How to manage emotional matters for a longer time?

Most people's first reaction will be that it is too quick to determine that the relationship will not last long, but whether the relationship can last for a long time actually has a lot to do with whether the two people are both careful to manage the relationship. The disagreement of two people's views also plays a decisive factor, and if one party does not have a strong ability to solve problems, then the relationship will not last long. How can you manage a relationship for a long time?

1. Common progress, two people want to manage their feelings well, they must have the consciousness of common progress, if two people do not progress together, then the party that makes rapid progress will get rid of the other party who is standing still, one person is moving forward, the other party is not moving, the gap between the two people is getting bigger and bigger, and the distance will become farther and farther, which is not conducive to the development of feelings.

2. Don't rely too much on each other, even if you love that person again, you are an independent person first, love yourself first, and then love each other. Have your own independent personality, no matter how much you can handle all aspects of your life, you can handle it well.

3. Trust each other and learn to give yourself a sense of security. In many things, leaving the choice to the other party will have unexpected gains. If you restrain the other person in everything and let the other person do what you want, so that you can feel at ease, it is a big mistake.

Some things can never be controlled, and they will only add unnecessary contradictions to the two of you.

Defining a relationship too quickly can reduce the value in the relationship of one of the partners. Two people do not know each other deeply enough, which will lead to crossing the adaptation period and directly entering the love period, and the conflict outbreak of the later breakup contradiction will also come extremely quickly, burying a deep hidden danger for the breakup or the breakdown of the relationship, at this time, we must make a careful decision based on the actual situation of the other party. Therefore, it is generally recommended to take your time in the process of establishing a romantic relationship and not to rush too much.

Two people in a relationship need to work together, and if it is an effort by one party, it is easy to fail. After all, everyone gets tired. It's better to go both ways.

The first point is to reduce pressure on each other, not to grow and progress together with you. The reason why it is said to be mutual stress relief is because when you fall in love now, whether it is a boy or a girl, the pressure is actually very great, and the boy has to have a career, honor his parents, buy a car, buy a house, and prepare a bride price, which is particularly stressful. Girls are young for only a few years, and as they grow older, they also have to face the gossip of relatives and friends at home, as well as the anxiety of youth, fear of marriage, fear of childbirth, etc., and the pressure is also very great.

At this time, the so-called common progress is really not the most important thing in love, but together, I have pressure, I tell you, you can relieve it for me, you have pressure, you tell me, I can also relieve part of it through my own efforts, which is a major factor in whether the relationship can last for a long time.

This understanding is also very easy to understand, very simple, I just mentioned, if there is pressure, you come and tell me, I will relieve you of some worries through my own efforts. You have grown in your career, in life, in all aspects, and I have also grown in mentality, of course, this is mutual, if I have any pressure, I will also tell you, and you will also do your best to help me relieve the pressure, so as to avoid some of our trust crises and worries. It is very important for two people to improve each other in this mode.

The second point is that if you want your relationship to be long-lasting, you want results, and you want to be comfortable, then from the first day of your relationship, you must tell the truth, what you have to say. If you can understand, you can say that you can understand, if you can forgive, you can say that you can forgive, if you don't suggest, if you don't suggest, if you have an opinion, if you have an opinion, don't really hide it, whether you are in a long-distance relationship, sister and brother love or what, this must be put in your hands. Only if you don't pretend, don't use routines, don't be scheming, don't engage in those things that weigh the pros and cons, and hide and hide, can you generate trust, the first day I know you're such a person, and you have repeatedly confirmed that you are such a person every day in the future, and you don't have to doubt it at all in many things, or you don't have a sense of security to question, this mode of getting along is the most comfortable.

How should marriage be managed?

1. Husband and wife are tolerant and understanding of each other.

If you want to run a family well, the relationship between husband and wife cannot be ignored, and the atmosphere and environment of a family depend on the relationship between husband and wife. People from two different families can love each other and get married and have children, which is already a good fate, and the family education of couples is different, so the views and ideas on everything must be different, and it is inevitable that quarrels will occur, at this time it is necessary to tolerate and understand between husband and wife, as long as every little thing is done well and managed well, the atmosphere of the family is naturally good, and it is naturally managed.

2. Need to be diligent and thrifty.

Diligence and thrift are the most basic ways to consider one person running a family, not only to the individual, but also to the whole family. Through diligence and thrift, you can reflect a person's daily cultivation and inner self, and you can also feel her enough efforts for the family, and at the same time, the whole family members can feel warmth.

3. Handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

In a big family, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult, and a woman after marriage must remember that the conflict between her parents-in-law and mother-in-law must not be told to her family or her friends. Even if you just want to vent your temper, you don't want to do it, because after it spreads, others will say that you will not handle interpersonal relationships, and once it reaches the ears of your parents-in-law, then the contradiction between you will become bigger and bigger, and the contradiction between you and your mother-in-law will be bigger, and it will embarrass the person you love together, and after a long time, your feelings will also change a lot.

