How to deal with people who are not firm in their feelings?

If the relationship between two people is not invested in each other, it is more of a lose-lose situation, and two people will feel very hard and tired together, and they are dealing with each other and compromising each other. Then this feeling will make you particularly powerless.

One. You must have confidence in your feelings, and if you work hard in one place, you will feel that the days are getting happier and happier. Sometimes feelings need to be cared for, understood and tolerated.

Two. If we feel that we have given a lot, and we are always complaining that the other party does not care about your feelings and does not give as much as you give, this kind of complaining will make the two people estranged. If two people's hearts are together, it doesn't matter how much they give, just to make each other work hard because they are closer.

Three. If you feel that there is a lot of estrangement between two people, it is more about each other's pickiness, you can't see each other's advantages, you both feel that each other has many shortcomings, and you always see each other's shortcomings. Then we will complain about each other, be critical of each other, and feel that the person we are looking for is not me, and the person who will accompany us for a lifetime in the future, so we will feel that this relationship makes us very powerless, and we feel that we can no longer continue.

When you feel this way, the relationship stops. You're about to break up. Therefore, the relationship is to respond positively to each other with enthusiasm and show a sincere attitude.

Same as I thought, so be it!

To be clear about the difference in the personalities of boys and girls, boys are more considerate of girls, in fact, there is no need to spoil girls, even if they don't meet, send a message to the girl every day to care about her, and then ask her what happened today, the girl will be very satisfied. Unless there are special circumstances, girls should not refuse the invitation of boys without reason.

First, first reflect on yourself.

If there is something wrong with one's behavior, you must dare to admit your mistakes and take responsibility for the wrongs you have done, which is what an adult should and must do.

Show your own attitude, apologize or show that you value the relationship, etc., even if it is still irreparable, but you have a clear conscience.

Second, love yourself first and then love others.

According to the law of gravity in psychology, individuals tend to attract people with similar aura to their own.

In the process of interpersonal communication, only knowing how to give usually does not see the return, because pursuing what you are passionate about is the essence of human beings, and people often do not care about those who love them.

Of course, if you deliberately reinvent yourself in order to arouse the enthusiasm of others, so that you become the person who is liked by others, this is not correct, because it is not effective.

In short, when both parties have spent enough time together, each other's true nature will be revealed, your original appearance will be revealed sooner or later, and that short-term enthusiasm is destined to dissipate.

Third, improve yourself and find the next spiritual sustenance.

In psychology, this stage is considered to be one of the best periods for self-improvement. If you are immersed in emotions and can't extricate yourself, you can shift your attention and find the next spiritual sustenance, for example, set a new goal - research, **, learn a skill, etc.

Usually at this point, attention is completely diverted to the new goal. It doubles your efficiency and allows you to quickly break free from sadness and memories.

In general, if you want to completely erase your feelings, you must maintain your own rationality, do not make excuses for yourself and others, and do not have to make up false illusions for yourself.

If your emotions are always sad, then explore some things that you have been interested in, and balance your sadness with excitement to calm your emotions.

Eventually, transfer those bad emotions to the things you are interested in and eliminate them completely.