How to manage a relationship for a long time?

First, they can let go but do not take the initiative to determine the relationship. Don't think that only boys can take the initiative, girls don't take the initiative, girls can sometimes take the initiative. But this initiative, not to go directly to him, but to take the initiative to guide the other party, simply put, in the process of getting along with the other party, do not resist, do not twist, but remember not to take the initiative to determine the relationship.

That is, don't chase each other all day long and say, what is our relationship now? Do you need me to be your girlfriend? And so on.

Because when you don't reach that tipping point, you say these things, and the boy will only feel oppressed. This sense of oppression may prompt him to retreat, you just get along with him normally, then in the end, this boy himself will feel that he is afraid of losing you and confesses to you.

Article **2 Second, it is necessary to respond in a timely manner and avoid being cold. If you find that a boy is pursuing you and you are also interested in him, then at this time, don't put on a cold or pretentious appearance, but learn to respond in time, for example, this boy invites you to a meal, you can at least respond: Today's food is delicious.

This guy has sent you something, and you can also show that you like it. Because if you're pursuing someone, think about what you want most, isn't that the response from the other person? If you don't get a response from the other party, you will only think that maybe the other party is really not interested in me, so you give up, and when the other party gives up, you think about what to do, and it may not help.

I found that there are a lot of girls, in the relationship is like this, if you ask me to go, you send me something, I want, then you are so easy to be with me, you will definitely not cherish me in the future, just put on a cold look, and then do it, and finally really make the feelings gone.

Article **3 Third, learn to maintain a uniform style. Before, when we were trying to redeem her, a girl came to us for help, and then we contacted the boy, and the boy said: I broke up with her not because I don't like her anymore, what I like is her before, not what she is now, what do you see she has become now?

So the difference between before and after love should not be too big. For example, before falling in love, he was very coquettish and weak, and he couldn't unscrew the bottle cap. After falling in love, you can roll down the window and scold people, the difference between these two is too big, and people can't stand it.

So what should we do?

Article **4

I think there are two skills you need to master to manage a relationship well:

The first is to keep a certain distance from your significant other.

I believe many people have heard the saying: "As a girl, don't be too active emotionally, taking the initiative will make people think that you are cheap". So to this day, there are still many girls who dare not throw an olive branch in the face of the boys they like, afraid that they will take the initiative and not be cherished by the boys, and many girls will deliberately keep a distance from the boys they like, afraid of being discovered by their hearts.

I believe there is no need to repeat the truth that beauty comes from distance, and the original sense of boundary between the two of you is easily diluted by your invitations again and again. Therefore, proper proactive contact will let him know that you have a crush on him, but not too frequent will let him know that you are very confident and not impulsive when you don't get a response.

The second is to find the same route as him. No matter what happens in real life, as long as two people work together, there is nothing that cannot be solved. Only when two people work together can they have a bright future. Planning for your life has always been a way for you to communicate better.

If one person plans for his own development, while the other person is content with the status quo, the generation gap between the two people will become deeper and deeper over time, and it is inevitable that there will be no disagreements until different paths. Therefore, in love, you must have the same and similar plans with your other half, and always keep pace with each other, so that the two can continue to communicate and further cultivate their relationship.

Rule 1: Balance, don't overdo it.

Emotions should be balanced, and over-giving or over-taking will lead to emotional disintegration.

The party who gives excessively will always get no response and recognition, and will become more and more lost and dissatisfied in his heart, and more and more emotions will accumulate in his heart.

The more you give, the more you desire and expect the other party to give you a return, even a little bit in return, but the other party does not have it, and gradually evolves from loss to anger.

When the other party continues to receive benefits, they will take the good of others for granted, but they will not know how to cherish it.

The party who takes too much will have more and more difficult to satisfy his desires, and he will become more and more selfish.

When you give too much and don't get the results you expect, it's easy to get tired.

Pay easily, don't expect too much from the other party's return.

Those who accept the contribution should also give back appropriately, and learn to express gratitude and gratitude.

Rule 2: Have an ego.

Don't completely change your personality just because you love someone.

If two people are together and they are very aggrieved, what is the use of such emotions.

In emotion, there is a game, there is mutual compromise, but it is not to wronged oneself, to please and to cater to the other party.

Allow the other person to be themselves, and don't force the other person to change for themselves.

Of all relationships, I have always considered my relationship with myself to be the most important, more important than the relationship between husband and wife, the relationship between couples, the relationship between parents and children, and the relationship with my parents.

If a person has no ego, he will lack vitality.

Without ego, you will make yourself less and less attractive, and the people who love you will be further and further away from you.

Only when you are happy can you make others truly happy.

You can be happy first before you can make others happy, you have to be cool together, don't be happy alone.

Good emotions will make both parties better, but you can't use "I'm for your good" to demand each other, blame each other, criticize each other, and transform each other.

Encourage each other, recognize each other, and support each other.

Rule 3: Give each other space to be independent.

Too intimate relationships can feel suffocating.

Allow each other to have their own independent, private space, and allow each other to have their own secrets.

You don't have to get tired of being together every day, you don't have to check each other's mobile phones, and you don't have to bomb and kill a series of calls every day.

In addition to falling in love, there are other more important things to do, such as learning and growing, socializing, etc.

Rule 4: Learn to understand each other's differences.

You are a person who is enthusiastic and open-minded, and the other party is a slow-burning, introverted and cautious person.

You are a casual and casual person, and the other party is a clean and tidy person who pays attention to details.

