Would you like to live with either of your elderly people after marriage? Why?

Updated on society 2024-07-17
22 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    I don't want to, because I have a certain generation gap with them, and there will inevitably be contradictions after staying for a long time. Rather than doing this, it is better to have less contact and give a better impression to the other party, so as to live up to the original intention.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    I definitely don't want to live with the elderly on either side, there is a generation gap between the elderly, and there will be a lot of conflicts between each other, so it is better to live separately.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Willing, be a man to compare your heart to your heart, since you are a family, how can there be a reason to separate.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    I don't want to, I can often go home to visit the elderly, but I don't want to live together, after all, there will definitely be a generation gap with such a big age difference, whether it is a difference in lifestyle or personal philosophy, it will inevitably cause friction and cause unnecessary conflicts.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Unwilling. The living habits of young people and old people are different in all aspects, and it is inevitable that there will be friction when living together, and it is inevitable that there will be a bad mood when you go to work during the day and not go well at night. Over time, the prejudices between the two sides will become deeper and deeper.

    If there are conditions, in the same community, buy a small apartment, close to it, easy to take care of, and there is not so much friction.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I don't think I'm willing to do it anyway, I like to have my own private space, my own world for two, so I don't want to live with my family.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    No, I think we and our parents need private space to live close to each other, but not together.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    I don't want to, because I feel that there is a generation gap between the two generations, although both parties are well-intentioned, but it is easy to be misunderstood and produce unnecessary conflicts, so I feel that it is better to live separately.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Yes, living together can better take care of your parents, and there are more people in the family to make it feel like home.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Yes, I live with my parents-in-law now, although there are some inconvenient places, but the elderly also take care of us, and we have hot meals to eat when we get home. I usually help watch the baby, so I don't think it's so scary to live together.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    After you get married, would you like to live with either of the elderly people?

    1. If the family conditions allow, there is no problem in living together.

    After getting married, if you live with the elderly, there may be some conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law or other conflicts. Therefore, many people are reluctant to live with the elderly after marriage. However, living with the elderly can take care of them, so it is necessary to live for the convenience of the future.

    Therefore, if the family conditions allow, the man is more willing to live with his children, which is a better thing in this case.

    Second, if the elderly do not need to be taken care of, it is best to live separately.

    After young people get married, the old people in the family are not very old, most of them are still working, in this case, there is no need to live together, after all, there are more people living together, it is inevitable that some small conflicts will occur in daily life, and now many people's house area is not large, so that everyone's private space will become small, which will also bring some inconvenience to people's daily life. Therefore, if both parties do not need to be taken care of, they should still live separately, and they can come and go back and forth often, visit often, and take care of each other in time for anything.

    3. If the elderly want Kai Zai to live together, and the conditions do not allow it, they can rent a house nearby.

    Of course, there is another situation, if the old man is a little older and wants to live with his children, but for some reason, such as the room is relatively small and inconvenient to live, at this time, you can consider renting another house nearby for the elderly to live in, and at the same time, it will also leave a certain amount of free space for both parties. Of course, if the two parties live together, they should also understand each other and tolerate each other, so as to reduce the contradictions in life, otherwise over time, the contradictions between the two sides will become bigger and bigger, and eventually no one will want to live with whom.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Unwilling. It may disturb my life, and it will also make myself feel particularly inconvenient in my life, and I definitely will not choose this way.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    I don't want to, because there is a certain generation gap between the young and the old, and if they live together often, there will be greater contradictions, which is not conducive to family harmony.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    I am definitely unwilling to do this, it will make me feel that I don't have my own life anymore and will disturb my work, and it may even make my self-wandering self very embarrassed, and it will also make me unable to let go.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Living habits are destined to be a matter of tolerance and understanding, and it is difficult to have both. It's better to be a family, natural and casual. If the area of the house is small, there will be more and more to eat, drink and Lazar.

    The world of the young couple is also embarrassing. The elderly like to be quiet, and the young couple likes to be lively. Eating habits.

    The saltiness of the food is destined to be difficult to reconcile. The elderly like light, and the young couple likes to eat meat. Sometimes it's hard to come to an agreement.

    Over time, contradictions will arise. Another thing that young people like to do. The old man sometimes can't get used to it.

    It is best to live within a bowl of soup distance, you can take care of each other, and each has its own life circle. Able to take care of themselves and live separately as much as possible.

    Although living with the elderly cannot avoid contradictions or disparities in concepts. These people are present from person to person, but to varying degrees. It is often the more concerned you are, the more you care, the more you raise, and the more you quarrel, the more contradictory you are.

    There are these well-founded contradictions in the family, whereas they are rarely outside the family. The key is for both the old and the young to treat each other with tolerance and understanding towards others. Although there are difficult scriptures to be recited, it is still a family and everything is prosperous.

    If the elderly are in good health, it is better not to live together! Because consumption, diet, work and rest habits are different, living together is inevitably a lot of inconvenience, distance produces beauty, especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to deal with, do not interfere with each other if you do not live together, clear boundaries, the elderly must learn to decently withdraw from the circle of children's life, don't be reluctant to let go of anything!

    If your parents are not in good health, it is better to live together and take care of each other. If the children are busy, the children can ask a nanny to take care of the elderly, and the children should often accompany the elderly, don't wait until the child wants to support and the relatives are not there, leaving regrets! With the development of the times, many elderly people have improved their self-awareness, and have begun to pay attention to their own quality of life and pursue the richness of old age, and their dependence on their children is gradually decreasing.

