Some may not be very well expressed.

    You have to think more about them, too.

    Also, read more books.

    It will be of great help to your work, personality, and behavior.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Since it's their fault, don't you refute it? Be a submissive child?!

    Sometimes you have to argue with reason, you don't have to be afraid of them, you have the courage to say what you think, let them know that you are an assertive and idealistic person, not a little kid who has no interest in their eyes.

    People in your hometown are generally the same people, as long as you do a good job, they will not ridicule you if they know it.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    There is no need to feel inferior, no one will deliberately belittle you or look down on you because you are from a small place, it is more your own lack of self-confidence, and your own self-deprecation of yourself.

    Does a person's origin matter? Yes, it is very important, but it does not play an absolute role, the acquired effort is still very important, the acquired is more important than the congenital, what is needed is to grasp the present, make yourself excellent, and make up for this innate deficiency.

    The reason why you have low self-esteem is nothing more than that you are from a small city, and you feel inferior compared to the people you come into contact with, so you will have a feeling of inferiority. This means that most of the people around you or the people you come into contact with are from big cities, and they may have disagreed with your origins, but this should not be a reason for your low self-esteem, and you have the opportunity to change this perception.

    There are still a lot of people from small cities, why don't others feel inferior, just do you feel inferior? So it's a matter of mentality, you have to adjust your mentality, mentality is very important, don't deliberately emphasize the fact that you are from a small city to be optimistic, to be cheerful, and at the same time to be more confident. Accept the fact that you come from a small city, you still have to have a positive attitude towards yourself, and small cities also have the benefits of small cities, and they also have different scenery.

    Always tell yourself that there is nothing inferior to this and give yourself confidence and motivation.

    The best way to get rid of low self-esteem is to make yourself better. Through personal continuous efforts and struggles, we will strive to make ourselves more powerful. There are many criteria for judging excellence, such as academic performance, work performance, and so on.

    What you have to do is to make yourself good enough to let others change their opinions, it turns out that people in small cities can also do so well, so that you have achieved your goal, and the people around you will respect you more, so what is there to be inferior.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    watched the second child in the TV series "Ordinary World" because of his dream, so he went to the city. At that time, he took some things, and when he went to the big city, he seemed out of place with the people around him. And when the people in the city next to him saw him, they would show that kind of mocking expression.

    It's true that we don't have as much money as you, we don't look as good, and we don't have the kind of luxurious house you live in, but we are all the same except for that. When we died, we couldn't take anything with us, and besides, I probably didn't save the galaxy in my last life, so I became such a ghost in this life. Don't feel that you are particularly inferior, we are no less than others, if you even look down on yourself, then there is really no one who can look down on you.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Feeling inferior because I come from a small city is especially unnecessary, because it is not our fault, and of course it is not the fault of our parents, no one is wrong. What's more, it doesn't matter where you come from, it doesn't affect anything, you feel that inferiority is your own perception and feeling, and you feel inferior because of your place of birth, which means that your thoughts and the angle from which you look at things, your attitude is incorrect. You don't care if you shouldn't.

    Do you think that if you surpass others in other ways and things that you can change, will you still feel inferior? For example, your studies, but also your knowledge. If your grades are good, your knowledge is wide, and your mentality is very good, you have been praised and liked by many teachers.

    At this time, there will be a lot of friends around you, and there will be a lot of people around you, at this time, will there be such a thing as inferiority?

    You can change not only your knowledge, but also your own characteristics and the temperament you exude. As well as your vision and the way you look at things, the aspects you consider, and so on. In this regard, in fact, people are like this, who can be born with a special temperament, and do a particularly good job in all aspects, they all slowly become like this, just because the people and things around them are different, and they all know that the environment will change people.

    And that's only part of the story.

    I think the most important thing is to focus on academics and knowledge, to change yourself, to change others' perception of you, and at the same time to improve your self-cultivation.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    First of all, you need to know the reason for your low self-esteem. The so-called coming from a small city means that you are now living or studying and working in a big city. In this case, others pay more attention to your abilities and your potential.

    We can't choose where we come from, where we were born, where we are, where we are, our family background, these are not things we can decide. But with our own efforts, we have broken out of our own world on a broader platform.

    Secondly, after finding the cause, you have to find a way to fix it. If it's because the people around you are from big cities, you can look at it and be full of arrogance. Then you don't have to worry too much, because people who are really capable and cultured will not be so superficial on the surface.

    Those who are so superficial must be people who have no real skills. So you just have to be yourself.

    If you are from a small city, and the people around you are from a big city, there are many gaps with them in terms of vision, experience, and knowledge. Then you don't have to be discouraged. Because these are all things that can be cultivated by oneself with acquired efforts.

    These insights and abilities are also cultivated through continuous nurturing. You can also get in touch with some of this high-level art, cultivate some hobbies in this area, and improve your self-cultivation.

    Again, it's about leveling your mind. Because it is likely that you feel inferior, but no one discriminates against you and looks down on you, it is just your own psychological effect. Then you have to adjust your mentality, at this time you should spend more time with friends, contact more people in the so-called big cities, and feel their friendliness and sincerity.

