How to live your true self and be a free and easy person?

Try to say what you really think when you get along with people, try to do what you want to do, try to learn to refuse, learn to put forward different opinions, then you can become a true self and become a free and easy person.

Sometimes if you want to live a real life, you have to learn to say what you think, not necessarily to others, but more to yourself, I have never dared to say what I think before, because many of my ideas are different from everyone, I am afraid that I will be rejected by others if I say it, and sometimes some ideas are not realistic, so I simply follow everyone. But after a long time like this, I feel that I am living a very hypocritical life, and I always follow others when I have my own ideas, and I am not very happy in life. Then I tried to say something, and although I didn't necessarily get it, I felt happy when I said it, and I felt like I had taken that step.

If you can't say it, then do it, do what you want to do, if you can't do it at the moment, then take this as a goal, and then you can achieve it later, when you start to do what you want to do, you will feel that life is very beautiful to follow your heart, and there will be a lot less regret and dissatisfaction, because you don't have too many things backlogged in your heart.

It is also necessary to learn to refuse, if you don't want to do something, just refuse, maybe you will lose a lot of friends, but that's okay, you won't be happy with those friends, and it's not really a friend who can make friends, it's not a pity to have less, but you can have more space and time for yourself, isn't it better? It's hard to say no at first, but once you open your mouth and can't say it at first, everything will be much easier after that.

Many times we are limited by external interference and our own factors, which leads to our own unhappiness, and people habitually wear protective masks, and gradually lose their hearts.

I think it's a difficult but easy way to live a real life, but at the same time, it's easy. It's simple because as long as you don't care so much and only listen to your heart, then many things are not so important to you, and you will naturally live a spontaneous and free life. And it is complicated and difficult to say that we want to do this, because many of the things we do cannot be completely only what we want from our hearts, and some of them may not be what we want at all.

Each of us will say that we want to be authentic and live our lives, but we also know that this is difficult, so we only have expectations in our hearts, but it is difficult to achieve them.

I believe that the first thing you need to do to live your true self is to listen to your heart. Individuals must first understand what kind of self is the real self, remove the gorgeous packaging, retain the most innocent self, and listen to what the self buried in the small corner says, and that is the true voice in their hearts, without too many distractions and ideas. The second is not to pay too much attention to what other people think.

We always care so much about other people's evaluations and opinions about ourselves that we fall into a bad state, feeling like we are living for other people's ideas in everything we do, so naturally we can't be true and free of ourselves. The other is not to be too heavy about gains and losses, do your best, as for the result, there are actually unstable factors and other external factors. I envy the glamour of others, but in fact, those people have also made efforts that ordinary people can't see, what they have to do is to be loyal to their hearts, gains and losses naturally have their own laws, and everything doesn't need to be too concerned and calculated.

Let go of love and desire, extinguish grace and resentment, and have a wide world in your heart.

Know how to refuse and be moderately selfish.

Ji Xianlin wrote in the book "Ji Xianlin Talks about Life": Being able to think about others for 60% and 40% for himself, he is a good person who has passed the core branch.

Dealing with the world, knowing how to leave three points of leeway for oneself in everything, knowing how to refuse, and being moderately selfish, we can get along with the world better.

The so-called everything has a degree, too much, any relationship in life must have a bottom line and principles.

In a person's life, we must learn to be responsible for ourselves, be moderately selfish, and know how to refuse those who change their branches, so as to live more calmly and freely.

Knowing how to say no is a wise way to do things

Those who know how to refuse are alive and sober and calm

Know how to refuse, learn to be cold, and not be a good person with no bottom line, and the road of life will become more and more spacious

Moderate selfishness is the right way to live

In life, learn to be moderately selfish, learn to please yourself, and only then can we discover the unique beauty in life

Learn to accept your ordinariness and live your best life