Why do parents intimidate their children? What are the dangers of intimidating a child?

<> intimidation is because the child's behavior does not meet the expectations of the parents. Many parents subconsciously expect their children to be good children and meet their expectations; Essentially, parents do not have a correct understanding of the needs expressed by their children's behavior, so if the child's needs are not met, the child's behavior that does not meet the parents' expectations will continue, which is a vicious circle; Parents will naturally take simple and brutal ways to stop their children's behavior, and intimidation is the most direct way! Over time, parents develop learned helplessness.

If you don't listen to me, I'll scare you! Children love to play. Sometimes, they may make their parents impatient because of their quarrels, and they can easily intimidate their children.

The trauma of a child's young mind will never go away. Over time, a child's self-esteem, self-confidence, and even personality will be affected to varying degrees. The child may become reticent and timid and introverted.

Parents often don't know whether to continue the harm, but the damage has already been done. Many parents regret it, but they are powerless to change it.

Insecurity: Parents scare their children with things such as ghosts, which can lead to children not being able to sleep at night, having nightmares, and having a poor quality of sleep. In the long run, it may affect their normal growth and development, making them afraid to be alone, leading to difficulty concentrating and concentration.

Induce psychological disorders: Shocks mainly make children nervous, scared, etc. Scaring a child for a long time may cause a kind of psychological pressure and mental burden on the child.

In such a situation, it is easy to experience inexplicable fear, anxiety, and nervousness. If the child's psychological tolerance is poor, it may induce serious psychological disorders;

The authority of family education refers to the rights and powers of parents over their children, which have a certain restraining effect on children. Building effective family authority can help parents manage their children well. Nowadays, although some parents pay more attention to establishing their authority through various means, and also try to maintain their authority through various ways, the results are often unsatisfactory, and children do not listen to their own words at all, which makes parents very embarrassed.

Scaring children is mainly to make children nervous, afraid, etc., long-term scaring children may cause a kind of psychological pressure and mental burden to children, in this situation it is easy to appear inexplicable fear, anxiety, nervousness, if the child's psychological tolerance is poor, it may induce serious psychological disorders.

Because many parents feel that intimidating their children can make them obedient and make them more well-behaved. Intimidating a child can make a child feel insecure.

It will also cause the child to hate his parents, the child will be very sensitive inside, and the child's personality will become particularly introverted and will become very inferior.

In order to better manage the child and make the child more obedient, first, let the child become timid, second, the child has no self-confidence, third, affect the child's personality, fourth, affect the child's values, and fifth, the child is not creative.

My parents loved me very much, and they were never beaten by my parents when I was a child, but they were intimidated by the elderly.

I have also had the experience of being intimidated when I was a child, because the general environment at that time was like this, and parents would educate their children like this, so many children were rebellious and cowardly.

Intimidation of early childhood education is not advisable, we need to change, otherwise, our children will have the following situation.

Clause. 1. There will be rebellion.

When a child makes a mistake, parents do not use persuasion and education to talk to him patiently, but use violence to solve it, which will cause a psychological shadow to the child, and he will have a rebellious psychology in his heart after a long time.

will reject the education of parents and be unwilling to communicate with parents, anyway, in exchange for a beating. Therefore, they will hide their hearts, and over time, they may hurt themselves when facing problems.

Some children will beat their heads hard when they can't solve a problem, but this is actually related to the way their parents usually educate them. What's more, children will inflict this violent tendency on others.

When problems arise again, they will not be solved peacefully, but by force, and even hurt others.

Clause. 2. Willing to please others.

Children who grow up under the scare of their parents are prone to look at other people's faces to please others, and they will follow what others say, and speak carefully, and they will lower their posture.

Because she is afraid that others will not like her, she is afraid that she will not play with him, and she wants to please others everywhere, such a child will not have her own independent character when she grows up, and she is easy to follow the crowd, and instinctively retreat back when she encounters difficulties, so it is difficult for them to succeed.

Thirdly, the child will become very timid.

Children who have lived in the scare of their parents for a long time will become very cowardly and timid, because when facing the parents of the **, they dare not show their hearts, and will only hide behind their backs and secretly observe the faces of their parents to please their parents.

When such a child grows up, he will also become unbrave to take on problems and responsibilities, evade and shirk responsibility, thinking that everything has nothing to do with him, because he has the impression that as long as he bears such a mistake, then he will accept a violent beating.

Clause. Fourth, children will lose trust in their parents.

When the children are young, they do not know that what the parents say is false and are all to scare them.

But when the children are older, they begin to have their own consciousness and judgment, they will know that their parents are cheating on themselves, then they will become more and more distrustful of their parents, and they will not want to say it to their parents when they are really in trouble and danger.

Frequent threats may lead to low self-esteem, fear, and rebellion. It is recommended that parents take appropriate methods to communicate with their children and avoid using threatening methods to educate their children, so as not to affect their children's mental health.

1. Inferiority complex: Parents often threaten their children, which may lead to children losing confidence in doing things, giving up on themselves, and having an inferiority complex. In severe cases, it will even affect the child's appearance of cowardice, timidity, and fear of things when he grows up;

2. Fear: The child is in the stage of growth and development, and the nervous system has not yet developed. Parents often threaten their children when they make mistakes, which is easy to make children extremely nervous and insecure, which is beyond the normal capacity of the child's nervous system.

May show fear. In severe cases, it may even lead to mental disorders in some children, such as depression and autism.

3. Rebellious psychology: Some children have a stubborn personality, and when parents often threaten their children, some children can gradually resist and talk back, and there is always a rebellious psychology that is not subject to the discipline of the group, which has an unnecessary impact on the children's mental health.

It is recommended that parents should strengthen their children's psychological care, adopt appropriate or only methods, and educate their children with measures that are acceptable to their children. When children make mistakes, they should be disciplined in a rational way, so that children are aware of their own wrong behaviors, so as to avoid threatening children and affecting their psychological development.

Intimidation as a way of educating children is a relatively harsh method, and some parents may use it because they believe that it will quickly correct their child's wrong behavior or create fear to achieve the desired result. However, this approach can have some negative effects in the long run.

First, intimidation can make children feel depressed, fearful, or anxious, and may even lower their self-esteem. Children may resist, avoid, or hide their mistakes instead of truly understanding and correcting their mistakes.

Second, the intimidation approach emphasizes power and punishment rather than helping the child understand the consequences and moral value of the behavior. This may lead the child to change his or her behaviour simply to avoid punishment, rather than out of intrinsic moral considerations.

Finally, the manner in which intimidation is conducted may affect the quality of the parent-child relationship. Children may feel intimidated and resentful of an intimidating parent, leading to tension and alienation in the parent-child relationship.

Conversely, building a positive parent-child relationship and education based on respect and understanding is more conducive to developing a child's sense of responsibility, self-discipline and positive behavior. Setting rules and expectations with your child, giving appropriate guidance and encouragement, leading by example, and encouraging them to participate in decision-making and problem-solving are all ways to help children develop inner values and morals.

It is important to emphasize that educating children is a complex task, and parents who are not familiar with each other may have different educational methods and philosophies. The most important thing is to establish an open and respectful relationship between children and parents, and to provide a safe, caring and positive educational environment whenever possible, which will help children grow up healthy.