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I especially love children, especially those between the ages of 8 months and 4 years. Too young and too tired, too big and too noisy, so children at this stage are the best toys.
I once thought about giving birth to a child to educate him to be like, but at the age of 30, he is still wandering around Beijing and has achieved nothing. The fear of raising him made me give up again and again, and finally broke off the idea.
I am not afraid to live for my child in the second half of my life, but I am worried that I will not be able to provide him with a superior environment, my poor background has made me take too many detours, and my low self-esteem and extreme self-esteem still plague my life, I don't want my child to be born in such a competitive world - the starting point is too low.
I've been talking to my girlfriend for several years, and it seems that when I buy a house, I can get married, I love her very much, she loves children even more, and even thought of a name for the child, a catchy name.
I have jokingly told her many times that she enjoys the life of two people and does not want children, and every time she changes color and even tears up.
My parents also often called ** to tell me about the fun of being a grandmother and grandfather, and the two old people who were nearly in their twilight years made me often speechless.
Perhaps, getting rich will give me the courage to have a child, but my work is destined to be delusional.
The new year is coming, life and career are still so hopeless, thousands of miles away from home, I am tired and mediocre to live.
Perhaps, giving up on a child means giving up on a girlfriend?
Don't dare to think deeply. Friends who are in the world, there must be many people in the same situation as me, ask you, do you dare to have children?
Salute to all the parents of Tianya.
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Not necessarily, some have and some don't.
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What does having money have to do with having children?
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Not necessarily, it depends on the person's thoughts, many people abroad are also Dink, and some people will want to have several.
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Not necessarily, rich people abroad will help the poor, unlike rich people at home who will have a large group of children.
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Not necessarily, some people don't want to have children for a more chic life.
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Who doesn't want to live a rich life, and the poor love to have children can also be a "bet" to break the poverty situation. I've heard that "if you want to get rich, you must build roads" but you haven't heard that you want to get rich and have more children, so having children can't break poverty.
Many poor people are able to have children without impunity because they do not feel that poverty is a condition that restricts them from having children. Maybe they also had a brief rebellion, but in the end they were comfortable with the present life.
If you want to change the poverty in your family and make your children and yourself live well, you must think twice about the idea of "having more children". It is also necessary to change the patriarchal stool thinking, don't always think about raising children to prevent old age, others are not as good as you have them.
In today's society, there are opportunities everywhere, and if you want to change poverty, it may not be impossible to focus your energy and financial resources on a few children. When the child gets ahead, the family conditions will naturally improve. A rich life is not much better than raising a group of children and living a poor life!
The breeze can bring seeds, and children can bring hope. Every child is chosen to come to Mom and Dad, you have the right to bring him into this world, and you have the obligation to give him the best care.
Children are the hope and future of a family, but this is not a reason to "be poorer and more born". It is his right to have a child, but it is also an obligation to be responsible for him.
The state has encouraged the second and third children, and do not cast a strange eye on families with more children. Having more children is not a wrong thing, and the irresponsible behavior of only giving birth without raising is a big mistake.
I once read a sentence that parenting is the only great profession in the world that does not require exams. So parents can be poor, but not ignorant.
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Then let's talk about why people who don't have money don't like to have children.
There is a lot of pressure to survive, and even more pressure to have a child and raise a child.
Rich people are different, they don't have financial pressure. When financial freedom is achieved, it seems logical to go away. It is not groundless to have many children and many blessings!
People say that the century-old family has a deep heritage, and how profound the heritage is also created by people.
Therefore, rich people like to have children.
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First of all, having children is not about providing for oneself in old age.
For people who raise children to prevent old age, children are a kind of pension tool. They have children just so that when they are old, the children can help them take care of themselves.
Raising children is not as simple as raising pigs, sheep, cows, dogs, etc., and the purpose of raising them is either to eat meat or to take care of the family. If you look at the matter of having children with this utilitarian mentality, giving birth to children only to help you support your own elderly, then when the children grow up, they will inevitably treat their parents with a utilitarian mentality.
There is a lot of positive feedback about raising children, such as spiritual sustenance, and it can also make the family warmer and more lively, but it is by no means for children to provide for themselves.
