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If you want to love your own value, you have to create value for the world. — Goethe.
Society is like a boat, and everyone must be prepared to take the helm. —Ibsen.
The measure of a person's strength should be based on his self-control. — Dante.
The biggest disadvantage of mediocre people is that they often feel that they are superior to others. — Benjamin Franklin.
One cannot be a hero forever, but one can be one forever. — Goethe.
It doesn't matter what kind of person others think you are, it's what kind of person you are. —Horace.
Life is not a pleasure, but a very heavy job. — Leo Tolstoy.
The value of life is not measured by time, but by depth. — Leo Tolstoy.
Life is empty and dull only in the eyes of the dull and boring person. — Chernyshevsky.
A person's value should be judged by what he contributes, not by what he achieves. — Albert Einstein.
It is only by dedicating oneself to society that one can find the meaning of that short and risky life. — Albert Einstein.
All living beings, who doesn't love life? Love is the extreme, and then love the group. —Qiu Jin.
You have to know yourself. — Socrates.
Save yourself, man! — Beethoven.
Those who can restrain themselves are the most authoritative. — Seneca.
Bad people obey out of fear, good people obey out of love. — Aristotle.
Faith is the power of life. — Leo Tolstoy.
It is more necessary to study people than to study things. — Roszovko.
Those who lose their possessions lose a lot, those who lose their friends lose even more, and those who lose courage lose everything. —Cervantes.
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There are two kinds of pain in life, one is the pain of effort and the other is the pain of regret, and I think the latter is a thousand times greater than the former.
He Changming's "Self-Control".
Instead of gaining self-control from a battle with the self, people with the strongest self-control learn how to accept conflicting selves and bring those selves together.
Kelly McGonigal, "Self-Control".
Knowing oneself, caring for oneself, and reminding oneself of what really matters are the cornerstones of self-control.
Kelly McGonigal "Self-Control".
Don't always think "make a mistake today, fix it tomorrow", "indulge today, change tomorrow", and don't take credit to tomorrow.
An interesting and effective experiment in willpower: there is no difference between tomorrow and today.
Behavioral economist Howard Laclin offers an interesting tip to help people overcome this "tomorrow after tomorrow" mentality. When you want to change a certain behavior, try to reduce the variability of the behavior, not reduce that behavior. He has shown that if smokers are allowed to smoke the same amount of cigarettes every day, their overall smoking will decline.
This is true even when researchers explicitly tell them that they don't have to try to reduce the amount they smoke. He believes that this approach works because it breaks the "tomorrow will change" mentality that smokers usually have. It doesn't just mean smoking today, it means smoking tomorrow, smoking the day after tomorrow, and smoking every day.
This adds meaning to each cigarette and makes it harder to deny the harm of smoking an extra cigarette.
Kelly McGonigal "Self-Control".
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1. The person with the strongest self-control does not gain self-control from the competition with the self, but learns how to accept the conflicting self and integrate these selves into a loose body.
2. Knowing oneself, caring for oneself and reminding oneself of what is really important are the cornerstones of self-control.
3. If we feel that we have nothing to do with our future selves, we will ignore the consequences of our actions. On the contrary, if we feel connected to our future selves, we will protect ourselves from the worst impulses.
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Controlling oneself is often when oneself is rational, and not wanting to control Hosho himself is often when he is emotional. So it seems that the problem of sensibility cannot be solved with the goal of reason. I think everyone feels this way, and no one can completely avoid it, so it can only be improved.
First of all, don't feel oppressive about yourself, try to find something in your life that you feel comfortable doing, such as what you call indulgence, occasional indulgence, and then make some small plans for yourself, the difficulty is not too high, but it must be completed, it can't be completed, and then find the reason, find a notebook of the psychological process to remember, and see when you are confused will help you improve your self-control. Take ** as an example, fat people generally always have a strong appetite. In most cases, you can control yourself, but there are always times when people are in a bad mood, and if you feel that you are in a bad mood, you have to limit this restriction and that, and you feel even more unhappy, so you open your belly and eat a big meal.
In this way, the ** plan was interrupted again. But in real life, we don't necessarily do it well. Therefore, how to make yourself aware of the consequences and guide yourself to think rationally when you are emotional should be a way to solve poor self-control.
If this happens regularly, don't be afraid to talk to a psychologist or close friends, and physical exercise can also improve your self-control. If you like to use reason (consciousness), you can do willpower training. If you prefer to use the sensual (subconscious), you can use NAC, hypnosis, etc.
I add some effective ways to myself: 1. Write down your confusion and feelings, and the process of writing things is a process that promotes your own thinking, which can help you get out of one-sided emotions and move towards rational treatment of problems; Talking to friends has a similar effect, because it is also necessary to organize the language to express one's feelings; 2. Sometimes when you are in a bad mood, self-blame will aggravate the bad feeling, just tell yourself that people are always in a bad mood, just give yourself a period of time to experience the feeling at this time, you can do nothing at this time, just relax and indulge, put aside the current things for the time being, and do something you like, such as sports, singing, flipping books, etc. But you still have to give yourself a limit on the specific time.
Leave a bottom line for your own indulgences. 3. When you are in a bad mood, remind yourself to love yourself, to make yourself happy, and to find happiness in any environment. In this way, even though it is painful now, it is still on the road to happiness.
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1. A person's maturity is not based on how many achievements Duan You has achieved now, but in the face of those people and things that he hates, he does not cater to them or resist, but only smiles indifferently. When the heart can hold a lot of things that you don't like, this is called aura.
2. No one will care how much effort you have put in, whether you are tired or not, whether it hurts to fall, they will only look at what position you stand in the end, and then envy or despise. In order to be beautiful in the future, we must be bitter now.
3. Your mentality will support your development all the way; Your vision will determine the direction you choose; Your pattern will mean how big you have achieved; Your perseverance will support you in how far you can go; Your intentions will doom you to make good results! Man is not at your beginning, but at the end of your life! Whether your dream can become a reality or not depends on yourself!
4. People who are richer than you must work harder than you, people who work harder than you will be richer than you one day, life is originally balanced, you don't pay hard to make money, you have to worry about saving money, this is not chicken soup, it is reality!
Every night I habitually stay up late, every time I set an alarm clock for myself and say that I must go to bed before 12:00, after setting an alarm clock for 12:00, every time I see that the alarm clock is about to go off, I will turn it off in a hurry, because I am particularly afraid that the sound of this alarm clock will come out, which is a warning to me, and then continue to stay up late with peace of mind.
Then you can exercise a little more, organize more time, and write a plan to increase your self-control.
If you have time to read the book of self-control, the most important thing is to rely on yourself, you are lazy and not strong-willed! >>>More
You can set a goal for yourself, and then write a plan for yourself to do things according to the above requirements every day, so that you can adjust your self-control, and you can also make full use of your learning and increase your knowledge at the same time.
A very simple way is to arrange your time reasonably, set a reasonable study plan for yourself, and then strictly follow this plan, so that you can control yourself!