I m very depressed and want revenge

Men are all dogs, and they are all **.

I'm also very vindictive

If you are not afraid of crime, you are like this: tell your things out, release **, issue an online chase and kill order, and then make him a eunuch, make him regret it, and never have children again

Otherwise, you will change the environment and start all over again, and it is better to brainwash yourself for fear that you will not be able to let go

Forget it, I'll add

You let go of your heart, what I said upstairs is right, don't be too extreme, it's not worth paying for him for the rest of your life

You ask him out, tell him what responsibility is, and tell him why he doesn't deserve your love, and then wish him maturity

Compatriot.. Actually, this is quite normal!

You've been together for a long time!

Maybe the novelty is gone!

Many of the vows men say are unbelievable!

Let me tell you a little bit first!

Don't look down on yourself just because you've had an abortion!

Don't!! Face the future well!

As for revenge! I advise you not!

It's good to get together and disperse. The more you try to get revenge on him!

She might think you don't want to break with him!

Thought you were stalking in disguise!

So it's not necessary.

There are a lot of men in the world.

Live your life well!

Waiting for a better tomorrow.

In fact, no matter what you do now, the result is the same, the person you are trying to keep is definitely not a person worthy of your detention, and you think you can keep it for a lifetime, if you can, you spend your whole life trying to keep it, do you think it's worth it? Happy? In fact, unwillingness is certain, but the only way to really take revenge on him is to let yourself live well, very happy, very happy, let him know that you can live well without him, and then make yourself very strong, so strong that he feels that losing you is his loss, and you slowly look forward to becoming very strong, one day he will come to you to help him, and then you can take revenge at will, so what you have to do now is to cherish yourself, make yourself better, without yourself, there will never be a chance to retaliate

Find a time to calm down and talk to him and see what he thinks now. Generally speaking, he shouldn't be too responsible, right, you can try to talk to him quietly first, don't be unwilling, it's not good for anyone, you think, what if you take revenge? Can you get him to have a baby and then beat it off?

Can he also suffer the same physical pain as you? It can't be solved either, so revenge can't be solved, the best solution is to talk to your heart, find a confidant, find the best and most reliable friend, talk to him, let him also help you share some sorrows and troubles, try to do more things to divert your attention, if you don't love him anymore, you can try to find another one, but don't be angry with him, go to find it, it's not good for anyone! Don't think about it too much, the most important thing is that you are beaten now, you still have to pay attention to rest, don't get angry easily, physical health is the most important thing, I hope your troubles can be resolved as soon as possible

There are a lot of such negative people now.

I don't have the ability and I don't have the responsibility.

Also to engage in a big woman's belly.

I don't want to do anything about the consequences.

It's all impulsive.

You can only get back on your feet and live a better and happier life.

You are as happy as you are without him.

So that he will always remember you.

There are also good men waiting for you. I can tell you about my experience. I'm not bad now! At that time, the tears were almost dry. Retaliation no! You have to live better! Let him regret giving up later!

This kind of man is not worthy of your nostalgia, nor is it worthy of your revenge, there are times when life goes wrong, and now he is sure that he is an irresponsible man, why do you want to take revenge on him with him? It's not worth it, live well, tomorrow will be better, I hope you can be happy.

This kind of person is too unconscionable, emotionally speaking, I support you to kill him, but from a rational point of view, you will only lose and be afraid of losing if you retaliate against him. As the saying goes, it is not too late for a gentleman to take revenge.

Maybe he stopped loving you when he told you not to have children, but you didn't feel it, you shouldn't have such thoughts, you should live happily, and one day you will meet someone who loves you more.

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Revenge psychology: Revenge psychology is due to the fact that an individual's behavior has caused a certain degree of damage to the interests of others, so those whose interests are damaged will find ways to retaliate against those who hurt him. In fact, revenge psychology is a kind of self-defense and protection mechanism.

The self-defense mechanism was first proposed by Sigmund Freud, and then his daughter Anna Freud systematically studied and refined it. "Everyone, whether normal or neurotic, uses defense mechanisms to varying degrees in some of their words and actions," she stressed.

