My wife has lent almost all of our savings to her parents family, is this an appropriate behavior?

When the mother's family needs money relief, of course, as a child or son-in-law, he will not sit idly by, so here we must pay special attention to what we can do, which is also a situation. For example, if a relative in the mother's family is seriously ill and urgently needs money, of course, you can't be stingy in this emergency moment, and you need to do your best. But if it's for other reasons, such as borrowing money to buy a house for my younger brother and getting married, I don't think I need to lend out all my savings.

Because a woman has formed a new family, she has to consider the feelings of her in-laws, and she can lend out part of it without affecting the daily expenses of her daily life. Your savings belong to both of you, and you need to think carefully before making some decisions and plan for the future. But things have happened, as a husband, you must first understand your wife, the two of you have a good talk about this matter, tell your wife your worries and concerns, and solve problems together, don't hold it in your heart and be depressed.

Husband and wife must have enough trust and work together to face the wind and rain together, so as to live a good life! Although I am a woman, at the same time, I can also understand your feelings, on the one hand, you are worried that your wife's maiden family is a bottomless pit and may not be able to pay back, on the other hand, you are afraid that there will be some urgent things at home or if you have to have a child, you will not have enough money. These are all normal, I think you know your wife's character very well, and you should also give some trust at such times.

When you encounter problems in marriage, you must have a correct attitude to solve them, don't dwell too much on what has happened, I also believe that this kind of thing will not be reversed, I wish you a happy life!

Your wife's approach is not appropriate, you can ask your wife's family to return this part of the money.

Without hesitation, he called her to take it back.

Legal analysis: If a daughter gives money to her mother's family after marriage, if it is personal property, the consent of the man is not required, and if it is the joint property of the husband and wife, the woman also has the right to dispose of it, so the consent of the man is generally not required. Legal basis:

Civil Code of the People's Republic of China Article 1062 The following property acquired by husband and wife during the existence of their marital relationship shall be the joint property of the husband and wife and shall be jointly owned by the husband and wife: (1) wages, bonuses, and remuneration for labor services; (2) Income from production, operation and investment; (3) the proceeds of intellectual property rights; (4) Inherited or donated property, except as provided for in item 3 of Article 163 of this Law; (5) Other property that shall be jointly owned. Husband and wife have equal rights to dispose of joint property.

Say "no" to your wife! You have to tell your wife: you are not a charity association, and your money does not fall from the sky.

Brother Luliang is a good brother, and the money lent out can't be wasted, right? You can ask your wife to return the money borrowed by her family before the mission, and then consider whether to borrow the money or not. Boom.

Life needs firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar, and no matter how rich people are, they have no extra money.

Personally, I think that no matter whether you are rich or not, you have to be psychologically prepared, maybe they don't plan to pay back your money, maybe it will be a long time, maybe they will give it to you, these are all worth fighting, everything depends on personal circumstances. Our purpose is to help others, not to have conflicts because of money, if there are conflicts because of money, the gains outweigh the losses.

If you are ready for all this, you can think about whether to lend or not.

This kind of thing is really not perfunctory, and if you borrow it, you are afraid that you will not pay it back, and it will be difficult if you don't borrow it. If it is, I will look at something, whether it is urgent or not to help the poor, if there is really difficulty, I will help a little within my ability. If it's a general thing, I don't borrow it directly, and I borrow it every day to borrow you and use you as an ATM.

In fact, it depends on whether your wife's maiden family will repay the money, if they don't plan to repay the money, then Xiaoke thinks you can consider divorce, if your wife's maiden family will repay the money, then you also need to have a good time with your wife.

All your savings are lent to your mother's family, and it may be without you knowing, then this kind of thing can be big or small. Speaking of the big is that your wife may not be honest with you, because she lends all the money to her mother's family behind her back, then next time she will dare to sell the house behind your back, and the small one is actually that your wife borrowed money and took out the money without consulting you.

