When going on a blind date, is the first impression reliable?

It's not very reliable, there is a good saying, the road knows the horsepower, and the people will see it over time. If you want to get to know a person, it is not enough to rely on first impressions, or you need to get along for a long time to be able to understand a person more deeply. Especially the blind date, I originally went with the idea of getting married, so I can't be so hasty, after all, marriage is a lifelong event, so it's better to be cautious.

Two people go on a blind date, many times it is the first time to meet, and for most people, they will always be more willing to show his good side when they meet for the first time, so when they meet for the first time, they are not familiar with each other, and subconsciously show the situation, often there is no way to really recognize this person, although there is also a saying about love at first sight, but the trickle is married life.

The purpose of the blind date is to find a marriage partner, which is actually not wrong, but the understanding of two people still takes time, after all, after getting along for a long time and having a certain emotional foundation, you can better understand a person's personality and style of doing things, and you can better determine whether you can go to the palace of marriage with each other. Especially for women, society is still harsh on women, don't they all say that women are afraid of marrying the wrong man!

Just like many flash marriages and divorces in society, it is not because they have not really gotten along, they have not had an in-depth understanding, so they hastily decided on the marriage of two people, and as a result, they waited until they really lived together and got along day and night, only to discover each other's shortcomings, and then it may cause quarrels again and again.

So, the first impression is very important, and it is the first element for two people to continue, after all, if you leave a bad impression on the other person when you meet for the first time, it will be more difficult to continue. But this first factor should not be a hasty decision.

I don't think it's reliable, I happened to be watching a TV series "Parents' Love" these days, starring Guo Tao and Mei Ting. It tells the love story of An Jie, who was born in the 50s of the last century, Miss Capitalist, and Jiang Defu, the commander of the Navy.

In the play, they met through a group dance, which is equivalent to a blind date. In the first impression, An Jie had no good impression of Jiang Defu. Born as a capitalist, she was arrogant and always felt that she should marry a gentle scholar, or a humble gentleman.

For Jiang Defu, who was born in a poor peasant, she didn't look down on it at a glance. But Jiang Defu fell in love with this beautiful girl at a glance.

With the help and mediation of the principal of the naval school and the principal's wife, these two people from completely different worlds slowly got closer again and again. Every time, An Jie saw a different Jiang Defu, and gradually passed her test, and An Jie's heart opened little by little. In the end, a lover finally became a family, and Jiang Defu, who was infatuated and hard to chase, finally hugged the beauty.

Then they got married and had children together, and lived happily ever after. In fact, at the beginning of the story, the heroine's first impression of the male protagonist and the subsequent storyline are completely opposite mentalities. No one would have thought that such a first impression could be changed step by step.

In the first impression, An Jie didn't value Jiang Defu's appearance. And as the plot continues to develop, what she was moved by was Jiang Defu's character.

Therefore, the first impression is unreliable, and only through time and getting along can a person's inner character be discovered. Appearance is only an illusion, and character is the most important virtue of a person.

You can't get to know people by first impressions, let alone on occasions like blind dates.

Everyone shows their best side on occasions like blind dates, so the first impression must be good.

It's understandable. For example, my first impression of me is that I am a good wife and mother. Because I look very deceitful and I don't like to talk much, my first impression of me is that it is very suitable for living at home.

But I'm not that kind of girl, and I don't admit that I can only be a good wife and mother. I'm not a woman confined to my family, I'm a woman who likes to work hard in society like men.

So the first impression of a blind date is not reliable. The first impression is a kind of appearance that the other person wants you to see or that the other person inadvertently reveals. <

A person has many faces, and if you come into contact with him for a while, you will definitely not be sure what kind of person he is. It is only in the process of getting along with each other that people know what kind of person they are.

The first impression of the blind date is just to lay the foundation for whether to contact him in the future, and nothing else is sure whether he is reliable.

When my friend met a phoenix man on a blind date, he blew himself into the sky, how much his salary was, and he had a good job in a city by his own efforts, what a good man he was. If you have the first impression, it must be a promising young man who is striving for progress. But in reality, what he said can't stand up to scrutiny, it's all a lie.

So I think the first impression of a blind date is not reliable, and we still have to carefully screen some things.

If the feeling at first glance makes you feel that it is not suitable for you, or it is not the feeling you want, it will be difficult to deal with it, and it is indeed better to fit in than in appearance, and it is precisely because of this that I feel that I should not force myself or the problem of my own thoughts. I don't know what you value most when you go on a blind date? Some people value appearance, he said that when we meet for the first time, we don't look at what we look at.

He's right, but he's not entirely right. It's true that when we meet for the first time, we all look at each other's looks, but there should be something else besides looks! Since you know that you are here on a blind date, you will definitely see if you have feelings, you will taste how this person is from between the lines, you will pay attention to some details, etc., so appearance should not be the main thing, but should only be part of your judgment.

Now there are no more talented women in society, but there are more and more beautiful women and beasts, and they live very happily together.

Many men are not good-looking, but they are beautiful, and they have not become a fetters on their way to pursuing the goddess. On the contrary, such people are more worthy of respect, because they must have a certain quality in them, so they will be favored by the other party. Therefore, looks are really not much important, even more so when two people live together, it doesn't matter what they look like, the important thing is that they feel comfortable with each other, and they will not change each other for anything, but accept everything in their lives calmly.