The defense mechanism arises from the strong will of life, which is an evolutionary advantage strategy. The so-called survival of the fittest, those weak strategies are gradually eliminated and replaced by these advantageous strategies, so we inherit these instincts inherited from our ancestors in our bones.

We all use psychological defense mechanisms in our daily lives, and revenge psychology is also one of the defense mechanisms, a stress state that we cannot escape. However, if an individual is too obsessed with revenge and enters an extreme or generalized state, it is not conducive to interpersonal communication, and will also cause certain physical or psychological harm to others, and ultimately harm others and themselves. As a modern society, we must not allow the revenge mentality to expand unchecked, but we must also control it appropriately.

As stated in the theory of positive emotion expansion construction, positive emotions give us creativity and allow us to look at the people and things around us with an open eye, while negative emotions make us extremely sensitive and make negative evaluations of people and things around us, so we can't let this negative emotion of revenge erode our hearts. We want to control this defense mechanism. One of the ways to control is to tolerate the other person and use tolerance to alleviate hatred.

Treat others with a tolerant heart, so that our interpersonal relationships are more harmonious [loving] [loving].

I've had a similar compensatory behavior myself.

First of all, for a boy born in the 80s like me, Transformers are the favorite toys of our generation when they were young, but when I was young, Transformers often cost dozens or even hundreds of yuan, which is almost equivalent to a month's salary of my parents, although at that time my father gritted his teeth and spent dozens of yuan to buy me a dinosaur Transformers toy, but deep down in my heart I was more eager to get a set of combination Transformers, and this set of combination Transformers at that time required more than 200 yuan, It was equivalent to a month's salary for my dad and a half, and apparently my dad couldn't meet my excessive demand.

Secondly, when I became an adult, I had the ability to make my own money, I found that my childhood favorite Transformers toys are still on sale, which gives me the possibility of satisfying childhood dreams and regrets, although the current set of combination Transformers toys ** is already more than 2000 yuan, equivalent to 1 3 of my monthly salary, but I still gritted my teeth and chose a set of Hercules combination Transformers that I liked most in my childhood, which can be regarded as a compensation for the unfulfilled dreams of my childhood.

Recall in our minds, and then find the root cause of the retaliatory compensatory behavior we are exhibiting today, and that's when the injured child comes to mind. We have to try to recall the mood at that time, and then use our current self to talk to our original self and tell the "child": "You have grown up, you don't need to get a sense of security through external objects, and when you grow up, you can become the ** of your sense of security."

In addition to this, we can also modify this retaliatory compensatory mentality a little, so that it not only does not bother us, but can be used by us to help us improve ourselves.

It is said that the injuries suffered in childhood require us to spend our whole lives to **, so childhood revenge compensation is undoubtedly a good proof. Because our needs are not met when we are young, we will compensate for it in various ways when we grow up, which is childhood revenge compensation.

What about the psychology of revenge compensation in childhood? Next, psychological compensatory behavior is analyzed. What about the psychology of revenge compensation in childhood?

Psychological Compensatory Behavior AnalysisTo know what to do when we have childhood retaliatory compensatory behavior, we must first understand the ins and outs of compensatory psychology.

Compensatory psychology, which is essentially a defense mechanism, when we experience setbacks and are full of anxiety, we will compensate for the shortcomings in other ways and relieve anxiety in other ways. The existence of a compensation mechanism can balance our psychology, so that we will not suffer from psychological imbalance due to setbacks, resulting in serious psychological problems.

Therefore, a proper compensation mechanism is beneficial, it can make us mentally healthier, and at the same time, it can promote our ability to improve. But the problem is that many people fall into the trap of overcompensation by acting beyond what is reasonable.

They are not satisfied with their needs and are constantly seeking and demanding. This is a manifestation of a lack of security, and they need to fill their security gap with this constant demand. Childhood revenge compensation is a form of overcompensation.