But in fact, this kind of behavior in marriage still can't be promoted, because this time it is to lend all the money to the mother's family, then next time it may be the mother's family to buy a house and give tens of thousands to the mother's family, and she may say that she will not tell you, or the younger brother marries his wife and buys a car to make up for tens of thousands of dollars.

Because she dared to give all the money out, it would be trivial to give tens of thousands to her parents.

You ask Xiao Ke if this is appropriate, this should be inappropriate in many families, because no one's money is blown by the wind, everyone earns money hard, and your wife obviously didn't notice that you worked hard for this family, otherwise she wouldn't dare to do such a thing.

And what kind of thing makes your wife's mother-in-law borrow so much money from her daughter, and generally sensible parents-in-law will not embarrass their daughter so much, so that her daughter can use all the family property for herself. And your parents-in-law are obviously not worried about the relationship between your husband and wife, so they dare to borrow so much.

Many parents are reluctant to borrow money from their children because they understand that it will make it difficult for their children to do so. And your parents-in-law, like your wife, don't take you to heart and don't worry about your reaction to this incident.

Xiao Ke suggests that you have a good talk with your wife to explain the seriousness of this matter.

In the joint property of husband and wife, a person does not have complete control over it, because all the money of the two of you is the common asset of the two of you, even if she is your wife, she has no power, without your knowledge, to lend the money to her own family, this kind of behavior is very inappropriate, and even a kind of disrespect to you, and for the relationship between husband and wife, this kind of disrespect is often easy to cause estrangement between husband and wife, and even say that this matter will become the culprit of the final divorce.

But if this really happens, what should we do? In fact, this is an extremely headache problem, because we can't divorce our wives because of this matter, but one thing you have to do is that you must make your wife realize your mistakes, of course, if you want your wife to realize your mistakes, you must also pay attention to methods, you can't question, let alone violence, you should probably discuss, after all, in the matter of money, or the issue involving your wife's mother's family, this is a very sensitive issue, So you also need to deal with it properly, try to communicate with each other, if the two people communicate more, she will eventually understand your mind.

It's not very suitable, even if it's a big problem for my mother's family, it can't be like this. At this time, it's not that it's impersonal, but to have a little bottom line, almost all of them are borrowed, which is a bit too much.

You can't squeeze your own family to the point where you have nothing left for the sake of your mother's family, and go back to the pre-liberation period one night. Even if you are still young and have a lot of energy, you can earn this money back, but you will not be able to come back so quickly for a while. So during this time period, you have to live a difficult life, eating white rice and sauerkraut every day.

Don't be stupid, if you continue like this, your body will collapse sooner or later. When the time comes, your mother's family will be fine, but you will collapse.

Some people may think that this is selfish, if you have difficulties, you don't help, help, don't say no, but first of all, you have to ensure that your family will not be greatly affected. People are always selfish, how can they always worry about others. It's ruthless to say, but the truth has to be convincing.

It's not like you can do what you want.

Therefore, I don't think it's appropriate for your wife to do this, and if half of her savings are barely justified, almost all of them are borrowed, which is incomprehensible. Aren't you afraid of lending it out, but you can't get it back, what should you do then?

Nothing, money is outside the body, and the harmony of the relationship between husband and wife is the most important thing. It should be that your lover's mother's family is in urgent need of money, and she is afraid that you will not agree, so she did that, she is also a good daughter with filial piety! If one day your parents and family use money, you will also give your money and do your best.

You will definitely understand the normal feelings of people, I wish you happiness!

It depends on why. If your mother's family suffers a disaster, don't talk about borrowing, it's okay to give. If you are married, you are a family, and your life is not money, and you can't share hardships, so don't open your mouth and shut up your wife.

Of course, if it is a younger brother who buys a car, a younger sister who accompanies a dowry, and so-and-so has bad conditions and no money to spend this kind of strange thing, you have every reason to take a firm stand and say - don't borrow.

It is better to lend money to anyone than to put it in your own hands, saying that you are lending them money, can you still get it back? The mother's family said that if you don't have the money to pay back, you can still kill them, this is called meat buns beating dogs, and they will never return!