Since it is a blind date, you should pay more attention to understanding both parties, because the other party is the person who will accompany you through your life. After all, blind dates are different from falling in love, the most seeking love at first sight thumping feeling, love is a prelude to marriage, and many people who end up together are often not the first person who makes your heart move. Therefore, the feeling at first sight is not the most important, many times we always show our most perfect side in front of strangers in order to win favor, which is often not the truth, with great blindness, so the important thing is to discover slowly and gradually adapt.

Don't speculate on the blind date man with the worst malice, a good guess does not necessarily bring a good result, a bad guess will inevitably lead to a bad result, it is best to communicate without putting pressure on the other party and ask the reason clearly, when others don't know you, they will generally look at your face first, then look at your quality, and then look at your behavior to judge you as a person. How can you get the other person's appreciation? Of course, the most important thing is that your character should be good, and then your appearance should be clean, so that the success rate of the blind date will greatly increase the celery pit.

At first glance, you can be insensitive, but you can't be disgusted and unpleasant, otherwise you will look at each other with bad emotions. Boys need to be humorous in moderation. It is advisable to prepare a few jokes in advance to ease the awkward atmosphere of the first meeting, and remember to be funny, if it is not funny, it will only make the atmosphere more awkward.

Girls should know how to refuse when a boy makes an unreasonable request. If you can do the above things well, you may be able to go on a successful blind date.

Due to the ephemeral nature of the blind date, the first impression of both men and women on a blind date becomes very important.

One is to smile after putting on makeup. The smiling faces of women with makeup are considered to be the most desirable to be in love, and the smiling faces of women without makeup are the least likely to be in love. It's not just the smile, but also the makeup that's essential.

In order to show the charm of the smile bridge, how about putting on makeup?

The second is to straighten the waist. Hunchbacks can leave a bad impression and also have adverse health effects. Straightening your back and engaging with people in the right posture can leave a good impression.

The third is to dress up beautifully. By dressing up, you can visually favor the other person, and confidently think, "I'm so beautiful today," and then you can take action with peace of mind.

Fourth, listen to each other's words. Echoing or listening silently to the other person will make a good impression on the other person. In order to improve the first impression, it is important not to show your charisma, but to listen to what the other person has to say.

Fifth, politeness is the most important thing. Be polite when dealing with people, so that you don't swim violently and make the other party feel uncomfortable. A self-cooked way of communication has the possibility of quickly becoming good friends with the other person, but also the danger of making the other person feel unpleasant.

First of all, be polite to others, observe the sense of distance with the other person, and make an effort to communicate with the other person.

Sixth, take the initiative to say hello. Take the initiative to say hello, such as "first meeting" and "good evening". If you are the first to say hello, you will leave a good impression on the other person. Pluck up the courage to say hello easily.

Seven is to make a clear sound. Speak in a voice that is easy for the other person to hear. Talking in a voice that is difficult to hear can put a lot of pressure on the other person.

A person's appearance is definitely important. From these external images, you can peek into a person's recuperation and quality, and the other party will quickly make a simple judgment on your likes and dislikes in his heart with his first impression.

Whether it is a business negotiation for business, or a blind date for men and women in private affairs, people are very concerned about the external image, hoping to leave a good first impression on the other party, and the other party will have the willingness to continue.

Words such as love at first sight, love at first sight, and hate to see each other late refer to how many touching love stories are deduced when the first meeting between the two parties leaves a perfect first impression on each other, or makes each other a good confidant of each other.

Therefore, the appearance of a person is very important when people meet for the first time.

The first time we met, and we met for a very important purpose.

The first impression is very, very important, as for dressing up, a man, there is not much to dress up, and there is no need to dress up very formally. Dress cleanly, appropriately, and generously. The main thing is to make others look comfortable and not disgusted.

Imagine that a boy is not kempt when he meets a girl for the first time, or the girl is not very dressed, then it is obvious that he does not pay attention to this blind date activity, and the other party will think that he is not respected enough, and the person who can meet and blind date in whatever way he dresses casually will not be very serious in his future work and life. So it's still necessary to groom yourself appropriately. Don't think that this is a sign of falsehood, when others don't know about you, your appearance can be the main factor that affects how others perceive you.

You can start with a friend, try to contact and interact slowly, if you still don't feel anything in the end, then forget it, after all, the blind date is not a satisfactory one.

In fact, the first impression of a blind date is to look at the appearance, the other party's appearance is not high, maybe it failed to arouse your interest, plus the two of you are in contact for the first time, it is normal for you to have no feelings for him, you can fall in love at first sight is a few and few families, you can try to contact it first, maybe you will find that he is a very good person in the future.

My husband and I met through friends, in fact, the first time we met, I didn't have much impression of him, we got together at a party, just took a photo, and then added WeChat chat through friends, chatted for a few months, I felt very chatty, and made an appointment to meet at a time and place, so this is our first official meeting, the impression of him at the time was very general, he was tanned for work reasons, and he was not very tall, but in the range of my cheating thoughts (I particularly value height), After meeting, I had dinner with him, and in the evening I went to the park for a walk and drank a cup of milk tea, and then I went back.

After going back, he also sent me a message every day, and gradually found that he was quite self-motivated and filial, so he tried to start a long-distance relationship with him, and then although there were contradictions, but both of them came over like this, so since you have plans to fall in love and get married, and the other party doesn't make you hate, you can understand it first, even if it doesn't work out in the end, it doesn't matter.

In the process of getting along, slowly discover each other's strengths and weaknesses, amplify the advantages and tolerate the disadvantages, so that you can be more firm in your love for each other on the way forward, and will give each other more tolerance and understanding.