I m confused because my relationships are chaotic and I really don t understand

Interpersonal relationships also need to be learned. How to deal with the relationship between two people needs to be considered, not that you think that the relationship between the two of you is good. Your relationship must be good.

I think there are two aspects to how to learn how to handle interpersonal relationships well, the first is from your own point of view, whether your interaction with this person will affect your interaction with others, and whether it will affect your vital interests. These are two questions you should ponder. Second, from his point of view, what will you bring to him if you associate with him?

For what reason did he associate with you? Because we believe that the interaction between two people can be defined as the exchange of interests in a broad sense, and the emotional needs of individuals are also included in the interests in a broad sense. Only this reciprocity in the broad sense of the word.

The long-term win-win situation is maintained. Your relationship will last a long time. Not by any means.

The above is a contemptible **, wrong, hope to criticize and correct.

Set a goal for yourself first, and then complete it, the process is the reason why you are unhappy, think about it, what you want most, the understanding of happiness, and the definition, is your own choice, there is no difference between people and people themselves, open your heart, make friends sincerely, treat everyone honestly, little by little you will understand, nothing is absolute.

55 tricks to help you handle relationships.

Tip 1: Recognize the meaning of life and the goal of your life.

It's good to have a sweet mouth and a thick skin.

The main reason may be that LZ is not social enough, and there are also personality reasons.

There are a lot of young people who are the kind of people who have a big grinning personality and are bold and kind to people, but they are a little dull like missing strings In fact, if it's a personality reason, I think it's good to be yourself Social experience is not everyone born with exquisite facets The key is accumulation and observation.

Talk less and observe more, when you are with friends, you can talk less and listen more to how they communicate, especially if you think that students who are more scheming can understand the psychological movements of others when they speak by becoming a listener.

Calm down and don't be too sensitive to problems in interpersonal relationships, sometimes it turns out that we just think too much about ourselves, go with the flow, and be kind to others, and naturally have a good relationship.

Give others an amiable image In fact, when talking or chatting with others, being hurt by other people's words (mostly unintentionally) or making a bad mood This kind of thing is very common It is not surprising The key is to see how LZ grasps himself Others respect me I respect him Others have no intention of hurting me I laugh it off If others maliciously slander me, I don't have to fight It seems that we are very ungraceful It's a big deal to die and don't get along with each other in the future.

Listen more to your friends' opinions lz should cultivate a few good friends from their mouths to get feedback information at any time The parties are confused by bystanders, and they may think that they are right to do this, but it is wrong from the perspective of a third party Listen to the good opinions of others more can save you a lot of detours.

If you want to understand interpersonal relationships, you need to get in touch with people with various personalities and lifestyles, communicate more, and the more you communicate, the more you will understand. You should pay more attention to the people around you who have good relationships, see how they talk to different people on different occasions, and learn from them yourself.

I'm not talking about the kind of communication between good friends, it's talking to people you don't know, and you can go to the department store to bargain (you don't have to buy anything, you just do bargaining); Then there is the need to go to the bank, or the business hall and other places to ask about the business, these can improve your communication skills, and you will understand when you talk more.

You mentioned that "you don't know what you've done wrong", you don't have to worry about this, everyone may inadvertently talk about other people's pain points and hurt others, but as long as you don't mean it, you don't have to blame yourself, because those facts can't be avoided, and everyone has things that they don't want to say to others.

If you want to improve the ability to communicate with others, you can only talk more and communicate more, as long as you grasp the degree of speaking, try not to say it when you can say it.

That's because your own circle of friends is too narrow and you don't communicate enough with others.

Everybody has a time when they inadvertently hurt someone.

1. A few bunches of punch lines: 1. More communication, less questions. 2. Know more and make more friends.

3. Be calm and solve problems. 2. Think differently: Think more from the perspective of others, feel how others feel, and you will know how to act without messing things up, which is the benefit of thinking from the perspective of others.

Now add: Especially think about the problem from the customer's point of view, think about yourself as a customer, and you will know some of the other party's ideas. Three, two people get along:

When two people get along, in addition to the basic sincerity, it is more important to understand (understand each other's situation or difficulties or hardships or performances), and then do self-adjustment and improvement (that is, adjust their mentality and improve their behavior), followed by care and care (more care can bring each other closer, and more care can deepen each other's understanding). Now add:

As Lianzhi said, when there is a contradiction: 1. Find problems in yourself first, don't complain about others first, and push the problem onto others. 2. To change things, first change yourself; To make things better, make yourself better first!

3. If you want others to respect you, you need to respect others first. At the beginning of 06, a senior surnamed Liang, who had been in the supply and marketing cooperatives for decades, gave the lotus branch this sentence when chatting: things are reasonable, and the heart is peaceful!

To comprehend the lotus branch more, it is really very philosophical, and I will also send it to you here to think about and comprehend. Fourth, we must pay first: Everyone wants to be understood, cared for and loved by others, so how to get it?

Hee-hee, just one sentence: if you want others to be good to you, you have to be good to others first. That is to say, if you give your understanding, care and love first, you will get a correspondingly better return, believe it?!

Now add: Do you understand the concept of "giving"? Give it up before you get it.

As long as you understand the phrase "giving is happier than receiving", you will understand.

Dear, just be yourself, you are unique. You don't have to be as beautiful as everyone else, and everyone likes you. You don't want to do things that everyone hates, although the relationship is usually average, it doesn't matter, and everyone will gradually like people like you.

Don't get along with people with a purpose, treat them with your heart, treat them sincerely, and you will get along well with anyone.

There are many books on this technique, so you can check it out.