Always doubt that you can t do what you re doing!

Hehe, in fact, you are a manifestation of a slight obsessive-compulsive disorder, such as the door that was clearly locked upstairs and you have to come back to see if it is locked, etc., in fact, you just have to think "What can you do even if those jobs are not done well, will it be a big deal?" There is nothing important except death", and in ordinary times, just think of the word "no desire is just".

The fear of failure you mentioned later is actually a little inferiority complex or lack of confidence in yourself, here is a sentence from Mr. Yu Minhong, "Are you the number one in the world?" No, so you don't have to be so proud, then are you the worst in the world, no, so there's no need to be so inferior."

In short, you just need to open up everything you want.

This situation will be common to many people, like, usually when you go out, you are always worried about whether you remember to close the door, close the window, turn off the lights or something, be confident, tell yourself, have confidence in your memory

We can plan for tomorrow, but we can't worry about tomorrow, just do what we can do well, with a clear conscience. I'm not a god, how can I manage so much, even if tomorrow the day is going to come down, I can finish my day happily and say today...

The performance of an idealist.

I often feel this way, and after studying psychology, I realized that this is a mental illness, called obsessive-compulsive disorder! When a person repeatedly forces himself to do one thing, that is, he has obsessive-compulsive disorder, it seems that the landlord's situation is not very serious, appropriate diversion of attention, more physical activities, should be able to **!

Suddenly, the scene in front of you feels so familiar, you know everything about it, even the next scene, as if you have experienced it before. However, this is not the case. According to a recent survey, 2 in 3 adults have had at least one such "déjà vu" experience.

According to the analysis of a professor of psychology and doctoral supervisor at Peking University, the feeling of "déjà vu" occurs in everyone: however, if this feeling is too frequent and too intense, it is a pathology. This "déjà vu" is the result of the interaction between the perceptual and memory systems in the human brain, and it mostly occurs when the mood is unstable.

Déjà vu is not an easy task. "Déjà vu" tends to occur in an emotionally unstable state and in the experience of a scene. Although all people experience the subjective experience of "déjà vu", it does not mean that "déjà vu" occurs equally in all people.

Generally speaking, things that are closely related to emotions are easy to remember. Therefore, if you are in a state of emotional instability, then the probability of "déjà vu" occurring is high. And in a person's life, during menopause and adolescence, the body's endocrine will undergo drastic changes, so that the person is in a state of emotional instability, and the memory will become very active.

At this time, the phenomenon of "déjà vu" is more likely to occur. "Déjà vu" occurs mainly in the experience of the scene. It is because every perception arises in a specific scene.

Such scenes tend to be a large backdrop that doesn't require special attention and runs into the brain to form unconscious memories. This unconscious memory sometimes pops up in a specific scene and mixes with perception. In the phenomenon of "déjà vu", most of the memories that are mobilized are unconscious.

Since childhood, all experiences, whether they want to remember or don't want to remember, have traces of these memories in their minds, and they pop up in some very special circumstances. When it is transmitted into consciousness, a feeling of "déjà vu" is created.

If the behavior or thought originates from the self and goes against one's will, the conscious self-compulsion and counter-compulsion coexist and the conflict is strong, and although the resistance is strong, it cannot be controlled and escaped, so it feels anxious and painful; Then you should have obsessive-compulsive disorder, and repeated check-ups (mostly "do things according to a certain format") are a common compulsive behavior manifested by OCD, and another common compulsive behavior is repeated washing (e.g., washing hands more than 10 times a day).

Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is more common in adolescence or early adulthood, with a slightly higher incidence in women.

Suggestions: 1. Before implementing this behavior, first focus on thinking about it, which will continue to strengthen the obsessive-compulsive symptoms, and the cost of "obsessive-compulsive disorder" is very great! Say it out loud in your heart (when you're alone), "I don't want it!" ”

2. Think about it next: the act of buying lottery tickets every day and looking forward to winning the lottery is ridiculous, and it has to pay a variety of costs, and the same behavior of worrying all day long for a low probability is also fruitless, do not do these but focus on more meaningful things! I can't die anyway!

3. Say to yourself: It is not easy for anyone to change a habit, but if it is a bad habit that makes you extremely painful, it is still necessary to adjust, any habit is the result of boring repetition, I have the ability to repeat a bad habit boringly, I must have the ability to abandon it! If this powerful ability is put to good use, it will definitely help me achieve my ambitions in the future!

So now, all I have to do is change!

4. Avoid the stage of checking behavior, and say to yourself: "The heavens will descend on the people, and they must ...... first."Full text).

5. Next, thank yourself and say: Thank you, my friend, I am willing to accept you, and I am willing to work with you to achieve our common goal!

6. Record the number of times you change your behavior every day, and seek greater goals after achieving phased results.

Not being confident in yourself is just a superficial phenomenon, the problem is that you now have a slight obsessive-compulsive disorder and anxiety disorder, it is recommended to check it out, I sometimes have this problem, after going to check it, it is said that there is a slight depression; However, to solve this kind of problem, you have to pay attention to several aspects yourself:

1) Don't set some goals for yourself that are difficult to achieve, correctly understand your current situation, face up to your condition, don't hold a lot of positions, and don't take care of many things.

2) You can divide a large and complicated work into several small parts, according to the priority of things, do what you can, do not "recklessly", so as not to complete the work and be discouraged.

3) Try to interact with people more and don't go it alone.

4) Try to participate in as many activities as possible, try to do some light physical exercise, watch movies, TV or listen to **, etc. It is possible to participate in social activities in different forms and contents, such as lectures, visits, visits, etc., but not too much.

5) Don't be impatient, don't be anxious about your illness, it takes time to heal your illness.

