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Updated on psychology 2024-07-12
10 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    I feel the same way, the distress of the post-90s children! In fact, our parents' love for us has exceeded what we have shouldered. Sometimes it's really cornered us.

    Either way, our parents are always good for us, even if there may be a little bit of a problem in the way! However, I think the fundamental solution to these problems is communication and exchange. Tell your parents what you really think in your heart, you can make a promise to them that "it doesn't affect learning" and put it into practice, and I believe that the parents who love you should understand you.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    There is no doubt that your parents are doing your best, and I guess you will agree with me.

    It's just that the methods your parents used were too simplistic for you to stand it. In fact, 1 hour of online time a day is not a long time, but in the eyes of parents, students should focus on learning, homework is written, you can preview, you can do exercises in the extracurricular workbook... Otherwise, go to bed, wake up early tomorrow morning or recuperate enough to prepare for tomorrow's homework, etc.

    This is the difference between the two sides from different positions, and this difference can only be resolved through communication. You are a child, and if you want to communicate with your parents, you must choose the right time, and you must also pay attention to the way you speak, and you can't simply give your parents opinions, so as not to have the opposite effect.

    From your side, try to restrain yourself to calm down and study, and it is not easy for your parents to provide you with reading. They are traditional Chinese, and they are all expected to be Jackie Chan's thoughts, you have to understand them more. I remember reading a Japanese writer's notebook about how he was disgusted when his parents urged him to study when he was a child, but when he became a father, he disciplined his son more strictly than his father.

    What does this story illustrate? Explain that different stages of life will have different thoughts and practices--- please understand your parents' strict discipline of you in a positive way.

    Realistically, you can set a schedule with your parents, such as how much time you spend online each day, and stop as soon as the time comes. This may reduce many contradictions.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    I don't think parents don't want you to relax, but they are afraid that you won't be able to control yourself, especially the Internet, so many children are addicted to it now, they are afraid that you will fall. They don't have much culture, so I don't want you to be like them in the future, although they are a bit rushed, but don't resent, it's all for your good. You need to talk to your parents and get to know each other better.

    Let them know what you think, they scold or don't listen, don't be discouraged and use time to prove that you can.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Do you understand your parents' good intentions?! You can use facts to prove what you have gained online, so that parents can dispel their concerns. For example, you can ask a question to your parents, and then you can find it through the Internet to convince them of the charm of the Internet.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Parents will always have nags about their children. In fact, many times children also know that their parents will also have such nagging because they love themselves, you know that they are for their own good, but they will still be impatient, it may be the following reasons.

    First, you don't recognize their values。Perhaps it's because the times we grew up in have changed so much that some of the values that many parents have ingrained in us are outdated. Although they will make some suggestions for your life with the intention of doing it for your own good, it will be difficult for you to accept because of the fault of this value.

    For example, there are a lot of complaints on the Internet every year urging marriage, and only when the parents' generation really gets married can they really grow up, so that they can really rest assured, but in the eyes of our generation, marriage is not a compulsory course in life. When you ask him to marry you, you don't agree with their views, and you naturally feel impatient.

    Second, Chinese parents will start by belittling their children when they express concern. Parents who don't know how to achieve national uniformity are not good at expressing their love, and they often show their concern by belittling their children. But when children are exposed to the outside world, they do not approve of this demeaning love.

    For example, many parents are obviously very satisfied with their children's achievements, but they never praise him, but hope to make him more enterprising by belittling each other. Perhaps, when the child makes a statement, it is understandable that the parents are painstaking, but when a person is always faced with negative energy, he will definitely feel impatient. The way parents and children communicate is something that needs to change.

    Third, parents will tell you these things in a commanding tone, and no one will like an eternal command。This may be caused by paternalistic families, and many parents will tell their children in a fateful tone what to do? Will he tell you directly what to do?

    And what kind of result there is, and it will not let you feel the process. Most parents are eager to put all their lessons on their children, so that they can avoid all the curves and go straight to success. But in fact, everything needs to have an experience process, but after these processes are arbitrarily canceled by parents, they will definitely feel impatient and make children feel that they are a tool to make up for their shortcomings.

    In general, even if you know that your parents are doing it for your own good, you still feel impatient, mostly because of poor communication with your parents. We understand our parents' love for us, but we can't express it to us in any way. This is also a collision of thinking between two generations, and it can't be said that he is not good, I just hope that we can learn lessons from our parents and get along with each other from generation to generation!

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    You know that your parents do things for your own good, but you feel annoyed, which means that you just feel that your parents are too careful, in fact, you also know that they are kind, but you feel that you don't follow your heart.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Because sometimes we can't put ourselves in our parents' shoes, we know that they are good for us, but sometimes we can't control our temper and become impatient.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Hello, I have seen your problem.

    I've all had this experience. When you feel impatient, you need to restrain your emotions and find ways to calm yourself down and avoid arguing with your parents so that things don't make things worse.

    Hope it helps.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Because of the age gap between us and our living environment, our parents can't understand our tiredness.

    I heard that if the age difference is more than four years old, there is basically a generation gap, language communication will encounter barriers, and the two people will have different ideas.

    The phenomenon of the generation gap is more vividly reflected in parents and children. As adults, most young people say there is less and less talk about their parents.

    Since leaving his parents and living alone, he has gradually changed from having nothing to say to having nothing to say.

    In fact, this is normal. Even if they are good friends who have been playing together since childhood, they can't see each other every day when they grow up, and after they have their own circles, they will not have a common topic when they are connected.

    The content of the chat is even simpler, a few perfunctory words of greeting, and when I hang up**, I suddenly feel relieved, and I finally finish coping with it, and then I won't contact you again for many days.

    Get up early every day to catch the bus to work, sometimes I can't even eat, I come home late after work every day, I buy food, cook and wash clothes, and some have to pick up and drop off my children to and from school.

    Not every weekend belongs to me, and I need to work overtime when I am busy at work, and I don't have my own rest time at all.

    I remember when I first went to work, every day was like a roller coaster, sometimes you would be happy for a long time because of a word of praise from your boss, and sometimes you would be angry with yourself because of a little mistake at work.

    In fact, we are very tired every day, and it is not the physical labor that really makes us tired, but the heart.

    We don't expect our parents to understand, because in their eyes, we sit in the office every day at work, thirsty, hungry, windy, rainy, how can we be tired. Yes, in their opinion, tiredness should be rural labor and factory labor, and not the fatigue of the invisible spirit.

    It's not the parents' fault. Most of them have been engaged in manual labor and have also suffered too much, so in their opinion, it is called tiredness.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Summary. I feel that my parents don't understand you, so I should be very distressed and annoyed, so I understand your feelings. How do your parents not understand you?

    What should I do if my parents don't understand me and make me very distressed?

    I feel that my parents don't understand you, so I should be very distressed and annoyed, so I understand your feelings. How do your parents not understand you?

    I didn't want to make up the lessons, I felt like it was a waste and even made me hate the subject.

    I understand that they are for my own good, but they want me to be independent all of a sudden, and there are many things that I don't know and haven't been exposed to, and they let me do it myself, but when I finish it, they tell me that I did it wrong, and let me know clearly that I have done something wrong, but I don't understand it, why? Could have done it well. I think they think of me too much, I can't stand it.

    Oh, your parents keep asking you to make up for it, and you don't want to make it up. Parents may want to improve your grades and do well in the college entrance examination. The starting point should be good. However, if you make up too much, the effect may be limited, and it will also delay time.

    They want you to be independent, so what do you do?

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