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So why don't you take the initiative? Maybe he will find out that you are good Don't always accommodate him in everything, this will spoil him, and occasionally you have to be cold to him, every time you take the initiative, this will make him feel that you can't do without him, and it is not okay to continue like this. Maybe try to have a good talk with him, but it really doesn't work, and you feel too tired, so give up.
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You are the same as me, I am too, I want to give up but I can't give up, he is like a Persian cat, almost far away, but, after struggling, I decided to give up, what he did to me, I will do to him, that's all.
No, I'm proactive, he can do whatever he wants, it was more uncomfortable at first, but now it's much better. Don't put your mind on others, it feels very tiring, and I can understand the feeling of wanting to give up and not see, and worrying.
In the end, I hope you can make a decision, and it's not that you want to leave, but just wait quietly to see what the other party does to you and how you respond, so it's more comfortable
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If the person you like is an introvert. Then please take a closer look. He is not proactive with other women (compare colleagues or friends).
If it's all the same. That only shows that his character is like this. Then you like her.
You have to take the initiative! Thank you!
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Then leave for a while! Maybe he's used to the days you're around! You have to show him how hard it is to live without you! You have to make him like you! Come on! You will make it!
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It's over, the sofa is gone!
I don't know if you can see what I'm talking about.
In fact, this kind of problem is now common to many young people.
The best solution is to keep your distance.
If a man wraps it too tightly, he will feel that he has no freedom, which is very bad.
But according to you, you don't plan to leave him at all, do you?
Also, men's curiosity is very heavy, you are always so active, and he has no curiosity.
Naturally not so interested in you ...
In a word, keep a proper distance and don't always pester him.
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I also like a very wooden person, for three whole years...It's about the same situation, I want to say, it's really tiring, it's painful, and if I could, I really didn't want to like it, but it was too late....So, if you can, you still like a boy who takes the initiative with you.
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There is a saying called: sincerity, gold and stone for the open, I think maybe you really do a good job, he will definitely be moved by you, the feelings are two-sided, if you really love her and like him, you shouldn't complain like this who takes the initiative or not, now maybe you take the initiative a lot, he is not so active compared to you, but this also does not mean that he doesn't like him and doesn't love you, maybe he hasn't adapted to your initiative, this may be more similar to his character, he will put you in his heart, but he doesn't easily say that he loves you, after all, people are not cold-blooded animals, You are good to him, he knows, if he agrees that you are boyfriend and girlfriend, he will not dislike you and not love you, otherwise he should say to you: We are only suitable for good friends, we can't be in love.
Didn't he say this to you, which means that he admits in his heart that you are his girlfriend, and now the problem is that maybe this man is not the first person in feelings, but other men such as career-oriented, you have to understand, you have time to find a warm place, such as a romantic place like a café, which is good for both parties, and have more fun when you are together, such as joking, watching a movie he likes or something together, mainly to make him feel that you are very fun together, You know? Rather than being considerate of your one, it will make him think that he is just paying off a debt when he is with you. Pay off your debt to him.
I believe that you can untie the gap between you, I wish you happiness, and if you don't understand, you can ask me again.
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If he is a more silent and introverted person, you should be straightforward and leave no regrets. I believe that the surprise is in the next second.
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Try it quietly for a while and see how he reacts.
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One: The person who takes the initiative does not really pay well on the knife edge that the other party needs. It's like being kind enough to help Yu Qi, the other party you give may not want it, and it may not be needed.
Second: too active will make the other party feel that everything is too easy, we all know that the harder it is, the more precious it is, just like the rainbow that appears after experiencing the wind and rain will also make people feel better, of course, it is not excluded that the rainbow is colorful, I think it is more beautiful to have wind and rain. Anything that comes too easily will make people subconsciously bury the word "general".
People are especially precious for what they have worked so hard to earn.
Three: Will there be that (: I know you won't go, so I can run amok?)
In fact, some people don't really feel cheap, but the enjoyers know that this kind of initiative has a certain amount of insurance and will not disappear, so they are very casual and do not pay attention to it. For example, family affection, we are always more polite and polite in front of strangers.
It's easier to release all your emotions in front of your loved ones. In fact, I think I should be more restrained in front of my relatives, and I say that the love of parents is great and does not ask for anything in return, so is this kind of love cheap? I don't think so, and I can't think that parents should do that.
Everyone has nothing to do, everyone must know how to be grateful, and no kind of pay can be said to be cheap and rotten.
A man's pursuit of a woman is actually a hunting process, and the prey that is directly delivered to his mouth must not be cherished, because he does not enjoy the process of conquest, on the contrary, the prey he spends a lot of time and energy getting, he will be reluctant to eat, and the hard-won harvest. Let him know how to cherish it better. A smart woman will not always be stupid and good to a man, because she knows that the other party will not cherish it, you only need to be good to him occasionally, such as commemorative days, it is best when he is most vulnerable and sick, you will never abandon him to take care of him, enough for him to remember you for a lifetime.
In conclusion, I just want to say that any relationship should be based on "mutuality", "coming and going", and mutual understanding and understanding. I don't take the initiative to get anyone's favor and I don't let anyone down for my help. Don't be a stupid child who can only give, and don't think of yourself as so kind and generous that you have wronged yourself.
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Whether it is a boy or a girl, if you are too active, it is more tiring, because in the relationship is a relationship between the two parties, which needs to be maintained by both parties and paid for it together, so that you can maintain a feeling for a long time.
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The stability and longevity of a relationship does not depend entirely on which partner is more active or more passive. Everyone's way of dealing with feelings is filial piety, and feelings are the business of both parties, which requires the dedication and understanding of both parties.