6) Patients should not make major decisions, such as changing jobs, getting married, or divorcing, without consulting with someone who knows their actual situation well.

7) You might as well write down your feelings, and then recognize them, which are negative, which are manifestations of depression, and then find a way to get rid of it.

Good luck soon**!

I'm sorry, maybe my description is a little not very accurate, I think your situation is just a precursor to depression, not already depressed, you usually pay attention, but you must know what depression is, only in this way can you correctly understand depression, which is a disease that many people are born of, there are incomplete statistics show that seven to eighty percent of modern people have depression of varying severity, so you are not worried that you are the only one who is like this, it is many people who will be like this, I wish you success in your studies and good health!

Not confident. Enrich life experience and knowledge, and only then will you be confident.

Don't question yourself. You're doing the right thing.

I always wonder if the door of the house is not locked.

Mentality determines fate, I don't know who said it, but I think it is very reasonable, a person with a good mentality will quickly adjust himself to face it calmly even if he encounters great difficulties, and good hope is always in front of him, and happiness and success will always beckon to him. A person with a bad mentality will not feel happiness even if he lives in happiness.

First, we must adjust our mentality and be a confident person. Always give yourself good psychological hints, and this kind of positive psychological hints will make things more successful. Because the effect of mental suggestion can be both positive and negative.

Positive psychological cues can help the suggested person stabilize their emotions, build self-confidence, and have the courage to overcome difficulties and setbacks, while negative psychological cues can have a negative impact on the suggested person. So before we do things, we put ourselves in a happy and positive state, repeatedly tell ourselves in our hearts that we will succeed, and then try to do as hard as possible.

Turn left|Turn right.

Second, a person's self-confidence, also comes from, his ability, which requires us to continue to learn, strengthen their self-cultivation, in work, study or any aspect has a high talent, if it is a child, is to play must also play a trick, in school, especially in the senior students, we often find that those children who are excellent in learning, in the sports field is not inferior, in the game can also become the king of children, this is the child who can play will learn, but also he has enough self-confidence, Always believe that you will not fail, always be the one who rushes ahead, and there will never be the word "fear" in the dictionary of such people.

With good psychological cues and strong knowledge as a backing, you can do things fearlessly and do everything well with confidence. Even if you don't do well occasionally, you can reflect on the reasons for your failure, and as long as you find out the reasons and solve them, you will not make the same mistake again next time, and you will regain your confidence.

3. There are many impossible examples in life, which can also tell us the importance of mentality and belief. There is a hand, foot and mouth painter Xie Kunshan in Taiwan, he has no arms, only one leg and one eye, can you believe that he can become a painter, but it is his good attitude that makes him a famous person who paints with a pen in his mouth.

Turn left|Turn right.

There are also those who are deaf and struggle in the silent world to become strong in life and to be the best in many fields. As long as people have a good attitude and have confidence in themselves, no matter how big or small, they will step on our feet. People are fearless after many hardships, but will they still be afraid of small things?

It's not difficult to believe in yourself, everyone makes a lot of mistakes, and we gain knowledge from our mistakes and then apply them later in life.

You're just too concerned about it, thinking that you're the only one in the world who keeps answering and making mistakes every day, when in fact other people aren't much better than you.

The experience of being blamed in the past made you can't believe yourself, and all you have to do now is try to forget about Qing Qin Chong and not think about these past events. Because it's all in the past, you have to focus on the present.

Focusing on everything you do well, including the little things that no one else cares about, will give you a sense of accomplishment and build self-confidence.

Tell yourself that you're not stupid, that you're just a little slow to accept things and do things.

It doesn't matter if you go slower in life, it can make you more down-to-earth than others.

I've always wanted Changdong to be able to make his hobbies decent in his spare time. By doing what you want to do, you can give full play to your strengths and realize your self-worth.

It's been brewing for a long time, and it's been planned many times. Always sketch out the big picture in your head. But in reality, there is always a stagnation.

It's too busy, it's too troublesome, it's not enough, it's not enough, it's not enough, it's not ......And so on, find countless reasons for yourself. In fact, he distrusts himself in his heart, thinking that he can't do a good job, can't stand alone, and can't provoke the beam. The ideal is plump, and the reality is skinny.

I think many people will be like me, accustomed to self-denial and doubt, accustomed to fear, accustomed to stability and comfort, afraid to take risks, afraid of rushing in the wind and waves.

Self-awareness helps people break through their constraints. I realized that it was my own worries and lack of self-confidence that were holding me back. When I think back to my success so many times, and my perseverance over the years, I am sure that I can't do it.

Take the first step and countless unknowns will become known. From insisting on writing articles, to creating idle groups, from taking the initiative to cooperate with picture book libraries, to marketing yourself in front of parents. From step-by-step planning, to writing posters, designing courses.

I'm moving steadily on my own terms. In the past few days, I have felt the results of a lot of accumulation and exercise before. No matter what I want to write or write, I can write and talk endlessly.

The original goal of writing was that I had to learn to express exactly what I was thinking and what I was thinking. I did this slowly.

On the first day of the course promotion, 20 children signed up, and the two trial classes have already recruited enough students. Today an article I wrote earlier was also published at a watershed. I thought it was a bad article, but it doesn't seem to be the case.

Then many of the articles I wrote can be re-submitted. Submission is to promote the rapid improvement of the level of the article. Doing anything well requires deliberate practice.

Honestly, am I tired? If my back doesn't hurt, I really don't think it's a big deal. Every time I sit at the desk, my back is like a thousand pounds of stones, and the pain is unbearable.

Yes, I've worked very hard in the past few years, and I've put a lot of pressure on myself! Back pain is a physical reflection of the psyche. But I know I don't want to stop as long as my brain is spinning.

There are so many dreams that I want to realize, I want to try hard, try to see the world!