My husband wants me to have a child, I m afraid of pain, is it okay to want a divorce?

In fact, giving birth to a child is a process that every woman enjoys, although it is a little painful, but think about it, how could you come to this world without your mother's pain? Your husband is not wrong? Maybe you're not mature yet.

You can ask for a child a few years later, when you see that everyone has a child, then you will want a baby, it is not advisable for you to divorce, and whoever you marry needs this process.

You are not mature yet, if you understand the process of giving birth, you will not be afraid of pain, you will have regrets if you don't be a mother, and divorce is even more undesirable, just let your husband give you more time.

This is up to you, if he wants to have a child very much, and you don't have a child, then divorce him and let him find another one to help him have a child.

Unless you don't get married anymore, having children is a hurdle.

Husband, I want to have a common child with you, it's normal, if you love him, she will have a child with her. Then I will give you a crystallization of mutual love, and don't be afraid of him, because science is very advanced now. Don't divorce the person you love because of this, because after all.

Not too good.

If you and your husband are in love. You should have a baby. Is the fear of pain a problem? What a life for a family of three!

So what do you want to do if you're divorced? In addition to natural birth, there is also a caesarean section to give birth, and a caesarean section will not be very painful.

As long as you get married and have children, that is the threshold that must be passed.

There are two ways to divorce after giving birth: 1. After giving birth, if both parties reach an agreement on the divorce issue, they can sign a divorce agreement and then go to the divorce registration department to go through the divorce procedures, without time limit; 2. After giving birth to a child, if you choose to file for divorce, that is, to sue for divorce in the court, you need to submit a complaint to the court. As mentioned above, this situation is limited by time and subjectivity, that is, it can only be raised by the woman within one year, and the man cannot raise it under normal circumstances, unless the people's court considers that the submission by the husband should be accepted.

Article 120 of the Civil Procedure Law of the People's Republic of China provides that a complaint shall be submitted to the people's court, and copies shall be submitted in accordance with the number of defendants. Article 126 of the "Civil Procedure Law of the People's Republic of China" People's courts shall inform the parties of the relevant procedural rights and obligations in the notice of acceptance of the case and the notice of response to the lawsuit, or give oral notice. Article 1082 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China provides that a woman may not file for divorce during pregnancy, within one year after childbirth, or within six months after the termination of pregnancy; However, this is not the case where the woman files for divorce or the people's court finds it truly necessary to accept the husband's request for divorce.

Article 1079 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China provides that if one of the husband and wife requests a divorce, the relevant organization may conduct mediation or directly file a divorce lawsuit with the people's court. People's courts hearing divorce cases shall conduct mediation; If the relationship has indeed broken down and mediation fails, the divorce shall be granted.

Divorce, don't divorce and wait for the New Year? Having a baby is a matter for both parties. He should be fully considerate of you, and you should have children after you have reached a consensus, which is basic respect. If you don't even have this basic respect, what are you doing with it together?

Be convinced that having a baby is a start, if you compromise. After that, the situation that may be encountered is: "Oh wife, my mother is not in good health, let's have a second child."

My dad is not in good health, so don't work at home and be a full-time wife. My salary can't afford your life, so you can go and do a part-time job. My mother is not in good health, don't let the old man take care of the child, you can bring it yourself.

So don't back down, if you can accept the divorce, just leave quickly. There are too many troubles and too many hidden dangers. I hate it very much when the man says he has a cub when he opens his mouth.

After giving birth, if you don't pay or don't make efforts, you will tremble a little during the whole process, and the woman has to sacrifice so much to clean up such a mess for him.

Besides, in this kind of forced situation, the other party does not respect your right to choose at all, so it will be spread out. There is a moral kidnapping today, and there will be tomorrow. Therefore, it is the right choice to stop losses in time and jump out of the fire pit.

First tell him that you need to prepare for giving birth, and if you are not ready in all aspects, you will only be a woman who will suffer in the end.

You tell him about the level of consumption needed to give birth to a child, preparing for pregnancy, prenatal check-up during pregnancy, giving birth to a child naturally or by caesarean section, how to do confinement, and finally how to raise a child, the birth of a child also means greater responsibility and more dedication.

