The son has gone through too much pain and doesn t want to marry a wife and have children, and wants

This kind of thing is very common, if he has such a determination, well, it is completely supportive and agreeable, before doing a psychological counseling um, to prove that he is going to a very normal state of psychology or mentality, can not be impulsive, or can't think of making such a decision, if he can think about this thing, don't want to have too much entanglement in this world, can really rest assured that one another, a different living environment to learn, to exercise, well, Come to life this can be supported, there is no need to oppose too much, as long as you have firm beliefs, firm confidence, and find the direction of this effort, you will develop, very good, will live very well, in fact, she is just a different profession and different identity, there is nothing bad, so there is a conversation at home, if you talk about it and make things clear, then no, what can you object?

Parents should respect their children's choices, and they should take the road step by themselves, and parents should not overstep their bounds. Becoming a monk is not a bad thing, it can make the road to the future wider and wider, and parents can also learn about the greatness and profundity of Buddhism with their children.

If he does have the ambition to become a monk, he should respect it and tell him that if he is not happy after becoming a monk, he can always go home. The three armies can win the commandery, but the horseman cannot win the ambition.

Someone asked me a similar question before, and I told him that if he really wanted to become a monk, he would have left without saying a word, and by the time you found him, he was already in the form of a monk.

Why is this question asked? First of all, from the perspective of personal karma, when it really comes to the moment of becoming a monk, no one can stop it. Secondly, from the monks I know, most of them secretly went to the monks on their own, not to say 100 percent, at least 95 percent of the monks are ordained in this way.

Although the Buddha stipulated in his precepts that ordination must be approved by family members, since ancient times, Chinese have been influenced by traditional Confucianism, and few parents would agree that their children would run away to become monks regardless of their parents.

So having said that, if he tells you that he decided to become a monk, in large part because there is too much pressure in his life, it's an escapist attitude. If so, you should comfort him more, accompany him, give him the courage to live, accompany him more to see the outside world, and feel the joy of life.

Of course, it can't be discharged that he really wants to become a monk, if that's the case, then bless him generously.

If you can get the gift behind the pain, you can turn the pain into an opportunity for growth, you can become a phoenix nirvana, you can be reborn from the fire, you can turn decay into magic, heart disease also needs heart medicine, the key is to think through, see through, enlightenment, there will be no pain.

Should agree! Becoming a monk is the real liberation. Because human life is impermanent. Don't cherish it now. I'm afraid it will be in the future. There is no chance. There is a chance to enter the Buddhist sect to practice. It is necessary to grasp it.

If he wants to become a monk, let him become a monk, and let him become a monk and learn the Dharma, and the wisdom of the Dharma can enlighten people's minds and make them no longer feel pain.

Should you go or not stay, you can't stay, the cause is self-explanatory. Let's go find the real great virtue. He was able to help their family.

If the child wants to become a monk, parents can take the following steps:

2.Communication and understanding: Have honest and respectful conversations with your child trying to understand the reasons and motivations behind their decisions. Communication can help build a foundation of mutual understanding and support.

3.Embrace change: Accept your child's choice to become a monk and look for ways to adapt to that change. While you may feel lost or upset, accepting the reality and gradually adapting can help maintain a good relationship with your child.

4.Adapt to the situation: If the child is impulsive, you can let them leave the house for a period of time to hone and experience it. If they were monks, they would have lived the rest of their lives in peace. If they don't adjust to life as a monk, when they calm down, they will come back on their own.

In conclusion, parents should respect their children's choices and communicate and understand with their children to help them achieve their goals in life.

Why are you still studying Buddhism sincerely? I still encountered a lot of sad things, the so-called seeing through the red dust. I think parents should communicate more with their children!

Cut his bald head for him, only give him vegetables to eat in the future, let him get up early in the morning every day to recite scriptures, copy scriptures, and clean up, and let him go to fasting if he can't stand it, and naturally he doesn't want to be when he can't stand it.

If you want to become a monk, it's normal to not be able to let go of the world, and it will be like this.

First of all, it is necessary to understand that being a monk is the greatest filial piety to one's parents.

Second, to become a monk is to fight against our past bad karma, and to get rid of life and death. Becoming a monk is the process of getting rid of life and death, not the process of getting rid of life and death after becoming a monk. The process of becoming a monk is the process of getting rid of life and death.

