Still scaring kids? What are the serious hazards that parents should know in advance?

In the process of family education, do not often scare and threaten children, it is likely that their young minds will be traumatized. It can lead to some psychological disorders.

The first point is not to scare the child, which will make the child very timid, the second point is not to intimidate the child, which will make the child psychologically shadowed, and the third point is not to give the child more requirements, which will make the child very fragile inside.

This will make the child have no confidence and low self-esteem, so it is seriously harmful to the child.

Parents are serious about their children's love, and they want their children to be well. They all hate iron and steel. Girls are outside, and if they come back late, they are not as worry-free as boys.

If a girl goes out and fools around with some indiscriminate people. In the future, it will be girls who will suffer. Therefore, it is normal for parents to be strict with girls.

But it is also necessary to take into account the child's self-feasting and hidden respect. Two. My mother beat me so hard that time.

I remember it vividly. He even whipped me with his belt. I never dared to come home late again.

Or even just stipulate what time to come back? I definitely won't delay. It's also a lesson.

At that time, I felt a little resentful in my heart. But then when I grew up. to understand the love of parents.

When a girl comes home too late, parents are worried. It's the same with boys. Three.

So no matter how many beatings we received when we were children, how much we were scolded by our parents. If not. That kind of abuse of domestic violence.

It's all from the heart of our parents, and it's a serious and serious tutor for us. They just want to make our room better. They just don't want us to lose.

They just want us not to take a detour. So don't resent them, children who grow up under the scare of their parents are prone to be willing to look at other people's faces to please others, and whatever others say, he will follow what he is not sure of his inner thoughts, speak carefully, and they will lower their posture. Because of the fear that others will not like her, the fear of not playing with him, and the desire to please others everywhere, such children do not have their own independent character when they grow up, and they are easy to follow the crowd, and instinctively retreat backwards when they encounter difficulties, so it is difficult for them to succeed.

Thirdly, the child will become very timid. Children who have lived in the scare of their parents for a long time will become very cowardly and timid, because when facing the parents of the **, they dare not show their hearts, and will only hide behind their backs and secretly observe the faces of their parents to please their parents. When such a child grows up, he will also become unbrave enough to take on problems and responsibilities, evade and shirk responsibility, thinking that everything has nothing to do with him, because he has the impression that as long as he bears such a mistake, then he will receive a violent beating.

Parents don't just scare their children, what are the dangers? Children often believe their parents, they don't know that their parents will tell "lies". When parents are always scaring their children, children will have great fear of their surroundings and even lose their sense of security.

Such an environment is not only very dependent on parents, but also has a sense of fear of unfamiliar environments, and it is difficult to face new environments when you grow up. Parents want their children to be brave and strong. If they scare the child too often, they may get the opposite result.

Children who are often intimidated by adults may become very timid and have difficulty adapting to a new environment. Because they tend to behave more timidly than others, children will have low self-esteem, how can such children be braver and stronger? Children's correct cognition needs to be cultivated from an early age.

If parents do not pay attention to this, children will form false perceptions. Many people are superstitious because of their parents' misunderstandings.

Because children are not psychologically sound, if you want to educate children to make them obedient, you can punish him through communication and a certain degree of exercise, so that he can understand the right and wrong of some things, but random scare will never work. Due to various reasons, during the critical period of the formation of children's habits and personalities, they fail to consciously (or there is no good way at all) to follow up and guide them in time, and the usual parent-child problems can be temporarily covered up due to limited time together. The wrong way to educate children.

This method makes the child fearful, but the heart is rebellious against the mother. Tell a story to tell your child what to do, or as an analogy to tell him what is right and what is wrong.

Many of our mothers become hateful generally from the beginning of their children's schooling, once it comes to learning, when it comes to grades, the cute and good baby in their own eyes in the past is suddenly dissatisfied, so mothers in the education of children before thinking about it, what they are about to do or is doing is not to have some impact on the child, the child will have a shadow.

Parents can indeed scare their children by doing this, but for those who are already vulnerable, this practice will only bring fear to the children, and is not educational, and will seriously leave a psychological shadow on the children. A child's sense of security comes from his parents, who are the most trusted and dependent people for their children, and most of their children's cognition comes from their parents.

Parents are the most important role in a child's life and the most important teacher in the child's growth. Every word and deed and every action of parents will have a huge impact on their children, and parents who love to read will never cultivate children who love to play. Therefore, in order to educate children well, parents themselves should set a good example, so that children can see the qualities that parents are worth learning, and children will imitate them.

However, there are many parents who do not realize this in the process of educating their children, and will make some strange behaviors, and these actions will have a negative impact on the child, such as: making the child become very unconfident. When parents often exhibit these behaviors, it can make children become very unconfident, and even become timid and cowardly.

Clause. 1. Scare children often.

Some parents don't know how to reason with their children calmly when educating their children. When they want to teach their children the truth, they do so by scaring them, for example: when the child wants to reach out and touch the electric socket, the parents will not tell the child that this is a very dangerous thing, but will shout loudly, "The finger is chopped off for you!"

Let you mess around! Seeing the child tremble with fright, and quickly retract his little hand in fright, parents feel that their education has achieved its purpose.

However, if parents often tell their children the truth by "yelling" in this way, it will make the child become submissive when doing things, and even afraid of contact with other objects, and over time, the child will become very unconfident. Therefore, when parents educate their children, they must not scare them, scaring will only make the child timid, and they should tell the child gently and reasonably, which is more useful than scare.

Clause. Second, let the child feel that he can't do it.

When some parents talk to other parents, they will always "humbly" say that their children are not good, and they don't care whether their children are listening or not. For example, when the mother takes the child for a walk and meets an acquaintance, the acquaintance will definitely praise the child, "Oh, your child is so tall and has good academic performance, unlike my child." , The child will be very happy to hear such a compliment, but Bao's mother's next words poured a basin of cold water on the child: "**,**, my child is stupid, and it is difficult to learn something, or your child is smarter."

Parents are invited to put themselves in the child's shoes and think about it, will the child be happy when he hears his parents belittle him like this? If your child often hears those closest to him belittle him or her in front of outsiders, will he be able to gain confidence? Therefore, it is better to say less modest and polite words, especially when the child is present, otherwise it will affect the child's self-confidence.

I believe that many parents don't notice the two points mentioned above, but they will behave like this. If you don't want your child to become unconfident in the future, then ask parents to change these behaviors quickly, otherwise it will affect the healthy growth of the child!

The most direct impact is the resistance and distrust of parents.

The child will be scared and insecure.

Children will be insecure Children obey the requirements of their parents because of the intimidation of adults, and the parents have stopped, but they do not know that young children have limited ability to distinguish and take the intimidation of adults as a reality, and the young mind will be hurt, and the child will have extreme insecurity, distrust of the people around him, and even fear of certain things.

The child will develop extreme insecurity and distrust of the surroundings.

Children will be timid, cowardly, and unconfident.