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Accept your feelings

Don't force yourself to face these people, if you don't want to, it will be very unpleasant to get along with, so don't force yourself. Accept your worries and feelings, allow it to come, and even be friends with him, be a neighbor, there is a saying that a failed neighbor is a success, so the subject can accept it with a different way of thinking, when you accept, the heart will melt together, and slowly there will be strength.

Positive psychological cues

When this emotion comes again, you can tell yourself positively: it's okay, everyone has things they are not good at and afraid of, this is a normal phenomenon, I believe that I can definitely adjust to it and other psychological hints, which is also positive and positive hypnosis.

Develop self-confidence

Self-confidence is emanating from our hearts, not all due to outstanding appearance, we must maintain full self-confidence from the heart. You can also appropriately challenge some things that you have never done before, enrich yourself, and slowly enhance your courage and self-confidence. Find someone to talk to or find a professional psychological counselor to help you talk to a close friend, so that your friend can give you some strength.

You can also seek out a professional counselor who can help you find the root cause of your fear and help you adjust slowly.

Don't stay at home, go outside and exercise

Blindly hiding at home will only make your heart more closed, push open the door, go out, and learn to embrace the world. Exercise a lot, through exercise can release stress, stretch the body and mind, in the process of exercise, you can also observe others, start socializing. Finally, the psychologist Adler once said:

Low self-esteem is a psychological reaction that everyone will have, but everyone's understanding and application of inferiority is different, and what they gain is not very different from what they face.

If we can face up to our inferiority complex and let it become the cornerstone of our growth, we can reap happiness and success; If we are afraid of low self-esteem and let it become a stumbling block on our road to growth, we will reap failure and pain.

If you don't want to meet, just communicate with people in your own family, that is, you are not feeling well and can't meet people.

It's okay to tell your parents that your friends told you to hang out, that you can go out alone, or that you can lie and say you're a little uncomfortable.

There will be many seven aunts and eight aunts in the family during the Chinese New Year. You can socialize with the necessary ones, otherwise you can not attend these occasions.

I want to take the subject home to meet his parents during the Chinese New Year, but the subject is very scared, here, you can choose to comfort your partner, and tell them that their parents are very cute and amiable people, so that they don't go, they are afraid. And you can also prepare everything, for example, take your girlfriend home, we can choose to prepare the things that our parents like first, and then let the girlfriend carry these things to meet the parents, in the whole process, don't always let your girlfriend face your parents alone, otherwise, the girlfriend will also feel very scared. We can tell our girlfriend that everything is ready, so that our girlfriend can rest assured, so that her girlfriend can go home with you to meet your parents with more peace of mind.

Girls must dress appropriately when meeting the man's parents, don't wear some messy clothes, the first impression is very important, and in the process of the interface, we don't have to take the initiative to help, because it's not necessary at all. If you take the initiative to help, it is easy to cause the other party not to take you seriously, and wait until you really negotiate with the other party's marriage before taking the initiative to do housework. Also, when we meet, we must not say some nonsense things, and we can say what we need to say generously.

Girls are very nervous when they meet their boyfriend's parents for the first time, and boys can stay out of their girlfriend's sight during the whole process. When you feel that your girlfriend is embarrassed, you can also choose to take your girlfriend out for a walk, which will also make your girlfriend feel happier and will not make the relationship between you particularly awkward.

I also think it's embarrassing to meet my parents, but if everything can be prepared in advance, it won't be very embarrassing.

If you want to alleviate the embarrassment, you should first tell your parents in advance, let your parents do it, make certain preparations at home, and remind your partner of some things, such as some of your parents' interests and hobbies, and some of your parents' requirements for your mate.

You should pay attention to explain your thoughts to the object in advance, and you should also make your parents more talkative and cheerful, tolerate each other more, and take the initiative to talk about the topic when communicating. This will ease the embarrassment.

You can say hello in advance, so that your family does not ask questions, so that they can care about him, and you can also relieve your subject's emotions so that he can stay happy and not have too much nervousness.

Hello landlord, I can understand your feelings, I would like to help you solve this problem, because I have had similar mental troubles, but a person is good, it does not mean that he can help others, so I can only suggest that you bravely challenge your comfort zone, sometimes we challenge your comfort zone when you are indeed very difficult, to be very brave to face their inner anxiety. But you still have to do it, and only by continuing to practice can you slowly embark on the path of transformation.

I'm reading a book "Out of the Storm of Anxiety" published by Ningbo Publishing House, it's still pretty good, it's an auxiliary psychology self-help book, I recommend it to you, the book shares more than 10 scientific ways to balance various emotions, it still has a certain effect, I suggest you also practice it. I'll copy a passage from the book, you can refer to it, if it's valuable:

The most fundamental reason is that we know too little about this "heart".

In my opinion, people were originally born on this earth with a pure and divine energy, but in the course of their lives, they were gradually polluted by the education of various fears, gradually forgetting the source of their own life energy, forgetting their inner voice, and becoming farther and farther away from the "true self". The energy of pure joy has been turned into negative energy such as "fear, compulsion, anxiety, depression" and so on under the long-term suppression of education, which slowly accumulate in our body and in our unconscious mind.

Deep down in the hearts of most of us, due to the irrational "fear" education and uneasy upbringing from childhood to adulthood, there is a mechanism buried deep in the heart, which only accepts the experiences (feelings) that the heart thinks are good and comfortable, and rejects the experiences that are considered ugly and painful by the perceptual process. Extreme states of mind caused by this mechanism, such as catastrophic thinking, obsessive-compulsive opposing ideas, fearful conditioning, suffering from gains and losses, rejection of suffering, etc. And in systematic spiritual healing, we have to prevent them from rising.

This is done not because they are bad, but because they are compulsory, because they take over our minds in their entirety, completely seize the attention of individual consciousness, they make individual thoughts spin in small circles, and let us wrap ourselves layer by layer, and the original "free heart" seems to be hypnotized by them, as if it is mischievous, so that we are forcibly separated from the vivid and lively present... Therefore, it is time for us to face them bravely, and it is time for our hearts to find backThe way to "home", and it is best to find it close to home. The heart is the main cause and forerunner of action; Act with a suppressed mind, and pain will follow, like a chariot following a horse; When the phase is guided by a focused mind, happiness will follow, like a shadow. Excerpt from "Out of the Storm of Anxiety".

Bless you and may you all the best.