Why is it that the older you get, the fewer you have?

I haven't had many friends all along, and I haven't had any friends until now. I'm only eighteen years old, girl, am I really bad?

People have changed

You should say that there are fewer and fewer true friends

Because people are selfish

People have various concepts, and naturally treat things differently, and different concepts and values naturally can't be together.

When I grow up, there are more things to consider, and people have become all kinds of things, not necessarily along, not as simple as when I was a child, and it is normal to find friends again.

Grew up. Thinking about things is also complicated.

When I was young, I was simple, I didn't want to touch too much, I could say anything, I was unselfish, and it was easy to make friends. When I grow up, I always put my own interests first.

Children think about the problem very simply, there are many things to face when they are older, and people are very different from each other, and they all have their own lives, so...

The reason is simple.

When people reach middle age, they finally figure out that the so-called friend relationship is divided into two categories in the end: utilitarian relationship, or empathy relationship.

Utilitarian relationship: Everyone has a little business dealings, or a bit of power and money transactions, and they can exchange things with each other, and they can exchange things for a long time, and such a relationship can often last for a long time. But once the exchange does not exist, the relationship fades, which is the so-called exchange of interests and dispersion of interests.

Empathetic relationship: Everyone has some common interests and hobbies, and the level is about the same, so we can talk about it for a while. Wan Chang or each other's three views are relatively close to each other, and they can scold their mothers together and applaud together, so everyone usually gathers and chatters, so as not to flip the table on the spot.

Middle-aged people basically don't have a few relaxed, why bother to find a few good friends for yourself, for example, the Xi'an Metro, one supports the security guard, the other supports the female passengers, such two people, there is no way to get along for a long time.

So in addition to the above two relationships, what other types of relationships do you think? Colleague? Schoolmate? A colleague is never a friend, just someone who has to be tied together at a certain time and place.

So in the end, there are only three or five confidants left. The other most important time is the hot kang head of the wife and children. Now that the double has been reduced, hurry up and find a tutor for my son who is in junior high school, how can I have time to deal with the so-called ordinary friends who are not in harmony with ..... face and heart every day

First, after getting married, there are too many people who can't help themselves, and because they are already married, they will put more feelings and energy on their families. Before we got married, we were relatively free in terms of time, and when we had nothing to do, some friends could just call out and get together. But once you get married and have a family, there is a kind of bondage, especially after having children, there are more ties, you can't go out if you can't say it, and the two filial piety Hu Sheng is a friend, if you have time, she may not have time, when she needs you, you may not have time, in short, the intersection is getting less and less, and because of this reason, the contact between the two people is also less, naturally, slowly it will be unfamiliar.

Second, now that communication technology is developed, two people don't need to go out, and they can do face-to-face, but this kind of face-to-face is still not as real as meeting each other, just like saying that couples in a long-distance relationship, even if they call, send messages, and even chat, they are not as good as couples who can meet every day, and come more realistically. Therefore, this kind of communication method also shortens the distance between the two people, making the two people unconsciously become strangers.

Third, there is a very important reason, in fact, it is the same as falling in love, the interaction between friends, but also pay attention to the right person, do lack of like-mindedness, when they are not married, the two people can be said to be equal in strength, but once married, I think there may be a gradual gap in the economy, especially after a few years of marriage, after more than ten years, the gap has gradually opened. Because there is a certain gap in the economic level of the two colors, it also leads to a psychological gap between the two people, or even if the two people sit together, they may not have a common language, which leads to the fact that Qiaofeng's two friends are becoming more and more alienated.

The older people get, the fewer and fewer friends there will be, I believe everyone will have such an experience, but in the end we will also find that although there are fewer and fewer friends, but in the end the rest is also the most worthy of us, sometimes it is really like that, friends do not need too many, to have several, when we have difficulties, when we need them, to be able to help, it is enough.

I don't know if you have noticed that as you get older, you feel more and more lonely.

Even if it seems that you have a lot of friends, only you understand that those are just so-called friends of wine and meat. When something unfortunate happens to you, few people will help you.

You gradually understand that people are lonely individuals.

I suddenly remembered a sentence, "When I was a child, I had a circle of friends, and when I grew up, I had a circle of friends left." "I think there are many, many people in our lives who have appeared, and as time goes by, too many people have come out of our world.

Maybe between people, there are two different trajectories of the road in a straight way, to a fork in the road, it is difficult for you to intersect again.

Why is it that in the long river of time, the feelings between people are getting weaker and weaker?

Between friends, there are bad friends, but also good friends.

