Why does my blind date always go badly?

Blind date is the beginning of acquaintance, and it is to give feelings a chance.

First of all, you must be clear about your own conditions and requirements.

It is best to match and at the same time have a certain range of adaptation.

If you are too demanding, others may not look down on you, and it will be in vain.

If the conditions are too low, you will be wronged and aggrieved.

Then there is the flexibility of movement, meeting the right person, and lowering certain requirements appropriately.

Don't go all the way to the end.

You can grasp your own happiness, and adapt to small problems through running-in.

Ideally, the chances of meeting a satisfied percentage of people are too small.

It's almost okay, slowly cultivate feelings, and as long as you like each other, you will become more and more harmonious.

You're looking for someone who can spend the rest of your life with you, and it's right to take your time and find it.

Why do you always go wrong with your blind date, maybe the way and method of your blind date are wrong.

As they grow older, many young generations come to the time of marriage, and at this time, the elders of the family will begin to arrange the introduction of blind dates, but the success rate is always not high, why is this?

This is a question to be answered in two directions.

One is the problem from the direction of the introducer, and the other is the problem from the person being introduced.

One. Introducer's question.

1.This problem is also the problem of the elders, and it is very direct that most of the elders do not have a clear understanding of the real interests of the younger generations when they introduce them to the younger generations, but only match them according to the very superficial one, family conditions and personal income, in fact, most people lack understanding of both sides he wants to introduce.

2.In addition, many elders are not seriously introduced, but spontaneously, and when they talk about gossip with relatives, neighbors and even colleagues, they arrange blind dates as they wish. You must know that Bu Zheng's blind date introduction is not necessarily a good job even for professional matchmakers, and they are introduced at will, of course, the success rate is not high.

3.There is another point, sometimes the blind date introduced by the elders may be deliberately arranged to fail. In order to get married to their children, many elders have also put a lot of thought into the blind date.

In the conventional practice, I will deliberately find a few people who are not suitable or have lower conditions than the child's vision, let the child feel a round of frustration first, and then arrange them.

2.The introduce's question.

The young men and women who are introduced to the blind date actually have some problems themselves.

Many people are singled because they have problems, or even problems with the opposite sex.

Of course, there are many people whose own conditions are not very good, and they do not recognize their own situation, and they have too high requirements for others, and they can't look down on them everywhere.

In addition to the above two points, it is also very important that many young people are more exclusive to blind dates, and many still have expectations for themselves to find a partner, of course, there are also people who do not want to get off the list, and they will not succeed if they are forcibly arranged.

Of course, putting aside these problems, it is not easy to find a partner by itself, otherwise everyone will not always say that fate is rare.

The blind date is actually a quick match of marriage, and when you fall in love, you will often find that there is no match and you will be separated and replaced, not to mention that marriage is a more prudent life event? The blind date itself is a fast marriage, and it is naturally inappropriate, so it is normal to fail often.

Have you been on a blind date? Or what blind date stories have you heard?

1.When introducing the blind date, some elders often stand in the perspective of their generation and pay too much attention to the dimensions they care about as the screening criteria. Individual elders want you to start a family as soon as possible, and rarely come to understand your feelings and needs.

They don't know, or don't agree with some of your ideas, and if you refuse, they'll find you too picky.

2.Excessive intervention and excessive concern have affected the communication between the two sides. Many elders will often stare at you and ask about the situation, so you are repeatedly interrogated, and you seem to have become a clown on the stage, making people watch and gossip.

They will also give you some completely unreliable advice. will persuade you that feelings can be cultivated slowly, urging you to get married.

In the process of interacting with two people, the "kind assistance" of several people is inserted, and between the elders, you have no privacy, and they often interfere in the interaction between you, and the scene becomes chaotic. So, you become a marionette.

3.The relationship between two people has become a cold number of missing hunger, love needs feelings, and most blind dates, basically, are directly height, occupation, income These data seem to make the blind date become a commodity. Elders attach too much importance to the "data" they care about, in fact, when two people are together, many times, they need to feel and get along, not just some gorgeous "data".

As a result, the blind date seems to have become an aunt who goes to the vegetable market to buy vegetables, picking and choosing. And he seems to be a green vegetable and a radish, waiting for others to choose.

4.A large part of the blind date is unreliable people. The blind date of the juniors, sometimes, the return may be blindly mixed by the elders, and the other party does not want to participate at all, but due to the pressure of the elders, they have to "act on the spot", and as a result, both parties are very embarrassed.

On the other hand, in the process of blind date, there are some people you meet who may have some problems themselves.

The blind date itself is a low-probability thing, just like a numbers game, after a certain amount, you may meet a person who is really suitable for you.

Normal, it's not easy to fall in love from the bench, let alone go on a blind date. It's good to put your mind flat, and others don't look down on you because you're not good, it's just that you don't look at your eyes.