I would like to ask why some people can be angry and some people can t

First, generosity is not weakness.

Does the landlord know the hunger meaning of "adults don't care about villains" and "the prime minister can hold the boat in his belly"? For example, if you take a work car and accidentally step on someone without apologizing, what should you do? Do you have to quarrel with him, do you have to make a big fight?

The foot that was stepped on hurts, but is it worth it to be angry?

Second, when they are wronged, the first thing that ordinary people think about is naturally revenge, and fight to the death with the other party, and would rather cause a lot of losses than dissipate their anger. But that's only for the short-sighted. Here's a story from Six Feet Alley:

The story of Six Feet Lane.

During the Qing Dynasty, there was a famous family in Tongcheng, Anhui Province, where the father and son were two generations and were prominent, which was the father and son of Zhang Ying and Zhang Tingyu of the Zhang family.

During the Kangxi reign of the Qing Dynasty, Zhang Ying served as a scholar of Wenhuadian University and a scholar of the Ministry of Rites in the imperial court. The old house in Tongcheng, the hometown, is adjacent to the Wu family, and there is an open space between the two mansions for the traffic between the two sides. Later, the neighbor Wu family built a house and wanted to occupy this passage, but the Zhang family did not agree, and the two sides brought down the lawsuit to the county yamen.

The county magistrate considered that both sides of the dispute were prominent and famous families, and did not dare to settle it easily.

During this period, Zhang's family wrote a letter to Zhang Ying, who was a senior official in Beijing, asking Zhang Ying to intervene in the matter. After receiving the letter, Zhang Ying thought that she should be humble to her neighbors, and wrote four sentences in her reply to her family:

Thousands of miles of books are only for the wall, so why not let him be three feet?

The Great Wall is still there, and Qin Shi Huang is not seen.

After reading it, the family understood the meaning and took the initiative to give up three feet of open space. Seeing this, the Wu family was deeply moved, and also dispatched to give up the three-foot house base, so that a 6-foot alley was formed. The comity of the two families and the Zhang family's practice of not oppressing others are rumored to be beautiful talks.

Finally, I will bring you a poem:

Don't be angry, don't be angry.

Life is like a play.

We got together because of fate.

It is not easy to help each other grow old.

Should it be cherished more?

Lose your temper over trivial things.

Why bother thinking about it.

I'm not angry when others are angry.

There is no one to replace the sick when the gas comes out.

If I am angry, who is happy?

Besides, it's nerve-wracking and laborious.

Neighbors and friends do not compare.

Children and grandchildren trivia by it.

Endure hardships and enjoy together.

Immortals envy good partners.

Do you understand? If you have a long-term vision and have clear pros and cons, it is not that you are not angry, but that you can weigh the pros and cons and distinguish the occasion, you will naturally eliminate some unnecessary anger, which is what you call angry. What you said about "when you are wronged, you are first angry, it is revenge, and you take a tooth for a tooth" You don't see life clearly, you don't see things in the long run, and you are just ordinary people in the market.

The kind of people you're talking about, I can say for sure that there are. For example, Han Shin. That's enough, right?

And the more powerful people just don't get angry. Like the legend of Maitreya Buddha. I won't go into details. But you can figure out what I mean when you look at that smile, right?

Don't understand it anymore? You can go and see some of the theories of Buddhism, as well as the story of chicken soup for the soul. When you get to a certain age, you will understand.

When a person gets angry, he first feels that he is being attacked. Anger is a form of self-defense. The reason why some people are generous is because they can analyze the current situation well. Analyze the pros and cons and know how to make trade-offs. Cautious people are more emotional and not rational enough.

Generosity is tolerance, not to endure anger, but not to get angry.

Everyone has pain and suffering, and think, "There will be pity for the hateful," and if you understand him, you will tolerate him.

I really can't figure it out, so what's the matter with letting him be three-foot, why bother with small things, there are still many important things to do, how can I have time to get angry.

I think it depends on how you regulate your mood after being wronged. Of course, getting angry is a harmful thing, so try to adjust and be generous, not for others, let alone weakness, but to cherish your physical and mental health.

There are generous people, and people with careful eyes can be seen everywhere.