For example, when I was in school before, I knew a classmate, we became friends very well, the two of us were often inseparable, after graduating out of the society, she often complained to me about work matters, and I was like her, complaining to each other about the work was not going well.

But when I find that every day is miserable, I always think about the question of why the fate of the two of us is so difficult, why others can live well, while we ourselves live in a bad environment.

In fact, to put it bluntly, the two did not guess that Jane did positive communication.

Because true concern must first respect people and not easily criticize you. It is precisely because of Brother La's concern that you have a beam of light in your life, and this light is enough to dispel the darkness in your life.

Life with such a friend is often lucky.

So, when you reach a certain age, it's time to clean up your circle of friends, and if you meet someone who is not suitable, please stay away. Leave time with those who are good to you, even if you are lonely in life, with their company, life will be chic.

Because I grew up and had my own career and family, I didn't have so much time to socialize, so I had fewer and fewer friends.

Like-minded people have the opportunity to become friends.

The first reason: the favor is not in place. The encounter between people is originally a fate, the fate is deep and gathered, and the fate is shallow and goes with it.

And many times, no matter how good a person is, some people will say that it is not good; No matter how bad a person is, someone will praise him. This is the affection between people, which is closely related to the individual's attitude towards the world and the conditions for making friends. In fact, Zi Yue knows that most of his friends are very affectionate and nostalgic.

So after more than ten or twenty years, I am still willing to go to the reunion of classmates and friends, just to connect with feelings and enhance friendship. However, when people reach middle age, most of them have already started a family, and the responsibilities and burdens on their shoulders are not small, so it is inevitable to be distracted by the trivial things of life. When one day, you and you suddenly remember to contact a friend, and then find that they have nothing to say to each other, and even a little embarrassed, that is a sign of the end of your fate.

In fact, this also shows from the side that you usually don't spend energy on managing friendships, which is why there is such an embarrassing situation, that is, the favor is not in place. The second reason is that the gap between rich and poor is widening.

When people reach middle age, they have their own fixed circles, and the people in the circle often have similar living standards and levels. This is what people often say, "things gather by like, people by groups"! But everyone wants to go to a higher place, and no one wants to blindly be backward compatible, so there is a situation where the two cannot be reconciled.

The poor want to be friends with the rich, in order to get the support of the rich, but the rich want to associate with the richer, so they are often unwilling to waste time on the poor, which is the first point that cannot be reconciled. At the same time, the consumption level and consumption concept of the rich and the poor are different, and when the poor see that the rich "spend a lot of money", they will naturally be at a loss, and have an inferiority complex, and if they consume impulsively, they will regret it afterwards, which is the second point. If you and your old friend already have a huge wealth gap, there is no good chance that the friendship will continue, unless you both still appreciate each other very much and match each other in terms of ideological height.

First of all, this should be from the point of view of your age, if you are under the age of 25 and you are very young and want to go out to break through, but if you are over 25 years old, you will face a series of problems such as marriage and family.

Because we will meet some like-minded people in every period of growth, but as we grow, our knowledge, our experience, and our life experience may allow us to meet more people, and some people may always become our friends.

1. The estrangement of friends is because they look down on the world, and it is boring and boring to interact with friends.

Friends' hearts can not be looked at directly, if you look directly, you will find that your friend's heart will be incomparably powerful, and when it comes to interests, you will be at peace, but whenever interests are involved, friends will begin to care, so your heart will feel no more tired, only more tired, see more people between friends, listen to more friends The world is cold, rather than to get close to friends, it is better to be alone and comfortable, Dustbridge would rather spend more leisure time with family members than accompany friends, friends and relatives are completely different, Friends are interests, friends are there, if interests are not there, friends will become friends on paper.

Shoot misses. Second, the relationship between friends seems to be strong, but it is actually a false image of Paiga, and it is inherently fragile, so that if you don't continue to operate, the relationship between friends will gradually drift apart.

Continuing to operate the relationship of friends is inseparable from eating and drinking, and you need to get together every three or five times, but if there is no contact for a long time due to various things delayed, the relationship between friends will gradually fade, not to mention meeting, even if there is very little contact, except for the false greetings of the New Year's holidays, there is no rest of the intersection.

Third, the management of friendship needs to go with the flow, the more people grow up, the more mature they will be, the more they will focus on the family, and the daily life will put more spare time and more spare time on the family, and strive to make the life of the family colorful.

If you take out half of the thoughts of treating false friends and treat your loved ones, you will not be in vain to treat your loved ones, and you will even get double the reward.

When I get older, the big change and the cracked families have their own families and lives, plus the reasons for work, there are fewer friends, and the original friends have no time to come and go, or slowly forget about it, so there are fewer and fewer friends.