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It is impossible for a husband and wife to maintain the same opinion on everything in their common life, and it is not objective to avoid a little contradiction. Sometimes the two sides will always have different views on certain things, and even cause disputes and contradictions. At this time, how should we deal with it so as not to intensify the conflict and reconcile it?
1. Cold treatment.
When there is a quarrel, both parties should follow the principle of "cold treatment", do not always try to get the upper hand, and do not have to obey the other party's point of view. Because when both sides are not calm, some issues are not clear at once. Wait for a period of time to calm down, and deal with it after the anger is gone, but it is easy to solve.
2. Listen to each other's opinions.
Neither side should only emphasize its own reasoning without paying attention to the other's opinions.
3. Inhibit impulses.
When expounding your opinions, you should calmly explain the reason clearly, don't be too impulsive, and your voice should not be too loud, so that you will not be thought by the other party that you are using power to oppress others.
Fourth, do not expose the short.
In a quarrel, do not attack the other party's weaknesses or expose the other party's shortcomings, and do not expand the scope of the argument and settle old scores, otherwise it will only intensify the conflict and even lead to the breakdown of the relationship.
5. Don't beat or scold.
You can't use verbal abuse instead of reasoning, let alone use your hands, so as not to cause irreparable mental trauma.
6. Try to be patient.
If one party is physically and mentally tired or upset by something unpleasant, the other party should try to avoid arguing. Because the other party is often irrational or emotionally agitated at this time, it is difficult for both parties to communicate.
7. Don't run away from home.
After a quarrel, either party should not run away from home and never return, which will make the relationship between husband and wife even more stiff.
8. No gas blockage separation.
After a quarrel between husband and wife, do not live in separate rooms or beds and ignore each other. In this way, it is more difficult for both parties to calm their emotions, and it is not conducive to the improvement of the relationship between husband and wife.
9. Don't hold grudges against each other.
After the quarrel, no matter who is right or wrong, do not think of yourself as the winner, or have the psychology that the loser has lost face, and it is very common for husband and wife to quarrel.
10. Don't talk about divorce lightly.
Neither party should threaten the other party with divorce, which is easy to cause misunderstandings, and sometimes it will turn the fake into reality, resulting in uncontrollable consequences that they do not actually want to see.
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Why is the relationship okay? Because of the quarrel!
Foreigners have done a study that couples quarrel will enhance the relationship between husband and wife.
Of course, it's not good to quarrel every day, just like the first floor said, quarrel is noisy, and what shouldn't be said can't be said!
Contradictions in life are minor problems, and men should tolerate them!
If you want the other person to change into what you think, it's impossible! But it can be infiltrated little by little, and it will change slowly! Real husband and wife, neither of them wants to make each other angry!
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The two of us are in a similar situation, so let's be more tolerant of anything, after all, it's not easy to find someone who lives with you for a lifetime!
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As the saying goes, quarrels at the head of the bed and quarrels at the end of the bed and quarrels between husband and wife are relatively normal. Husbands and wives will always quarrel over trivial matters, and it is easy to get back together, is this kind of marriage a happy one? For example, people drink water and know their own warmth and coldness, this kind of marriage that often quarrels over trivial matters is unhappy for me.
Because if you are happy, you will not often quarrel over trivial matters, but will tolerate each other's shortcomings, and if you want to quarrel, you will quarrel only if something really happens, rather than some trivial things that can make both parties quarrel. Although this kind of quarrel will soon be reconciled, once something big happens, there may be no room for recovery.
There are many reasons why couples quarrel after marriage, they will quarrel over whether to live with their parents, after having children, they will quarrel over educating their children, and sometimes they will quarrel over what to eat today, whether the food is not good or not, and many times they quarrel over some trivial things. It is normal for husbands and wives to quarrel, everyone has their own temper, and when there is disagreement, there will be contradictions, and there will be quarrels. A lot of people quarrel and then a cold war.
If you ignore me, I will ignore you. And it is easy to reconcile after a quarrel, and it must be because one party has made concessions to get back together. However, the person who made the concession will definitely feel uncomfortable, feeling that his idea is right, why should he make concessions instead of the other party's concessions, so it is easy to create estrangement.
Many times the contradictions are not resolved, but are only hidden under a temporary peace, just waiting for the next eruption.