Nowadays, many young people say that when they are old, they can go to a nursing home and never add a burden to their children. And now people have a sense of insurance, basically start to buy insurance after graduation, and you can also receive a monthly pension when you are old, as long as you are not seriously ill, the basic life is not a problem, and you don't need to rely on your children to support the elderly.
Secondly, the process of raising children is also the process of parental growth.
The child's preference for his parents, perhaps there is no one in the world who can give it except the child. I often hear people say that since a certain boy became a father, he seems to have grown up and become sensible. After most men become fathers, they will consciously shoulder the burden on their shoulders, take their due responsibilities, and become mature.
Mothers also become stronger in the process of raising their children. As the saying goes, motherhood is rigidity. In the process of raising children, we will encounter all kinds of sadness, pain and difficulties, but we must grit our teeth and persevere for the sake of our children.
Mothers will become stronger and more relaxed than they were before they became mothers.
Like an article shared earlier:
As a mother, have you ever thought that I would really live a better life without children? What would be your answer?
When you become a mom, you get better.
The growth of children is also the growth of parents.
Secondly, people who are financially strong enough want to have more children.
If you look at those rich families, which one doesn't have many children? The richer a person is, the more he hopes that his property will be inherited in the future.
We had a super-rich local family that only had one daughter when he was poor. Now that I'm very rich, I regret not having more children every day, and I worry every day, what should I do with so much money. (Alas, the life of a rich man, unimaginable.) )
One of the main reasons why people are reluctant to have a second or third child is economic problems. It's the same in our family, if the financial strength allows, we are still very willing to have another child. But it's really hard.
In addition, people with strong financial ability tend to be more independent, and they will not expect to rely on their children to provide for the elderly, but will do their best to provide better conditions for their children and make their lives more comfortable.
To sum up, the meaning of having children is not to provide for the elderly, but to be happier and have one or more people who really love you.
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The first is the difference in financial resources. The parents are peasants, and most of them are able to support their children after graduating from university, but they are likely to have to rely on themselves in the choice of employment, marriage, and housing.
Truth be told, I'm a pretty good example myself. Our parents were old-fashioned, had a few acres of thin fields, and were not good at management, so it was already very difficult for us to support our brothers and sisters to graduate from secondary school, and we were completely on our own for the big expenses such as marriage and house purchase. Fortunately, I am in a fourth- or fifth-tier city, and the housing prices are not high.
If you are in a first-tier city or a large or medium-sized city, the salary within the system is not high, and it is impossible to buy a house without the help of both parents. Moreover, your parents are old and do not have a pension, and every year you have to take out a part of your meager salary to help them support their old age.
On the contrary, if the parents have a job or a salary, the children do not have any worries. After entering the workplace, the parents bought a house and a car, and the house was still in a high-end community, so they did not need their children to worry about it at all. The children's wages are completely consumed by themselves, and the days are chic.
Even if the parents are old, they only have to take care of them energetically.
There are many such examples in the workplace, one of which is an only child, whose father and mother are both teachers, whose retirement salary adds up to more than 10,000 yuan, and his parents have prepared a house and a car, and he spends his own salary, so he does not have to worry about it at all.
The second is in terms of relational resources. Parents who have a unit have, to a greater or lesser extent, certain personal resources and connections, and can play a certain role in their children's choice of employment and subsequent careers. Especially in our human society, where human resources and relationships can sometimes play a key role.
The parents are farmers, after all, resources are limited. After most people enter the workplace, they have to work hard and stay up late in overtime in order to be recognized by their units and appreciated by their leaders. Especially in the system, the feeling of hard work is not necessarily useful, and this feeling is completely different.
In secular society, it is nothing more than resources, relationships, connections, and so on, and most of the time, it really has nothing to do with ability and hard work.
The third is in the grid. Parents in a unit, who are in different environments, will certainly have guidance on their children's career guidance, how to deal with people, and emotional intelligence. On the contrary, parents who are peasants, do not have a high level of education, and are in a different environment, so their style is restricted, and in many cases they can only rely on their children to slowly explore themselves in the workplace.
You may have understood it thoroughly, but you have also been whipped by reality and bruised all over your body or missed the golden period of career development.
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