And being a father also requires a lot of pay, materially to meet, but also responsible for raising him to grow up, giving birth to a child is not to say that you are born, all conditions are met, you are ready to welcome the birth of the baby, this is responsible for a small life, so you must be cautious.

If he really divorces you because you don't want children now, then divorce, what does such a man want him to do? If he's going to do that, it's not worth your love for him at all. A woman is not a pig, can she still give birth when she gets married? Women are not machines that give birth to children.

Divorce cannot really solve the problem of whether to have children, and the best way to have children is for both husband and wife to communicate more and not to be too "stubborn".

If you are too stubborn, you will not be able to really solve the problem, and only by giving in to each other can the husband and wife give in to each other to let the problem have room for discussion and thus solve the problem. And for whether to have children, this question must be considered comprehensively.

The man generally has the pressure of his parents' family and is often forced by his parents to have children quickly, so the woman should think carefully about the man's thoughts and pressures. Many times, the man is also forced to do so, the parents want children, the wife does not want children, and the contradictory pressure on both sides is unbearable.

At the same time, the woman is less stressed than the family, but having a child means a lot of problems - appearance, future life, youth, etc., so many women are reluctant to have children too early.

At the same time, family conditions are also very important.

Both husband and wife should think carefully about whether it is too early to have a child now, whether there is stable financial support, and it is irresponsible to give birth to a child without financial support, whether it is for themselves or their children.

Therefore, having a child now or having another child in the future is not a question of inconsistent thinking, but a question that needs to be considered comprehensively.

If the family conditions have allowed to have children, and both husband and wife are not young, then it is reasonable to consider having a child, whether it is for the parents or for their old age, there is an explanation.

If the husband and wife have a big conflict on this matter, you can reconcile the opinions of both parties and set an approximate time, so that both parties have a certain amount of time to prepare, and do not expect to be able to make the other party agree with you immediately.

1. Hit it off.

At last! The two sides really can't be unified, and throwing dice, guessing boxing, etc. is also a solution. Divorce is really a "last resort", and if the two parties still have feelings, the divorce will hurt both parties and their families.

A harmonious solution is the best.

Have a little child, your husband chose to divorce not because he doesn't love you, but because you can't continue the next generation for him. Besides, even if your husband is willing to let you go and don't need you to give birth to a child for him, his family will not let you go, and the contradictions that arise will be even more severe.

Women have to have children sooner or later, and women have the following benefits when they give birth to children:

1. Reduce dysmenorrhea.

I have a classmate, when I was in school, every time I had menstruation, it was like having a serious illness, once I had a stomachache, everyone thought she was sick, and the boys in the class carried her to the hospital, but the doctor said it was the cause of menstrual cramps. At that time, the doctor told his classmates that it was okay and that they would be fine after giving birth in the future. Because, after a woman gives birth to a child, the condition of her uterus improves, menstrual blood flows out faster, and there will be no more menstrual cramps.

Years later, my classmates told me that menstrual cramps were completely cured by having children.

2. Delay aging.

Having a baby can also slow down a woman's aging degree, which may not be expected by many women. Many women look old after giving birth, which may actually be a misunderstanding. In fact, it may not be aging, but because the body is deformed and looks older.

In fact, after a woman becomes pregnant, there is no ovulation during pregnancy and lactation, and the ovaries get a rare opportunity to rest, which will delay the time for a woman to enter menopause, and actually delay the time of aging for a woman.

3. The chance of getting sick decreases.

During pregnancy, pregnant women are affected by their own hormones and the substances produced by the baby during the growth of the uterus to produce a substance, and this substance forms an antibody in the woman's body, many pregnant mothers during pregnancy and after childbirth infection with germs will gradually reduce the chance of fever and cold, and there are data showing that women after giving birth are much less likely to develop breast cancer than women who have not given birth.