Everyone wants their life to be happy and free of quarrels. Although everyone has their own temperament, who doesn't want to live a happy life. Every day because of some trivial quarrels, I am also angry, unhappy, and unhappy.
Husbands and wives should live in harmony, discuss everything together, and listen to the right opinions when they disagree, rather than blindly making concessions.
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Personally, I think that such a marriage is also happy, because it is very normal for the husband and wife to have a little quarrel in the relationship.
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No. This kind of relationship mode is very disgusting, and if there are frequent quarrels, it will affect the relationship between two people.
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Such a marriage is happy, and quarrels are inevitable, but after quarrels, two people can still maintain their best state, which is happiness.
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Quarrels between couples are something that affects relationships, but some quarrels between couples can become emotions in life. The more quarrelsome, the better the relationship will be. This is probably the case for these reasons.
Do you know these secrets between them? The husband and wife also quarrel a lot, but when the two quarrel, they often take a little bit of water and do not act excessively because of the quarrel. Such a dragonfly water battle is destined to make the two people fall in love with each other more and more.
This quarrel did not affect the relationship between the two in essence.
The lives of two people can't be too integrated. Because it makes life too ordinary, there will be no waves at all. So if two people want to make life more interesting, if they want to cause greater discord, quarreling is the only way.
If couples are tired of arguing with each other, they don't want to fight anymore. Then each other will also look for a way out for each other, and two people will also look for the real reason for the quarrel because of the quarrel. When they quarrel, two people also know how to avoid each other because they love each other.
This avoidance gradually makes two people love each other more, love each other more, and the feelings of two people are more harmonious. Quarrels can affect feelings, but if you can find the disadvantages of fighting in quarrels and find the joy of life in fights, this happiness will become a symbol of harmony between two people.
When a man fights with you in a relationship, for immediate interests and gains and losses, compared to your occasional petty temper and small mistakes, he will show that he is not true love for you. Because a man doesn't really love you, his love for you is not simple and simple. He wants to approach you because he has other plans for you.
If you lose any use for him, he will not hesitate to abandon you. Then, no matter how much you love him, you must learn to lose money immediately and stay away from him as soon as possible.
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Not all couples quarrel the better, some couples will choose to divorce because of the number of quarrels, of course, there are also couples who quarrel more and the better their feelings, people and people's personalities are different.
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I think in real life, there are really couples who are more quarrelful and have a better relationship, because they will reflect after every quarrel and be able to better change for this relationship.
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This can't be generalized, it is true that some couples are the more noisy the better, they quarrel for a lifetime, and finally spend the golden wedding anniversary, but some couples are going to divorce after three quarrels.
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In such a situation, many couples will resolve the conflict when they quarrel, and after the quarrel, they will understand and understand each other better, so the relationship will be better.
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In fact, the more noisy the husband and wife, the better the relationship, it is completely necessary to have a husband with high emotional intelligence, so that the relationship will be as noisy as possible, because such a husband will resolve it in a humorous way.
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It's not like that, on the contrary, the more you quarrel, the more conflicts will arise, so that the family that has been arguing all the time will be discordant.
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In life, there are really some couples who quarrel the better, because quarreling is a way of communication for them, which can make the other party feel that they care about him.
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No, because no matter what kind of quarrel it is, it will eventually slowly wear out the relationship between husband and wife, and after a long time, it will inevitably lead to divorce.
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Of course there are, but such cases are very rare cases and we should not follow them, because it is not conducive to the development of feelings.
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Some. Because their quarrel is a manifestation of the run-in of values. So the more the two of them quarrel, the better the relationship will be.
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No. If you say a lot of hurtful things during the quarrel, it will affect the relationship between the husband and wife.
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No, because quarrels are very emotional, and if you quarrel every day, it will make people feel very bored.
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There is a saying on the Internet: If any woman only participates in your eating, drinking, and merry, and does not participate in your firewood, rice, oil and salt, she will be the kind of generous, gentle, empathetic and lovely goddess you want.
When you get married, some women will quickly enter the role, and the inner sense of possession and desire for all-round care is exposed. She longs for your understanding and care, especially in the process of getting along with her in-laws, she needs you to stand in front of things, and can't let her out to face those strange people and things.
