The consequences of scaring small children too often, is it good to scare children often?

It is easy to make children lose a sense of security.

Parents use ghosts and other things to scare children, which will cause children to sleep at night and have nightmares, and sleep quality will decline, which may affect the normal growth and development of children in the long run, so that children dare not be alone, resulting in poor concentration and poor concentration;

Parents scare their children will bring psychological shadows to their children, and will also mislead their children about the image of the police in their hearts, and they will choose to avoid facing the police in the face of danger, thus bringing a shadow to the children's psychology When children are young, it is a process of exploration, and the police are the existence of the people's safety, not the existence of education. Many people think that children's withdrawn personalities, timidity and fears are done by people and things outside, but in fact, the defects in children's personality are basically caused by the original family and their parents, but many children have more flaws in their personality when they are young, and their parents do not pay attention to them. Many parents think that the child is actually like that, and it will be fine when he grows up, and some parents are more strange, and they will blame the flaws in their child's character on ghosts and gods and bad feng shui!

Many children with character defects can actually be seen at a very young age, such as a large group of parents in the original family often quarrel, scold the child, beat the child, and regret taking the child will have a sense of fear for the people in the family, and slowly will not communicate with them, and become very withdrawn and eccentric, if the parents don't care, the child will basically form a withdrawn and eccentric character when he grows up.

Especially when children in rural areas are young, no matter what kind of personality they have, they basically don't care too much about their parents' families, and when the child grows up, the parents will slowly find that the child is very weird, different from other children, but they just don't know that the reason why the child has become like that is because of them. "Intimidation" education stems from the naïve mentality of parents, and it is also a manifestation of parents' inability to control family education, which is easy to cause psychological shadows to children in the long run.

Parents "intimidate" their children is actually very common in our daily lives.

The famous professor "Tiger Mom".

Cai Meier once mentioned that when she was educating her daughter, she had such a very embarrassing thing. Many times, the love that parents give their children will make them very happy and happy, but it will also bring them pressure and anxiety, and they will have some behavior in the face of their children. For example, crying is a good sign.

But sometimes the more you use this method, the less effective it may be, and it is easy to make these behaviors more and more influential in the future. Therefore, in order for the baby to grow up healthily, it is necessary to let him realize what intimidation is. If it goes on like this constantly, there's no way to do it!

Then you're not far from intimidating parenting!

1. What kind of education method hurts children?

In the process of educating children, it is difficult for parents to control their emotions. If parents always threaten with "intimidation", then it is difficult for the baby to isolate from this emotion. Therefore, parents must let their children realize that intimidation is not a bad behavior, but a threat, a kind of love.

This will definitely have an impact on your child and will make it difficult for your baby to get along with others later in life.

Long-term fright is not conducive to the growth of the baby.

It is best to create a quiet environment for the baby, and when guests come to the house, you can tell the laughter to be light.

Babies need enough sleep and should not be disturbed often, and being frightened often is not conducive to the development of character in the future.

Yes, when I was a child, I also got the education of my parents, at that time it was mainly because I was naughty, I didn't study well, and I was back to the bottom of the exam, but this kind of education method of parents is harmful to the growth of children

Clause. 1. There will be rebellion.

When a child makes a mistake, parents do not use persuasion and education to talk to him patiently, but use violence to solve it, which will cause a psychological shadow to the child, and he will have a rebellious psychology in his heart after a long time.

will reject the education of parents and be unwilling to communicate with parents, anyway, in exchange for a beating. Therefore, they will hide their hearts, and after a long time, they may hurt themselves when they have a smile in the face of problems.

Some children will beat their heads hard when they can't solve a problem, but in fact, this is related to the way their parents usually educate them. What's more, children will inflict this violent tendency on others.

When problems arise again, they will not be solved peacefully, but by force, and even hurt others.

Clause. 2. Willing to please others.

Children who grow up under the scare of their parents are prone to be willing to look at other people's faces to please others, and they will follow what others say they are not sure of their inner thoughts, speak carefully, and they will lower their posture.

Because of the fear that others will not like her, the fear of not playing with him, and the desire to please others everywhere, such children do not have their own independent character when they grow up, and they are easy to follow the crowd, and instinctively retreat backwards when they encounter difficulties, so it is difficult for them to succeed.

Thirdly, the child will become very timid.

Children who have lived in the scare of their parents for a long time will become very cowardly and timid, because when facing the parents of the **, they dare not show their hearts, and will only hide behind their backs and secretly observe the faces of their parents to please their parents.

When such a child grows up, he will also become unbrave to take on problems and responsibilities, evade and shirk responsibility, thinking that everything has nothing to do with him, because he has the impression that as long as he bears such a mistake, then he will accept a violent beating.

Clause. Fourth, children will lose trust in their parents.

If parents often carry out threats and intimidation education in the family, when the children are still young, they do not know that what the parents say is false and are all to scare them.

But when the children are older, they begin to have their own consciousness and judgment, they will know that their parents are cheating on themselves, then they will become more and more distrustful of their parents, and they will not want to say it to their parents when they are really in trouble and danger.