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Psychological qualities. The foundation of everything. But there is no doubt that not everyone can be strong and not afraid of wind and rain.
And some people go astray and disguise themselves as strong on the surface, but how fragile they are inside, I'm afraid only he knows.
From a psychological point of view, in fact, the more fragile the heart, the more people tend to have these three experiences. Let's compare it and see your heart.
1) When encountering problems, always attribute internally.
What do you think when you encounter a setback, a failure, or the wrath of someone else?
Psychologists have found through research that a person who is confident and has a strong heart often blames others for the source of the problem. For example, when someone gets angry at them, they think, "You're probably a xx."
But the worse the psychological quality, the easier it is to attribute the problem to themselves, and in the face of other people's anger, they are easy to find the problem from themselves: "Is it that I did something bad and offended the other party".
This difference in thinking makes people who are vulnerable at heart often more vulnerable to harm from the outside world.
2) Focus on others and crave the approval of others.
Everyone's inner world is composed of two parts, one part comes from self-knowledge, and the other part comes from connection with the outside world.
People who are fragile in their hearts have little confidence in themselves and their self-perception cannot meet their psychological needs, so they will especially crave recognition from the outside world.
Therefore, such people tend to be very concerned about the feelings and opinions of others, and they focus on the people around them, but neglect to pay attention to their own psychological state.
So such people are often very sensitive, and a look or action from others can make him think crankily for a long time. An approval and a smile from others can make him feel happy from the bottom of his heart.
But that's not right, we shouldn't leave our emotions to others.
3) I like to disguise myself very much, and I am very keen on how to become mature and have an aura.
The more fragile people are, the more they like to disguise themselves and make themselves extremely powerful. They are keen to learn all kinds of techniques to make themselves look mature and aura.
The essence of this behavior is still due to inner insecurity. Because it is fragile, it is not possible to feel at ease. You can only protect your heart by building layer after layer of fortresses.
But in fact, this camouflage is a palliative rather than a cure, and the psychological state is still so fragile. Therefore, such a person is extremely emotionally unstable. It's easy to touch the scene, and inexplicably shed tears and feel lonely.
Conclusion: Poor psychological quality is not a big problem, no one is born a person with a strong heart. As long as you are willing to admit your shortcomings and shortcomings, and work hard to correct them. Eventually, your heart will become stronger.
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People who lack inner cultivation and shallow knowledge. They will be very concerned about some material things, and they will be very superficial in terms of speech and conversation.
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People who lack inner cultivation and are shallow in knowledge generally seem more frizzy and brag when dealing with others.
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People who lack cultivation and shallow inner knowledge will behave as stubborn, arrogant, and self-righteous.
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Shallow knowledge does not necessarily mean that there is no cultivation, if you don't have both, you are very arrogant and don't care about the feelings of others.
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In fact, I think that if a person is lacking, the inner cultivation may be more superficial.
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He thinks that he can manage everything in the world, and he knows everything. Not careful. Make your own decisions on any issue. Uh-huh.
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It is very inappropriate for people who buy a car to stick to the house and have nothing to do with it, and some behavioral habits are also relatively poor.
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Yes, this kind of person is easy to make mistakes, and his own knowledge and cultivation are insufficient.
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