I think it's better to leave if you have such a problem, after all, not wanting to have children for the time being is also a kind of permission for women. If you want to divorce for such a reason, I think this man actually wants to find someone to inherit the lineage, not to find someone to live with for the rest of his life. Because after getting married, when to have children, in fact, it is up to the couple to decide.

First, having children is unique to women's body structure, and I have always believed that reproductive rights must be in the hands of women, not husbands. Because some women consider it based on their own careers, and some consider it based on their own physical state, I think it is more appropriate to make a choice about their own fertility in such a state. Like a friend of mine, because she was three years ago (26 years old), when her career was on the rise, so she planned to have another child at the age of 27, her husband did not agree at the beginning, but did not file for divorce, but the two sides communicated, and found that it was not suitable to have children at that time, and later, she did a good job of contraception, and at the end of last year, she chose to have a child, and now she is in confinement, very happy.

Second, on the issue of having children, the husband said something that was not good, just sowing seeds, pregnancy and subsequent child-raising, all of which were basically pressed on women, and even after giving birth, women still need to return to work to earn milk powder money. So, I don't think a man who says he will divorce if he doesn't want children now is a good match. Because the wife is married back to live, not married back to be a fertility machine.

She has her own thoughts and concerns, and she knows what to do and what not to do. If the wife is in her thirties, and if she doesn't give birth, she will become an advanced maternal age, which is dangerous for childbirth, then in this case, it is also based on persuasion and communication, and cannot be used as a condition for divorce. At this point, even the law does not recognize it.

Three, died early in the morning, do you still think that you are still in the era when you can divorce your wife if you commit seven rules? Because one of the seven rules is childless. Even in that era, there was a time limit for seven out of seven childless, at least it seems that they would divorce their wives for three years without children for this reason.

The problem in the subject is that I don't want to have children now, but I still have the conditions to have children. In such a situation, it is not communication, but it is divorce to threaten his wife, what is the use of such a man? Kept as a duck?

Such a man, in addition to disrespecting women, also threatens divorce at every turn, and has problems in terms of conduct.

Therefore, I think that if you just don't want to have children for the time being, and your husband mentions divorce there, then leave! Get ahead of the time! Look at this scumbag!

Because I can't have children for the time being, the doctor said that I can consider having children until the end of October next year, and my husband said that he wants to divorce me.

He said that we were both too old, in our 30s, and thought that I was thin, and said that if there was any problem with my body in October next year, it would completely kill him.

He said that marrying me was the regret of his life, saying that his life was not good and he did not marry well, and my illness made him dislike and complain and blame him in various ways.

I got married late, and I got sick when I first got married, and in his eyes I saw resentment and hatred, and often gave me white eyes and cold violence.

But I just don't want to get divorced, I'm in my 30s, how can I find a divorce? Who do I go to? I'm afraid I won't be able to find it again.

I just want to get married once, I don't want to get divorced, I feel like I still have him in my heart. But he doesn't have me in his heart, what should I do? ”

My advice: This man has said so, you still don't want to leave? Such a responsible, selfish man, even if you don't leave now, may not be able to treat you well in the future.

Think about it for yourself, even if you don't get divorced, he only complains about you and ignores you, will your life be good? Will you feel good? It's better to get a divorce, because you are sick and temporarily unable to have children, fight for some compensation, and live well.

You don't see any affection for you in your description, and if it's really as you say, it's better to leave. Divorce is not something you can't leave if you don't want to leave him, not to mention being a scumbag.

It's hard to find it, are you doing well now? Are you willing to go through a long life in such a disgusting and emotionless married life? What's more, people are still unwilling, you have to reflect on yourself and escape from this scumbag as soon as possible.

What is there to be nostalgic for this kind of man who has no sense of responsibility and responsibility? He regards women as just tools for procreation, and does not respect women at all, even if you give birth to a child, he will not be much good to you later, and he will cut it off before he has a child. Divorced women are not miserable at all, but divorced women with children are the worst.

He is ruthless and unrighteous to you, and you still expect to be with you for the rest of your life when you are old? What you have to do now is to get more property after divorce, work hard after leaving, improve yourself, treat well, and slowly find the right person.