A responsible husband will definitely protect a gentle and considerate wife, husband and wife are each other's chosen partners, is the most intimate and longest-lasting relationship in the world, should be higher than the parent-child relationship in the family, need to spend time and effort with each other.
Most family conflicts are due to unequal information.
Why do women always want to talk about it?
Everyone is an independent individual, from the beginning of Pangu, people use a variety of ways to express themselves, the way of expression is also diverse, language, action, sound, image, color, etc., the ultimate expression is to use the body to express their anger, dissatisfaction or grievances, but this way is too costly, there are often people around because of the long-term hanging back and causing disease.
Before the body makes a visible demonstration, trying to express yourself in words is the easiest thing to do.
Language can unravel people's doubts layer by layer, until they can interpret their own purpose, whether explicit or metaphorical, human beings are evolving their own way of expression.
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The contradiction is that two people actually have different views or their personalities, and the two people have different styles of doing things, so it is normal to have conflicts from time to time.
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It is normal for husband and wife to have occasional contradictions, but it is not normal to have contradictions often, two people need to understand and tolerate each other, and reflect on whether each contradiction is really worth arguing about, what will happen if you take a step back, there is no winner in a quarrel between husband and wife, all you lose are feelings, and what hurts is your children.
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Conflicts between couples can come from a variety of factors, such as:
Different personalities: There are great differences in the personalities, backgrounds, and growth environments of the couple, which makes the two disagree on some things, such as living habits, division of household chores, etc.
Lack of communication: If couples are unable to communicate effectively and express their true thoughts and emotions, it is easy to have conflicts and misunderstandings, and even accumulate and affect the relationship.
Helper's stress: Financial problems faced by one or both spouses, such as business failure, job loss, etc., can lead to tensions between the husband and wife.
Unfair distribution of family responsibilities: An uneven distribution of responsibilities in family life, such as childbearing, caring for the elderly, housework, etc., may lead to one partner feeling that they are taking on too much, resulting in complaints and conflicts.
In general, conflicts between husband and wife are mostly due to differences or cognitive biases in some aspects of each other. To alleviate these conflicts, it is necessary for both husband and wife to work together, communicate more, understand each other, and try their best to reconcile differences, so as to establish a harmonious and stable marriage relationship.
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Two people live together every day, and husband and wife are the closest people, and people who are in close contact will inevitably have a few hungry stumbles.
There is no such thing as a couple without contradictions, the key is to look at how to deal with them.
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Prove that you don't match!Let's separate.
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In the process of getting along with each other, husband and wife will always quarrel over small things, mainly because the relationship foundation of the two people is not good. When two people in a husband and wife relationship get along together, they should realize that if two people have been in love for a longer time, then there will be fewer conflicts between two people. Although most couples in life are prone to quarrels, for two people who have been in love for a long time and enter married life, they will find that the conflicts between the two people will be much less than those who have been in love for a short time.
In the process of getting along as a husband and wife, there is a quarrel because of some small things, you must know that this is mainly because of the incompatibility of the personalities between the two people. As a result, quarrels are also very frequent, and women should understand what kind of issues two people quarrel about when they want to reduce the conflict of quarrels. In fact, most of them in life are because after having children, there will always be conflicts between husband and wife because of some problems with children.
Since the child's parents are all for the child's good, the first thing you should learn to respect the child is to understand what the child likes to do the most. <>
Even in the case of a good relationship between husband and wife, there will be times of quarrels. When two people in a husband and wife relationship get along together, you must know that in fact, the teeth and tongue are so good, and there will still be bumps. Husband and wife have been together for a long time, because both of them have become the people who are most familiar with each other.
When talking and doing things together, they don't take into account each other's feelings at all, which leads to always wanting to let the other party experience their own feelings more in the process of getting along. <>
First of all, you should realize that when the husband and wife quarrel on the same day, they must not have an overnight feud. Once the couple has an overnight feud, it will feel easier to make the wife furious when they want to solve the problem on the second day. Therefore, as a man, in the process of married life, if you can tolerate it, try to tolerate your wife's temper.
If it's because of some trivial things, then forgive the other party, after all, it's a boy, be more considerate of girls and girls, don't be too stubborn, and be considerate of boys.
Yes. Especially when you first get married, you will often make a big fuss because of a little thing in life, but you will regret it afterwards.
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