Introverted but strong tempered, how can I change my bad personality????

Friend, after carefully reading what you wrote, there are a few opinions: 1. In today's logistics-filled society, introverted personality is undoubtedly incompatible with society, you are a person who is too shrewd, in fact, it is better to be confused about some things in life; Second, life is full of principles, and people without a principled position can never stand up to their backs, and they can't find friends who know each other in the world; Third, to grasp a scale, not only to adhere to the necessary principles, but also to be confused, how to grasp this scale has deduced thousands of successful examples of life; Fourth, the small circle around you is condensed and intertwined with various social contradictions, and seriously handling these contradictions and interpersonal relationships will undoubtedly be of great help to continue to enter the depths of society in the future, and you will gradually adapt to the current society, and you should not avoid or even abandon the people around you.

Friend, when a mature person looks back on the past, he will find that on that vast road, there is no encounter that can be omitted, and no mood can be surpassed. The course of life is like a chain that is intertwined, you can see clearly and clearly, and you must go through the road you are willing to take or the road you don't want to take. Many of these realizations can only be attained at a certain stage.

I believe that you will gain many warnings on this path of life, so that you will radiate your charm of life to your surroundings.

It would be my honor if I could be recognized by you. Thank you.

Hehe, I seem to be a bit like you, I just debuted last year and my brother always troubles me, I have nothing to say a few words to me, I am also very stubborn, the old man quarreled, and the result was nothing, and then this temper changed, because as long as I figured it out, I said that I have a lot of meat and a penny less. It's better to have more enemies than one friend. Young people, if you relax your heart, you won't squeeze it.

After reading your narrative, I feel that you may be at work or some factor in your life that makes you in:"But I'm still an introvert, and some people want to mess with me, but I put up with it"

If a person is in such a state of mind for a long time and is too depressed, he will explode in an unfamiliar environment, such as the situations mentioned above are good examples.

I think what you need now is how to adapt to the environment where you will be staying for a long time. Make more friends in your current circle and get along with them with a different normal mind, and after a while, you will find that you can handle your current situation very comfortably.

I was also an introvert myself.

When I arrived at the company, a senior brother told me that you have to talk about the wilderness, and you go back to watch a TV show tonight and come back and talk to me

Later I felt 10 times better than before, 100 times better

Think that if you were a person who has nothing to do, you want money but no money, you want status and no status, will you treat people like this? Or would you be happy if someone did this to you? Do you have no real friends?

You should think about it, when I go to dinner, or when I go outside, there is always something to do, what does it matter, and it doesn't matter if you finish scolding, or you can also take care of yourself, anyway, it's better to scold, or you can shout.

People can be straightforward, but don't impose your ideas on others. You feel that the waiter is unreasonable and disrespectful to you, and you think from the waiter's standpoint, he is very tired from a day's work, and he doesn't take much money, he has no mental problems, and he doesn't deserve to be scolded by you. Being stepped on by others in the subway, you think others are unreasonable, think about it, you also have times when you step on others, and others also come to you a few times, can you stand it?

I think you're a smart person, and if you think about others a lot, you'll be at peace. I used to be more than you, but now I don't think it's much. You have to learn to regulate your mood.

Because you are an introvert, when you are ready, you are very polite, or roll a few eyes, and at this time, you are a fighter and can rush up and fight people. When you're not in the mood or absent-minded, you're a coward because you're not prepared to fight at all or in the mood to fight.

Ways to change: It's not about changing introversions, it's about changing attitudes toward people. When you ask the price, others from time to time think that he is deaf, and ask again or ask others, without hurting self-esteem and grace.

When others squeeze into you, let it go, and make a "gesture" to reflect your attitude if you can't let it. They are all poor, so why should they embarrass each other? If you have money, you will have a better means of transportation, so why bother to squeeze and suffer this sin, right?

The country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change. Personality will not change, but it can be improved, and it can be improved rationally. Be kind, and you'll find a lot of people in the little ones for you.

If you want to make corrections, you have to look at yourself at most. I myself am a very stubborn person, when I am stubborn, I can hardly listen to any opinion of everyone, for me, I will only listen, but only in the left ear and out of the right ear, because in my opinion, I am right, since I am right, why should I listen to you? Want to admit your mistakes?

That's my attitude towards life. And once stubborn, the temper is easy to become particularly irritable and irritable, especially love to lose temper, once the personality becomes irritable, or can't keep the calm it should be, then the emotions will definitely get out of control.

It was suggested that self-calming was needed, and it was extremely difficult for me to calm a stubborn person. How do you get him to correct it? The best thing to do is that he has his own idea of correcting, and if he doesn't want to change (like me), it's hard to correct, and if he wants to try to calm down, he can't calm down.

Even if I have many bad relationships because of my stubbornness, I will not repent, because from the bottom of my heart, I feel that I am not wrong. Of course, I will not take any responsibility on myself, I will take the initiative to apologize if I make a mistake, whether I do it right or not depends on my subjective judgment, and once I subjectively judge that I am right, then I will never think that I am wrong, unless it is proved that I am indeed wrong, I will accept it. Stubbornness is a bad problem, it is difficult to change, it is difficult to change, the help of others is minimal, and the most important thing is really to depend on yourself.

If you really can't change it, you can only appropriately reduce the degree of stubbornness. Don't break up unhappily on both sides, and make some appropriate concessions when necessary.

Clause. 1. Low demand for socializationCarl Jung pointed out in his research that people with introverted personalities have a very low need for socialization, and they do not need to socialize in their lives, nor do they get happiness from socializing. They rely mainly on their own thoughts and spirits in life to gain self-identity and self-satisfaction.

This type of person has an extremely rich inner world, but they just don't like to share it with others. They like to be alone, like to think, like to be immersed in their own world, so they are more oblivious to external influences and stimuli, and show a low need for social interaction.

Due to the requirements of modern society for people, extroverts and eloquent people are more able to be recognized by others, therefore, in the eyes of most people, introverts are not easy to socialize, and they are a kind of character with defects, and they cannot leave a good impression on others. Therefore, there are many introverts who want to take the initiative to change their "flawed" personality when they realize this.

Clause. 2. Social interaction will make introverts "high energy consumption" It turns out that forcing introverts to integrate into a variety of social situations is an "energy-intensive behavior" that is an extremely painful thing for them. For those who are not socially adept, forcibly socializing with others can take a lot of energy, and forcing introverts to socialize frequently will only make them resistant.

Psychologists point out that introverts do not need to be forced to socialize too much, because they do not need to socialize too much with too many people. So, where do introverts get their self-satisfaction? Psychologists point out that introverts only need "self-interaction".