    Don't always draw the ground as a prison and isolate yourself. If you keep doing this, others will never be able to enter your heart, and you will always wear the hat of inferiority and will not be able to raise your head.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    I am a girl from the countryside, and I was admitted to the best middle school in the county when I was in elementary school and junior high school. I need to leave home to study in the county seat alone, and many of my classmates are natives of the county, and their dress, words and deeds are different from mine, so they seem to know that the family is well-off. They talked about things and discussed topics that I had never known before.

    My dress looked rustic throughout the class, and I watched quietly as the other students were playing together. Because I come from a rural area and have a big gap with others, I fall into a deep inferiority complex, I don't like to talk to others, and I always feel as if I am inferior. I also told my family that I wanted to go back to the village to go to junior high school, but I couldn't adapt to the county school.

    But my dad said that it was the best school, with the best teaching resources, and the teachers were among the best, and if they were admitted, they had to study hard. At that time, I always put others first, I was afraid that others would not like me, and I didn't dare to speak in class. I've found that a lot of boys will laugh at girls who are not good-looking and rustic, and one girl has become the object of ridicule by boys.

    Since then, I have slowly learned how to dress up and how they relate to others. I felt that since I was studying in a classroom, everyone was no different except for their family background, so I slowly explored and studied, and finally I became more confident a little bit.

    In fact, it doesn't matter if you come from, unless you have a special family background, most people in big cities are a starting point, and you need to rely on your own struggle. Therefore, this problem should not be the reason for your low self-esteem, and if you can't change the facts that already exist, you will strive to change yourself, your work ability, your temperament and taste. In the process of improving step by step, you will slowly get rid of the habit of inferiority.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Seeing the title, I have a very sad feeling, originally, the city is divided into one, two and three lines, but I think this is just a reflection of the level of consumption, not that people from small cities will be inferior to people from big cities, on the contrary, sometimes, I think people from small cities should be more proud.

    According to online reports, if you want to take the college entrance examination at Peking University or Tsinghua University, the policy will be relaxed, which means that the score line will be lowered a little, but there are still many college entrance examination candidates in Beijing who can't get in, and there will be many people from small cities who have been admitted to Peking University and Tsinghua University.

    So, we don't have to feel inferior because we are from a small city. People in big cities, they don't necessarily come from big cities, maybe they are from a small city like you, but they have a firm foothold in big cities with their own efforts. For example, Zhao Liying, Zhao Liying was born in an ordinary peasant family in Langfang City, Hebei Province.

    In 2006, he participated in the Yahoo Star Search Competition, and won the championship of Feng Xiaogang's group with his personal performance and the support of voting netizens, thus officially entering the showbiz.

    Therefore, as long as you have real talent and ability, don't feel inferior because you are from a small city. I believe that the people around you will not discriminate against you because you were not born in a first-tier city, these are caused by your own overly sensitive, envious and unbalanced, what you need is to face yourself, face up to the gap, recognize your own reality, think about your future, instead of caring too much about other people's opinions, too much want to compare with others, we can live a wonderful life in a small city. ‍‍

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Many people will have this kind of thought, especially after going to a big city in college and getting to know some classmates from a big city, when they talk about something I don't know, when they see the gap between the big city and their own small city, this kind of thinking is very obvious.

    Secondly, no matter where the hero comes from, when you are good enough and capable, no matter if you are a ** person, everyone will not say that they look down on you. For example, I have an uncle, who was not educated in the countryside before, but after coming to the city, he worked step by step, and now he has become a big boss, and it is not polite for local people to talk about business with him, so don't feel inferior because of the origin, the inferiority complex should be that you are incapable, and strive to improve yourself, when you are good enough to buy a house and a car in a big city, and have your own place, you are almost a person in this big city.

    In the end, low self-esteem comes from yourself, you always feel that the people around you look down on you, in fact, even if you are surrounded by people from big cities, they will not look down on you, on the contrary, the more people in big cities, the more they respect you when they are well educated, and they may be curious about how your life is different from theirs. Just like my university, no one looks down on anyone, and everyone will help each other no matter where they are.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Many people will have this kind of inferiority complex, afraid of being ridiculed by people in big cities, afraid that they will look at themselves in a strange light, and their enthusiasm will be instantly turned into dark clouds and dissipated.

    Find your faith! At first, you will have low self-esteem, but you have to think slowly, no one can decide their own destiny in their lifetime, they all need to rely on the hard work of the day after tomorrow to get it, when you choose to have low self-esteem, you might as well complete the work at hand, and slowly it will bring you everything you want!

    You stand on the side of the road in a big city and look at the traffic, as if you don't fit in with this place, as if you shouldn't come to this place to look like you're so redundant. But you have to do everything you can to fit in and make it recognize that you're a part of it.

    Don't think about your small city is not good, at least its existence has raised you, it just wants to be a mother and it will feel sad when you feel bad, so you must be very proud to say the name of your hometown when others ask you if you are from **.

    I feel very inferior because I care too much about other people's eyes, and I turn this kind of bad eyes of others into a driving force to spur myself forward, and one day you will prove that you can, and you will know that this so-called big city is nothing more than that! Believe that the sun will light up the whole journey ahead for you.

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