This monk's heart is stronger than any concentration you have. You see you reciting the Buddha at home, saying that I have this mind, but you can't compare with the merits of being a monk, and you can't compare that mind. Because you haven't been out of the house, you don't know, that thought is even more uncomfortable than the feeling of tearing your heart, liver, and lungs apart.

Because you have let go of the kindness of your parents, the warmth and affection of your family, the love of children, friends, etc. You have to know that these things are the things that kill you, and any one of them can pull you back. If you don't have great concentration, if you don't dare to give up that kind of heart, you can't move.

Therefore, once you want to break this level of thought, it is equivalent to a person fighting against the flood of forty miles. Forty miles of flood! At the same time it is coming to you, and you alone will stand up to the flood of forty miles, and you will have so great strength.

That's why the Buddha said: One day and one night of ordination merit can lead to twenty eons without falling into the evil path. That merit has surpassed the filial piety of the world.

Third, if you want to become a monk, you can first find a Dharma dojo that holds the precepts and practice, and then become a layman.

Monks are all ordained because of the desire of their previous lives, not only of the son of the monk, but also of his mother. If his mother hadn't said in her previous life, "When I want to have a son in the future, I must make him a monk," it would not have happened that her son would have become a monk in this life. His son wants to become a monk, and it must be the desire of his parents that inspired him to reincarnate as a son, and it is the common desire to compose this problem.

But sometimes parents are confused and do not agree with their son's renunciation.

Virtue is treasure, and no desire is rigid. Parents are Buddhas on earth. From the perspective of the Buddha, "all beings are Buddhas".

Looking up at the Buddha with all living beings is the true Buddha! Gassho respectfully! Learning Buddhism is about good intentions, good thoughts, and good deeds.

Look at the lotus flower in the world and worship the Buddha in the wind! Cultivating the mind is the most right. Buddha fate can only be met but not sought, and the palms are preserved in Zen joy.

You can also store it in one room at home. Best regards to Qirui!

Amitabha

To become a monk is to let go, not to let go of filial piety, but to let go of attachment and separation in the heart, and to let go of greed, hatred, ignorance, and suspicion.

You can also become a Buddha at home, and if you are reborn in the Western Elysium in this life, you will become a Buddha and become a Buddha in one life.

To study Buddhism, you need to see the original text of the teacher's teachings, so that you can know how to practice. If you read the teacher's lectures, you won't have any doubts about this question.

Question: After leaving home, is it unfilial piety not to contact and support one's parents?

The old mage repliedYour parents have to be taken care of, no one has to take care of them, and the monks have to take care of them. Since ancient times, there have been many cases of monks being filial to their parents.

The old mage ---Those who recite the Buddha to seek rebirth in the Pure Land have many people at home, and those who are at home are no less successful than those who are monks, and they are equal and have no difference.

The old master --- Shakyamuni Buddha is alive, and he shows that he is a monk practitioner, and at the same time there is a lay monk who is equal to Shakyamuni Buddha's status. From this, it can be seen that ordination and being at home are the form, attaining the Buddhahood is the substance, and Buddhism emphasizes the substance rather than the form, and this truth must be understood and respected. Those who have attained true results at home should treat him as a Buddha.

Like me, wait for your parents to pass away before you become a monk, just don't take your wife, if you don't practice, you won't be able to save your parents from hell.

First of all, persuade the parents to get the consent of the parents, it is not that you will not be able to see your parents if you are a monk, but you will take care of less in the future, and everyone has their own way of life, and if you explain it clearly, they will understand.

If you haven't been able to meet her.。。 OBEY YOUR HEART ... Parents can't accept it for the time being.。。 I'm sure they will understand later. After all, your happiness, health and happiness are what parents want most ...

Since you believe in Buddhism, how can you be attached to your family, it doesn't matter what others think, what matters is yourself.

Why didn't the Taoists, Confucians, and ancient people shave their hair, but monks shaved their hair?

Because Taoism and Confucianism regard keeping the hair given by their parents as filial piety, and monks shave their hair to cut off the dust.

Since you believe in Buddhism, you have to shave off your hair in this world.

Look at your parents, then look at yourself, and you'll understand.