Here are some of the factors that can affect a relationship:
1.Balance of interactions: In a relationship, the giving and giving of both parties should be balanced. If one partner is always too proactive, it may make the other person feel stressed or uncomfortable. This can lead to problems in the relationship.
2.Know and respect each other: Understanding and respecting each other's needs and feelings is key to maintaining a relationship. If one partner is always too proactive and ignores the needs and feelings of the other person, it may make the other person feel ignored or disrespected.
3.Communication: Effective communication is the key to resolving any relationship issue. If you find yourself being too proactive, you may need to talk to the other person about your feelings and needs. At the same time, respect the other person's thoughts and feelings.
4.Personal personality: Some people may be naturally more proactive, while others may be more passive. This does not mean which side is better or worse, but everyone has their own personality and style.
5.Relationship between the two parties: The most important thing is that whether your relationship is healthy, stable and long-lasting does not depend on who is more proactive, but on whether you truly love each other, whether you are willing to give for each other, and whether you are willing to work together to maintain the relationship.
Overall, in a relationship, it's okay to be active or passive, the key is to find a balance that meets your own needs while respecting and understanding the needs of the other person. At the same time, effective communication and understanding are also key to maintaining relationships.
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Normal. You need to reduce your sense of need.
When the girl proposes that her boyfriend needs to talk to me every day and say good night to me every day, she is expressing, I need you, I want you to accompany me, I want you to love me more. The boy will think, I don't think I don't love you, but I don't think you want me to talk to you every day, it's a way to represent love, so at this time, you have to withdraw from all your needs, no longer express such a request, no longer express how I want you, it means that you love me and like me.
At this time, the boy's first reaction must be to feel relaxed, but after a few days of relaxation, he will start to get nervous, why doesn't my girlfriend have any requirements now? Don't you love me anymore? The boy file Min will have such thoughts, and when he has such thoughts, he will start to take the initiative to speak.
Guide small pays.
When the boy begins to have some thoughts to use on you, and the emotional concentration begins to rise, then you can guide the other party to make some small contributions, such as: Honey, I really hope you do... Ah, I'm going to be very happy.
Small requests, and the other party has no way to refuse, let him slowly get used to it, and his love for you will attract you more praise and praise, so that he can continue to guide the other party to make big efforts and investments. In this way, the girl is happy again, and the boy can satisfy his hero complex.
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Feelings don't necessarily require a man to take the initiative.
Blindly asking men to take the initiative, men are too tired.
It seems that you feel that in your relationship, it is always you who take the initiative and are more tired.
What is the situation? To what extent is the reluctance of both parties? A girlfriend is a ...... that needs to wait for you to take the initiative to date and chatWill it cooperate?
There is no paradigm for the interaction mode of both parties in the relationship, and it is related to the personality, habits, cognition, and interaction patterns of the two people in the relationship, so I can't talk about the details if I don't know the details.
But one thing is for sure, if you feel tired in this way, then you can try to express that in fact, sometimes I also look forward to you taking the initiative to ask me, and I am eager to feel cared for and valued because ......of your initiative
As for girls, sometimes it may be because of a shy personality.
There are also times when I always listen to some love books or the teachings of people around me, girls can't take the initiative too much, and they will drop the price if they take the initiative.
Therefore, it will also behave passively for various reasons.
Maybe when you feel tired of taking the initiative here, she is still hesitating, I really want to send him a message, but will this not be good.
So the feelings belong to the two of you, and those things that are not edifying are unreasonable.
It's true that both parties are happy and comfortable, try to express it.
In a relationship, in fact, who takes the initiative is a tacit question, but as far as the current atmosphere is concerned, in fact, it is common for girls to take the initiative, not like the atmosphere of the older generation, if a girl takes the initiative, it will not seem very good, not reserved enough or very faceless, in the current era, there are still many girls who will take the initiative. They are very bold and neat, and the boy they like will take the initiative to express their hearts, and completely ignore the old rigid statements.
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Girls have always been actively tired not only physically, but also inwardly. Love is originally a process of reciprocity between two parties, it is a process of mutual support between couples, either party takes the initiative will make people feel very tired, when the love is about to begin, maybe the boy will take the initiative more, because it is necessary to show a chasing process, but after really being together, the two sides still have to be equal to each other.
In the process of falling in love, the initiative of boys is actually different from that of girls, girls have a feeling of slow heating, and it is easy to be in a passive position, like the feeling of being cared for, and the feeling of being taken care of. Once the girl becomes active, the boy will feel that the girl is too easy to get it, but will not cherish it too much, if you meet a very scummy boy, the girl is estimated to be very tired, but she is reluctant to this feeling, because the breakup is too costly for her, and as a delicate animal, the girl will remember the bits and pieces of life, easy to be blinded by love, continue to take the initiative will make her fall deeper and deeper, and she can't see her situation clearly.
There is no doubt that girls who have been active will inevitably be tired, and active girls play the role of loving each other deeply in the relationship, and they will also feel that they will be rewarded accordingly if they are good to boys, but they don't know that the results will be farther and farther away from their expected results, so they continue to work hard in the hope that something will get better, but this is a disgusting cycle, and in the end it is not only the body that is tired, but also the heart. Carefully observe the couples in life, often the girls are too active feelings will start and end quickly, of course, there is no rule out the situation of true love, often the beginning of most love is the step that the boy takes, and then care for each other after being together, this is what a healthy relationship should look like.
I'm a Scorpio man, and in my experience, I think it's unlikely, and she wants to, but she won't take the initiative, unless she's in love, or there's a friend next to her who instigates her, so please the person next to her first, huh.
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