Do you have any tips for looking at your child calmly?

To treat the child as a little angel and to educate him in a loving way, you must be patient.

First of all, you must have enough patience to communicate well with your child and understand your child's thoughts.

Every time you want to lose your temper, silently tell yourself: the child is biological, and you have to admit the mistakes you make!

I often say to myself that happiness in life is also a day, and unhappiness is also a day, and people only have a few decades, and they don't need to be angry with themselves to reduce their lifespan.

Children's crying is the most affecting for adults to look at children's mood. So as an adult, you must know what is the reason for the crying of children? Whether you're hungry, or want to poop and pee, or feel unwell, etc.

You have to find the cause in time and prescribe the right medicine, so that the child will not be so noisy.

Reading, exercising more, and going out for a walk can not only make children happy, but also improve their own temperament, increase self-confidence, eliminate negative emotions, and naturally look at children when the weather is troublesome.

Get along with the children more, the child's innocence and happiness will definitely infect you, and you will not feel the so-called worldliness among the children.

Hold back a few more seconds when you want to be angry, think about our bodies, and then you will feel that things are not as bad as you think, and after a few seconds you will not be so angry.

To be honest, being a stay-at-home mom is really too tiring and tiring, on call 24 hours a day, all year round. When the baby wakes up, you must be the first to arrive, and the baby is really sick and your heart is broken. Sometimes it's really upset and upset, you want to be alone for a while, but the baby is crying and making trouble to hug you, you can't ignore it, others don't want to care about it, you can walk away, only you can't.

Every time I get upset, I think that the child is my own, and no one else is obliged to take care of it, no matter what he does, it is my own responsibility. Think about it like this, you will feel smooth, and then watch him grow up day by day, one ability a day, you will have a sense of accomplishment, this is the baby I worked hard to raise, no matter how much it is worth it. Being a mother is not a word, she needs us to pay a lot. ‍‍

My child is like this, when he was about three years old, he was also very naughty, once, I was cooking in the kitchen, he poured out all my cosmetics for me, and broke several lipsticks for me, at that time my temper was almost uncontrollable, I kept forcing myself to hold back, and then I gave him a little punishment, let him think about it, since then, he has never been so naughty. I think that as long as there is a little punishment every time, I will not be angry when I see the obedient appearance of the child. I have been educating my children like this since they were more than two years old, and the children will not complain, so I am more worry-free.

I will meditate, the child is my own child, my own child, and I am the only one responsible for him in this world. I should love him, talk to him well, be patient with him, not yell at him, right?

A good home education should be calm and silent. The purpose of parental discipline is not to make the child afraid, but to convince the child. The education method of not yelling or shouting, and having something to say not only makes the parent-child relationship more harmonious, but also helps to improve the child's emotional intelligence.

However, this kind of tutoring requires parents to often exercise self-restraint emotionally, master the skills and grasp the scale when communicating with their children, especially when the child is unreasonable, how to maintain peace of mind and communicate effectively with the child, and parents need to continue to learn.

Use the ABCDE method to communicate with your child.

Dr. Donald's ABCDE method of communication consists of five steps, each beginning with the English letter ABCDE.

The first one is A, which is the first letter of the English (ask) question. When I am provoked by my child, I first ask myself: How do I feel at this moment?

Can I accept the feeling of the moment? Can I change my mind? In the silent self-questioning and self-answering, I was able to slowly calm down.

The second step is breathing, breathing relaxed. Take 3 to 5 deep breaths to relax your body and mood .

The third step is to calm yourself. Replace prejudice in anger with positive and realistic thoughts. Tutoring experts believe that when we are aware of the anger and laughter, we can consciously not regard the child as our enemy.

Only when the mind is calm, the discipline of the child, and the communication with the child, is meaningful.

The fourth step is to decide what you child needs. For example, the child may be yelling at the moment, does he need a hug, or does he need a parent to show him the way?

Do you need a word of encouragement, or do you need a clear line? What message does a child's behavior send to us? Think about your child's personality and age, and judge whether my expectations of him are reasonable.

The last step is empathize, empathy, also known as empathy, is to put yourself in the child's situation, feel his emotions and thoughts, and listen to the child's heart.

The ABCDE is: ask yourself questions – take deep breaths – calm yourself – make the right decisions – use empathy to praise your child's strengths. When our minds are full of mindfulness, not only can Lu La maintain physical and mental health, but also can creatively come up with ways to promote the growth of children.

Emotions are contagious. At its core, discipline is education, not punishment.

As the saying goes: reason is not high. When parents yell loudly, they often show a kind of dignity, majesty, and a condescending taste, without taking into account the child's self-esteem, let alone being on an equal footing with the child, and communicating with the heart.

Therefore, when children make mistakes, parents should not sit down, talk to their hearts and minds, calmly and reasonably, move with affection, and guide them to action.

Calmly criticizing your child will help you maintain a good parent-child relationship and achieve the goal of criticism. Therefore, it is better to control your temper and let yourself be angry. When you criticize and admonish softly, you put the interests of the child in a respected position and protect the child's self-esteem.

The hearts of parents and children are in a position of equal communication, and children are of course easily touched from the depths of their hearts, and what follows is heartfelt love for their parents. This simple and rude way of tutoring not only does not solve any problems, but also intensifies the conflict between the two parties. When the child was beaten, he did not feel at ease.