You can put "I love you" in your mouth every day, but the other person may say "I love you" at most once in a lifetime.

Understand each other's personality differences, and try to understand and accept people who are different from you.

Some personality traits are innate, and if they are harmless and the damage is not serious, go with the other person and don't ask too much.

To make yourself and the other party feel better, both parties need to make some efforts, lower their own standards with high standards, and try to improve their standards if they are not high.

If you want to manage a long-term relationship, in addition to mutual respect and understanding, you must also do the following:

First, try to complain as little as possible.

It's better to complain less, so that the other party can love you better Many couples may still have love, but they can't be together, why is this happening? At the end of the day, it's the impact of bad moods. You always leave a bad attitude to the other person, and you can release your incomparable enthusiasm to outsiders, but you always have a cold face on your partner.

At first, the other party may be acceptable, but what about after a long time? In fact, in a relationship, the most useless thing is to complain and quarrel, because doing so will only make the result worse.

Second, we should be more patient.

Your love will last as if we are always like this, we can give others enough patience, but we can't give our partners some patience, and sneer when they don't do well. You are too addicted, but you don't know that it hurts your partner a lot, and if you don't get it right, the relationship will end. It's not that he doesn't want to do it well, it's just that he needs time, and you either don't let the other person do it, since you let him do it, please allow him to take his time.

When you have an inclusive heart, you will naturally find that he will not do badly.

Managing love requires patience and tolerance. You can't always deal with impatience and complaining about the partner you personally chose to be with you for the rest of your life. In a relationship, everyone has bad emotions, but you have to learn to control and don't feel that your lover is an outlet for your bad emotions, otherwise you will lose badly.

If you have a bad mood and you really can't control it, you can tell the other party in another way, such as being coquettish. Or, go to an open area and shout a few words out loud. As long as the other party is qualified, you really don't need to vent your most unbearable emotions on the other party, because the other party is the partner you personally chose, not forced by others.

Also, you must ask yourself more about what is the purpose of your relationship with your partner, if you want long-term love, then you need to have the above two changes, and one is indispensable. Only in this way can the relationship between each other be happy for a long time.

In fact, it has a lot to do with whether the two of them are both working hard to manage this relationship. The disagreement of two people's views also plays a decisive factor, and if one party does not have a strong ability to solve problems, then the relationship will not last long. How can you manage a relationship for a long time?

1. Common progress, two people want to manage their feelings well, they must have the consciousness of common progress, if two people do not progress together, then the party that makes rapid progress will get rid of the other party who is standing still, one person is moving forward, the other party is not moving, the gap between the two people is getting bigger and bigger, and the distance will become farther and farther, which is not conducive to the development of feelings.

2. Don't rely too much on each other, even if you love that person again, you are an independent person first, love yourself first, and then love each other. Have your own independent personality, no matter how much you can handle all aspects of your life, you can handle it well.

3. Trust each other and learn to give yourself a sense of security. In many things, leaving the choice to the other party will have unexpected gains. If you restrain the other person in everything and let the other person do what you want, so that you can feel at ease, it is a big mistake.

Some things can never be controlled, and they will only add unnecessary contradictions to the two of you.

Defining a relationship too quickly can reduce the value in the relationship of one of the partners. If two people don't know each other well enough, it will lead to crossing the adaptation period and directly entering the love period.

1. Share your childhood.

In the childhood life of each of us, we hide the influence of our original family on us, and share our childhood with our close partner, not only to share our childhood happiness and troubles, but also to let each other enter our own childhood to experience our own happiness and sorrow.

When we understand the growth process of the other person, we can empathize with each other to the greatest extent, and we can understand why the other person has formed such a personality and temper.

It seems that this is a process of sharing, and at the same time, it is also the fastest way to let the other person into your heart.

2. Make rules for love.

Formulate love rules that belong to two people, and in this rule, it is necessary to include not only the mode of getting along with two people, but also the mechanism of stopping the war between two people.

Especially when two people have conflicts, effective rules of love can help us reduce quarrels to a greater extent and avoid the Cold War.

A good relationship must have its own love rules, whether or not this rule is specially formulated, but it must invisibly affect the emotional relationship between two people.

3. Share hobbies.

Girls always hate boys playing games, and boys always hate girls for putting on makeup for a long time.

Because boys' interest is to play games, while girls' interest is to be beautiful. This is the difference between men and women, and because they don't understand it, they will be particularly annoying.

Maybe when girls fall in love with games, and when boys fall in love with makeup, they won't hate this interest so much.

So share your interests and hobbies, let the other party understand deeply, he (she) can not like it, but must understand.

4. Talk about each other's view of love.

The concept of love is a very macro expression, just like we always say that the three views are different, in fact, few people can understand what the three views are.

The same is true for the concept of love, it is difficult for us to express our view of love, but we can talk about our attitude towards feelings and how to deal with problems when they arise.

1.Giving: It is important to give in a relationship, including time, attention, support, and help. The two sides should balance each other's needs and hopes, and work together.

2.Understanding: Mutual understanding is the cornerstone of the long-term Guan Min Qing system. Try to understand each other's feelings and thoughts, and support and help each other.

3.Maintenance: Long-term feelings need to be maintained. In relationships, there are sometimes quarrels and disagreements, and it is important to learn to resolve them properly and maintain trust and respect between both parties.

The above advice may not apply to everyone, and everyone and relationships are different. However, building and maintaining a healthy relationship requires constant effort and attention, and both partners need to be willing to give for it.