Such parents really hurt me, and my parents hurt me with the saddest things about me

Hey, poor handsome guy, stepmother's child is a child, you can't be blamed for this, it's your father who failed to arrange it in the middle, you know what spell your stepmother put on your father, you don't want your eldest son, hey... But your physical comparison was given by Dad, please don't blame him. Conclusion:

The heavens will descend on the people of the clan, and they must first suffer their minds and work their shin bones If you are a man, you can withstand the pressure and be a real man, I think there will be girls who are optimistic about you. Even if you don't have the blessing of your family, I believe you will live a very happy life. In other words, you have to live happily, happily and happily, show your mom and dad that you are good, and when they are very old, when their youngest son is not there to ask for them, you accept them and make them feel guilty.

It's a bit of a bad feeling to say this, but after all, it's your obligation to provide for the elderly. ）

You are sad because you still have hope for your parents, but the gap between reality and expectations is too great, so you are disappointed.

No matter what kind of treatment you want to receive, don't you understand it when you grow up? Their hearts are not on you at all.

When you were a child you needed help, and they ignored it. When you grow up, you have some talent, and they still disdain.

It doesn't matter if you do well or badly, live well or badly, they don't care at all, what about your parents? It's just a name.

If you are not afraid that your girlfriend will be looked down upon by your parents in the future and be wronged because she married you, you don't want your children to be treated differently by their grandparents since childhood like you.

You'd better be clear-headed and stop expecting anything from your parents.

The more no one loves, the more you have to love yourself, work hard, and put your mind on the small family you will build in the future.

Everyone wants to love others and be loved by others, but only if they find the right person.

You must have the ambition to live yourself well, if you are sincere, I can introduce you to one

In fact, people are always dissatisfied, always living in pain and contradiction one by one, it's not your fault, they just gave birth to you, you are not lucky, but I think you are okay, you have studied in college, some people are more pitiful than you, and you have not even studied in college! At least you have the foundation to live in the world, you said that you also have the ability to make money, now you have a stable job, as for your girlfriend, I think it's her fault, you should be out, why do you have to come forward with your parents, just say that you are an orphan! Just treat them as if they're dead, and tell yourself that you're an orphan, stop thinking about them, don't think about the past, and start anew!

Your marriage has nothing to do with them.

Adjust your mindset, your family situation does affect you a lot. But have you thought about it, you have grown up, you should have your own way of life, you should be a happy lifestyle, you will never be happy if you can't get out of the haze of the family, you have to talk to her about your girlfriend, and plan how you want to go in the future. Settling yourself down and having your own place to live will naturally lead to a new home.

Psychological analysis: The subject did not mention his age and gender, and simply helped the subject to sort out his thoughts.

People's emotions are affected by the factors of rough filial piety and loss in all aspects, we often say that "the last straw that crushes the camel", but in fact, it is all the goods on its body that crush the camel, and this straw is inexplicably carried on the "fuse" pot. The subject's father will lose his temper because the subject is playing a small temper and crying at home, but it is likely that his emotions have accumulated to a certain extent because of the pressure of a period of time, but it is just because of the subject's unhappiness that he broke out. This is obviously because Dad didn't deal with his emotions well and vented it to the subject, it should be said that this is Daddy's question in this regard, which does not mean that he does not love the subject and cannot bear the responsibility of being a father.

In the description, the subject mentioned beating ** to his father and playing a little temper with his father, I don't know if I have communicated with my mother? Or have you communicated with other people in your family? Did you get different feedback from other relatives and friends?

Maybe Dad is also cautious and has no way to help the subject solve the problem, so he can only watch the subject unhappy and blame himself. The subject can try to talk to other people in the family who may be able to listen to you, understand your confusion, and maybe have someone to help you solve your troubles, and get some positive feedback.

The subject mentioned that he had a dull personality at school, didn't have many friends, and occasionally had quarrels or conflicts with his classmates. In fact, in school, we found that no matter what kind of personality, good or bad learning, what hobbies and hobbies, we can find friends to talk about and play with, maybe because they all like a certain sport, play a certain game, a certain writer, etc., not limited to the same class, the same age. Therefore, there is no need for the subject to focus only on his own personality, to develop a certain subject or a hobby he likes, and he will find that there must be people who are like-minded with you.

When you have more friends, you will be more relaxed, more tolerant, and have a more harmonious relationship with the people around you. Try!

Psychoanalysis: After reading your description, I deeply felt your expectations and disappointments in your father.

You said that you have a dull personality, I think you must not be a classmate who is good at expressing yourself, and you have an argument with your classmates at school, which makes you unable to express your thoughts clearly at that moment, which may be misunderstood, so you will feel very wronged, you call ** to Dad, maybe you especially want to get some support and understanding from him**, but it seems that after you do something that Dad does not approve, Dad's reaction makes you very sad and sad, and you will also have some emotions for Dad, It could be anger or disappointment.

One of the stages that each of us must go through in the process of growing up is to deal with the contradiction between dependence and independence. We all come from our family, raised by our parents, we will learn and imitate their ideas, but also form our own unique and inconsistent opinions, we want to leave them to start our own one-limbed life and expect them to always give us care and love, so this will form a lot of doubts and contradictions.

Maybe at this moment, you can ask yourself what kind of feelings your father gives you, what are the things that make you feel cared for and take care of, what are the things that make you feel that he is irresponsible, what kind of state do you expect to be with your father, and what can you do if you want to have such a relationship.

We all came to this world crying, and we also cried to leave our parents and start to live independently, sometimes because we were dissatisfied with our parents and had emotions to leave our parents to live independently.