The suffering of flesh and skin makes them resentful, rebellious, and fearful. As a result, the family relationship between children and their parents is becoming more and more indifferent, the estrangement is getting deeper and deeper, and some children may even develop violent tendencies.

When faced with disobedient children, the purpose of parents to educate their children is to make them understand the truth and correct their mistakes. If the method of beating and scolding is used, it will not only lack educational effect, but also hurt the child's mind, causing tension or estrangement between the child and the parents.

Success often says, "Only by controlling your emotions can you control the future." "It's the same thing when it comes to educating children.

Therefore, when educating children, parents must control their emotions, and only by using energy to control their emotions and behaviors can we have the ability to educate our children well. [Compare heart] [compare heart] [come to see me].

I think it's very important to have emotional stability between family members, and if the family is reunited for a happy time, and then they end up parting unhappily, it's really hard to calm down. It even affects the feelings between each other. And this topic reminds me of the relationship between mothers and children, many children have emotional fluctuations because of homework problems, so they really need to control their emotions well.

If you are a mother, it is sometimes difficult to control yourself emotionally, I suggest you try these four methods.

1.Accept yourself as you are.

Most of the time, it's easy to be filled with fears and worries about the future. In fact, the best thing to do is to live in the moment. Especially a full-time mother with a baby, it is easy to fall into anxiety in the face of the triviality of bringing a baby and the gap between it and the previous comparison.

My advice is to accept the current state and take a short break from the workplace as a try. Especially before the child is 3 years old, take care of the baby, learn some scientific parenting knowledge, and pay attention to your physical health. If you have the spare energy, you can do something to improve yourself.

The main thing is to take the child well.

2.Write down the things that cause emotions.

Write down the things that cause emotions, which I often do, especially the things that I quarrel with my husband, I will add them to the memo and write down my feelings and thoughts at that time. In fact, looking back at it, it was a trivial matter, but I was too sharp at that time.

Recording is actually a process of reflection, parenting issues, marital conflicts, etc., you can record a short paragraph at that time, and you will have a different harvest when you look at it later.

3.Develop a good habit of reading consistently.

In life, you live a kind of life, and you can see a hundred kinds of life in the book. There are times when you can learn from other people's life experiences. Maybe a sentence and a story can change your life.

Reading is actually a very personal thing, and everyone likes to read different books at different times and moods, and they don't have to pursue the so-called book list. You just read the books that you think will be useful to you. If you don't have the habit of reading, it is recommended to start with 5 or 10 pages a day, and develop a micro-habit first.

Stick to it slowly.

4.Develop a hobby or skill.

I once went to a kindergarten picking activity, and I asked a mother why she was in such good shape? She told me that she insisted on practicing yoga for an hour every day, and her physical flexibility became better and better, and she became more energetic. While taking the baby, you can cultivate one or two hobbies, whether it is running, yoga, reading, baking, etc., and stick to it for a long time, if you reach the major, it may also become your second career.

Anyway, it's about finding something you love to do that doesn't make you feel so empty and boring. Now, in addition to reading, I still want to keep exercising, practice more aerobics, and maintain abundant energy in order to do more.

The so-called, everything has a cause and effect, and educating children is indeed a big problem.

Don't blindly let the child learn, give the child space, play to have a good time, to reward the good, the child makes a mistake, the good to reward, the child makes a mistake, to punish the homework, is to make family rules, let the child learn to convinc, let the child happy, is the most important.

I don't know if you have such an experience: obviously encountered the same thing, why some people don't seem to care, and they are still happy; Some people are bitter and unhappy. Most people would say:

How did the character come about? When is everyone's personality decided? With the development of science, more and more experiments have proved that human character has some natural biological attributes.

For example, people with more active glucocorticoid receptors have a stronger natural ability to resist stress; People with higher cortisol levels and higher heart rates are more likely to be self-depressed, irritable, and anxious. In addition to the innate biological attributes, the formation of a person's personality largely depends on the process of their growth, of which the most influential is the attachment process in the early years. The attachment theory was proposed in the 60s of the 20th century by British developmental psychologists or scientists.

What is Attachment Theory? The so-called attachment theory holds that a person's early relationship with their mother determines the attachment pattern of T A.

In other words, what is a person's relationship with their mother in the early stages of their life, and what is their relationship with the world when they grow up. Early experiments can better show the child's attachment to the mother: in the beginning, the mother and the baby interact, the baby and the mother give feedback to each other, the mother uses different expressions to match the baby's intentions, and the baby is very happy.

Then, the mother did not give any feedback to the baby and was expressionless.

When the baby notices that something is wrong, she begins to try to get the mother's attention. In less than 2 minutes, the baby does not get normal feedback, shows negative emotions, turns around and looks around, and is very stressed. Eventually, he began to break down and cry.

Children's attachment to their mothers is an important aspect of children's adaptive survival, which constructs the characteristics of children's lifelong adaptation. In other words, the child learns about this strange world through the emotions of the mother.

I once had a friend's daughter, dignified and beautiful, quiet, and with good academic performance; But there is a problem, that is, the child is not happy every day, and it is rare to see the girl laughing. Her parents were also anxious about whether their child had any psychological problems. They know that I am in the field of teaching model rolling, so let me tell the child, and only after saying this, can I find out that the real problem lies in **.