4. Need to be reasonable.

If you want to do a good job, it is very important to be attentive, of course, if you want to manage a good marriage and family, you must be attentive. Handle the conflict with your mother-in-law carefully, and manage the relationship with your husband and son with your heart. Therefore, when encountering conflicts, we must solve them reasonably, and according to each person's character, we must manage the family relationship, the family is composed of people, and everyone's relationship is good, and the family is naturally harmonious!

1. Share your childhood.

In the childhood life of each of us, we hide the influence of our original family on us, and share our childhood with our close partner, not only to share our childhood happiness and troubles, but also to let each other enter our own childhood to experience our own happiness and sorrow.

When we understand the growth process of the other person, we can empathize with each other to the greatest extent, and we can understand why the other person has formed such a personality and temper.

It seems that this is a process of sharing, and at the same time, it is also the fastest way to let the other person into your heart.

2. Make rules for love.

Formulate love rules that belong to two people, and in this rule, it is necessary to include not only the mode of getting along with two people, but also the mechanism of stopping the war between two people.

Especially when two people have conflicts, effective rules of love can help us reduce quarrels to a greater extent and avoid the Cold War.

A good relationship must have its own love rules, whether or not this rule is specially formulated, but it must invisibly affect the emotional relationship between two people.

3. Share hobbies.

Girls always hate boys playing games, and boys always hate girls for putting on makeup for a long time.

Because boys' interest is to play games, while girls' interest is to be beautiful. This is the difference between men and women, and because they don't understand it, they will be particularly annoying.

Maybe when girls fall in love with games, and when boys fall in love with makeup, they won't hate this interest so much.

So share your interests and hobbies, let the other party understand deeply, he (she) can not like it, but must understand.

4. Talk about each other's view of love.

The concept of love is a very macro expression, just like we always say that the three views are different, in fact, few people can understand what the three views are.

The same is true for the concept of love, it is difficult for us to express our view of love, but we can talk about our attitude towards feelings and how to deal with problems when they arise.

1. Do things that interest each other together If you want to make love last, you might as well keep the views that you agree with each other and automatically ignore different points of view. You can try to do things that are more interesting to each other together, and slowly cultivate more tacit understanding. 2 Be calm when there is a contradiction In love, when there is a contradiction, each other must learn to be cold and guess, even if the other party is very irrational, you must be calm, two irrational people will not come together after all.

Concession is not a sign of weakness, but tolerance, if the other party's unreasonable trouble, you will also feel tired, and if you go on like this, there will be no result.

1. It's easy to get a person, but it's hard to get the second half of the other person's life. Feelings need to be managed and considered, don't lose each other at the cost of these meaningless understandings and truths.

2. The more you try your best in love, the more fragile it is.

3. One day, you should sit down and discuss the problem calmly like an adult, instead of turning a blind eye to the problem and compromising again and again at the cost of losing your feelings.

4. Don't say how you are for a person, you are all for yourself.

5. What is valuable is not what can be given up for the other party, but what the other party can create.

6. In the relationship, all the more than the other party is your own willingness, don't care. If you are unhappy, you will gradually turn these efforts into chains.

7. Patience in the relationship is more important than hard work. A relationship may become stronger when suffering together, but it is easy to be worn away by ordinary days.

8. No two people are completely matched, they are bound to run in with each other and keep changing in order to walk on the same path.

9. No matter how much you love, leave a line of space for each other.

10. The more people love each other, the more defenseless they show each other's weaknesses and pains, and those need to be understood and gently cared for.

I think that if two people want to maintain a long-term love, they should give each other enough trust and tolerance when they get along, and at the same time, they must continue to learn and grow together.

1. How to manage a relationship.

1. First of all, if two people want to maintain their relationship for a long time, they must make progress together, if two people do not progress together, then the person who makes rapid progress will get rid of the person who is standing still, because one person is moving forward, and the other person is not moving, the gap between you will be bigger and bigger, and the distance will be farther and farther.

2. And don't rely too much on each other in your relationship, even if you love each other again, you must not rely too much, don't take it as all in your relationship, or even lose yourself. In real life, many stay-at-home mothers and housewives are too dependent on each other. As a result, if you can't do anything without each other, no matter when, you must let yourself live a wonderful life, live a personality, in short, let yourself learn to be independent.

Feelings are a matter of two people. Only by understanding each other, respecting each other, loving each other, considering the problem from the other party's point of view, paying willingly, without asking for anything in return, and getting the approval of the other party, can the relationship be happy for a long time.