As a man, I think you should really be generous, especially when your wife's family is borrowing money from you, I think you should show generosity, at least to make people feel that you are not a person who values money too much.

Although in today's society, money cannot be borrowed casually, we must understand that the wife's family is different from other friends, and this money also belongs to face.

If you don't borrow this money, then you won't have the face to go to others in the future. So sometimes, we don't think of it as borrowing money, but giving money.

Of course, if you lend money and don't return it, then the second time, I think you will have an excuse when someone borrows money from you, so don't be a cautious person who takes money very seriously.

In fact, there are many things in this world that money cannot buy。Especially as a man, in this society, don't be stingy, live a little more atmospheric, you will eat very well in this society, our ancestors left us a lot of precious words, I believe that everyone should have heard of these two words, and should understand the meaning, but you really understand the true meaning of the sentence "big and small", your life will have a difference.

For anyone's efforts will be rewarded, but the length and shortness of this return are different, just leave you to raise a child, this is paying, but you need to assist for more years, it takes twenty or thirty yearsMaybe you reap the reward, only in that moment of warmth, but you will also be satisfied, this is giving.

What they think is their business, since they come to borrow money, they must be prepared that others will not borrow.

Everyone's thoughts are different, and some people may think that the money is not used properly.

They may be afraid that they will not get back the money they borrowed, or they may be afraid that they will stick to their parents' family.

Maybe it's because of the pettiness, or maybe the relationship is not very good.

Hello, I have seen your news, and you are confused about why your wife always likes to lend money to her mother's family without telling you. The matter of Wu Sui is very easy to understand, in the relationship between you and your wife. Your wife wants not to get involved in the two families.

But if it catches up with the situation that his mother's family needs money and wants to borrow money from you. Your wife chose to hide you because she didn't want their family to cause trouble to the small world of the two of you, and she was afraid that you would use this matter as a handle in the future and take it out when there was a conflict. I think most of your wife's purpose for hiding it from you is because of this consideration.

Summary. Dear, if it's the situation you said, I always feel that you don't have to forgive, because it's hard to change because of his situation. If he really cares about you. If you forgive him, you will harm him, and even if you forgive, you can't forgive him directly.

Hello, what did you not marry her husband to bury the liquid, the business husband asked me to borrow money from my mother's family, I agreed, and later concealed my gambling shed liquid, I told it many times at the time, I was more than seven months pregnant at that time, can this kind of person still bend the original chain?

Dear, if it is the situation you said, I always feel that you don't have to forgive, because it is difficult to change it because of the situation of quietly repenting for him. If he really cares about you, Qi Youzheng. If you forgive him, you will harm him, and even if you forgive, you can't forgive him directly.

How long has he been in this state?

Until I blocked all the money from my mother's house, I found out that something was wrong, and wanted me to borrow money from my mother's sister, and lied that I had borrowed it, and I was seven months pregnant, so I couldn't do that if I thought about it.

Yes, dear, he doesn't have much sense at this time.

And you need to give him this attitude for this kind of behavior, which is unforgivable at this time, and the teacher understands your feelings very well.

Because if you go on like this, you won't be able to make a home.

Have you communicated with him?

I was angry at the time, and I said that he was silent and silent.

Just don't squeak.

It's not the kind of angry that immediately says wife, I was wrong, and then explains to ensure that these are not.

I don't feel secure, and I can't afford to support a child.

He doesn't have a sense of crisis, dear, because it's dangerous for him to stick to this kind of thing.

He completely threw the blame aside.

The husband is not in tune, the economy is not good, the mother-in-law and the eldest sister are in charge, but I always say that my mother-in-law is not good and it will be difficult to really give birth to a child.

The teacher suggested that it is not to forgive for the first time, because forgiveness for this kind of thing will only fuel, and he also needs to go through some before he really wakes up.

Because he forgives, he will do it again in the future.

If forgiven, your life will only go on like this.

Does his family also ignore him?

The teacher knows that you have a hard time, can you talk to the teacher about any grievances?