    Young people are always unable to eat on time because of overtime work, while the elderly strictly control the eating time, and the elderly are also hungry; There is also bedtime, it is normal for young people to go to bed late and get up late for various reasons, but the elderly go to bed early and get up early, and being with each other often affects their rest.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    I don't want to, because I find it very inconvenient to live with the elderly, and it is also easy to have some conflicts.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    I don't want to, because it's easy to have problems living with the elderly, and the relationship between the two people will also be affected, and after getting married, you need more personal space for both parties.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    I don't want to live with old people because I think these old people have a lot of things to do and are very nagging.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Young people's ideologies may be quite different from those of older people, so that there may be all kinds of contradictions when living together. Some young people are reluctant to live with the elderly after they get married, but the elderly always want to live with their children in order to take care of their grandchildren or eliminate loneliness, so there will be conflicts and even quarrels. In fact, the reluctance to live with the elderly after marriage is not because of the unfilial piety of the children, but mainly due to the following two points:

    In the eyes of many young people, the main reason why they live separately from their parents after marriage is that they do not want to continue to trouble their parents. Because if the parents live with themselves, they have all kinds of housework to do every day, such as laundry, cooking, taking care of the baby, shopping for groceries, etc., once they work overtime at night, the parents have to worry about it.

    But if you live separately from your parents, you just need to take care of yourself, and you don't have to do so much housework every day, and you don't have to buy groceries and cook in advance. If you have time, you can also go square dancing and go out shopping with your other half, which is also very free.

    2. Avoid conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and make the family more harmonious.

    For a long time, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an unavoidable problem, and at least 9 out of 10 pairs of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have various contradictions, and it seems that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seem to be born enemies. No matter how familiar the two are after marriage, there will still be various estrangements in their hearts. Especially after having a baby, there may be a lot of conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law because of taking care of the baby, which is more serious and directly threatens the relationship between husband and wife and reaches the point of divorce.

    But everyone knows that distance can produce beauty, and keeping a certain distance from your mother-in-law can make the relationship between the two closer, and both parties do not have to deliberately change their personal habits to cater to each other. In this way, many conflicts that may erupt can be avoided virtually, and the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law will be more harmonious when they are together, so that they will not quarrel every day.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Yes, we want to repay our parents for their nurturing kindness.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    After I got married, I didn't want to live with my parents because I felt that living with my parents was very inconvenient, and it would also cause a lot of conflicts, and if the situation was very serious, it would make people feel very unhappy, so I didn't want to live with my parents after marriage.

    In daily life, there are many people who want to encounter a very sincere relationship, because there are many people who think that such a relationship is very beautiful, and there are many people who feel that such a relationship is very loving, and there are also many people who think that such a relationship will last for a long time, and there are also many people who feel that such a relationship is very worthy of the envy of others, so it can be seen that the reason why so many people want to meet a non-silver sock is often sincere, there is indeed a certain truth, but I think that after marriage, I don't want to live with my parents because I think it would be very inconvenient to live with them, and I think it will create a lot of conflicts, so I don't want to live with my parents when I get married.

    In ordinary life, there are many people who are reluctant to live with their parents after getting married, because there are many people who feel that living with their parents will bring them a lot of unnecessary trouble, and there are also many people who feel that living with their parents will cause many conflicts between the two parties, and there are also many people who feel that doing it with their parents will make both parties very unhappy, so I think that after getting married, I don't want to live with my parents, and I firmly believe that there are many people who think so. Therefore, we must look at it rationally and never blindly evaluate.

    In my opinion, I don't want to live with my parents after I get married, because I think it is very inconvenient to live with my parents, and I think that living with my parents will cause a lot of quarrels, and I think that if I live with my parents, my parents will be very tired, so I think after getting married.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    It's a complicated question.

    If you can accept it, that's fine. After all, there is so much pressure in society nowadays, if both parties are single, then it is normal to live with their parents after marriage, and for parents, they also want their children to be able to start a family.

    However, if you can't accept it, then think carefully! After all, after getting married, you have to face a lot of practical problems.

    First of all, there is the economic issue. Although young people are very busy with work now, as long as you have the heart and work hard, it is not difficult to earn a good income. So, in this case, you can ask your parents to come and live with you, so that you can also reduce your burden.

    However, you should pay attention to one thing, that is, you must give all the savings of the family to your parents, because, only in this way, they will be relieved to take care of your life.

    Second, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I believe many people know that since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a very difficult problem to deal with. As women, they especially want their husbands to be on their side, so when their mother-in-law has a conflict with them, they will feel wronged.

    At this time, if you choose to complain to your husband, then he will think that you are hypocritical, and even think that you don't know the general situation. On the contrary, if you choose not to care about these things, but take the initiative to coax your mother-in-law, she may understand you and even have some good feelings for you.

    The third is married life. You know, marriage is the grave of love. Once you enter into marriage, the relationship between husband and wife can easily fade.

    And at this time, if you don't have children, then your relationship may still last. But if you have children, there may be a lot of conflicts between you. For example, the education of the child, or the child's upbringing.

    At this time, if you can't communicate well, then, the relationship between you is likely to break down. Of course, this is also a bad outcome. But if you can communicate well with your husband, perhaps, he will change his attitude towards you.

    Fourth, it is disrespectful to elders. You know, we are taught from a young age to honor our parents and respect our elders. However, when you get married, you and your partner don't understand this truth, and even behave disrespectfully with your elders.

    Just imagine, such a family, do you think it will have a good development?

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