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Two situations: 1. Your parents' views must be traditional and conservative, or they have some bad habits in the old society, or they are not satisfied with the conditions or other aspects, or your two families are too far apart, and the worst is that some superstitious ideas are not compatible, with the ideas of your parents' time, plus they have not seen the world outside and do not pay attention to social and national affairs, that old ideas and habits have been deeply ingrained in their minds, and it is impossible for you to change him. It doesn't always work to say what you say to him. You need to start from other aspects, as their child he definitely wants you to be happy, he disagrees that they have different concepts from you, so they can't communicate, but their starting point is for your happiness, their worry is that you are not happy together, so you have to grasp the common ground of happiness to do their ideological work, if they think that you are not satisfied, and you are unhappy, when the time comes, do you hold a grudge against them and slowly guide them from this aspect2, Your boyfriend's family conditions are not as good as your family, work, education is also average, your parents feel that he is not worthy of you, in this case, your parents are more powerful, if you really love your boyfriend, then you have to be firm in your own ideas, because you are an adult, have your own ideas and power, your parents' words can only give you advice, can not decide your own things, you have your own right to choose your own marriage, now the times are progressing, everyone has their own right to choose, It's not that the marriage of girls in the old society was decided by their parents, you have to explain the truth to them, if they are unreasonable, you don't have to pay attention to their opinions, will you accept the advice given to you by unreasonable people?
You can decide to marry your boyfriend and stay away from your parents, of course, not to pay attention to them, just to make them out of sight and out of mind, after all, they are your parents and have the grace of parenting, and when your life is good, you can find a way to compensate them and let them understand that your choice is the right one. I would like to express my personal opinions, and please correct me if there are any shortcomings.
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Do you have a life of your own**? Is there an independent economic base? Is there a planned future? Do you have the money to buy a house and a car, and don't you want help from home? Or have you decided that whether you have a good car or a big house, you want to live with this person you love?
If the above question I asked, your answer is "Yes, I have it all, I have it all".
Congratulations, you're ready to get married... Notice that it is you who are married, not your parents ... If they don't want to, they can not come to your wedding, they are neither brides nor brides, without them, everything is the same, you can continue (but the premise is that you must be clear to the parents, do they dislike him, is there a reason for them, they love you so much, they generally don't mess around, if they really like the poor and love the rich, or are unreasonable, then ignore them).
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Parental interference in marriage can be dealt with in the following ways:
1. You can communicate more with your parents;
2. If the parents ignore the children's words, the children can report the situation to the neighborhood committee, village committee, and other departments, and the neighborhood committee, village committee, and other departments will do the ideological work of the parents and stop their interference in the marriage.
China has a system of freedom of marriage, and parents are resolutely prohibited from interfering in marriage. Freedom of marriage refers to the freedom of the parties to decide their own marriage wishes within the scope of the law, without interference and coercion by external forces. Freedom to marry may be undermined in the form of forced marriages, arranged marriages, bigamy, fraudulent marriages, marriages of sale, formal marriages, child marriages and same-sex marriages.
Civil Code of the People's Republic of China
Article 1046:Marriage shall be completely voluntary between a man and a woman, and neither party shall be allowed to coerce the other, nor shall any organization or individual interfere with it. Article 1054:An invalid or annulled marriage is not legally binding from the beginning, and the parties do not have the rights and obligations of husband and wife. Property acquired during the period of cohabitation shall be disposed of by agreement of the parties; If an agreement is not reached, the people's court shall make a judgment on the basis of the principle of taking care of the innocent party.
The disposition of property in an invalid marriage resulting from bigamy must not infringe upon the property rights and interests of the parties to a lawful marriage. The provisions of this Law on parents and children shall apply to children born to the parties.
If the marriage is invalid or annulled, the innocent party has the right to claim damages. Article 1052:Where marriage is entered into due to coercion, the coerced party may request the people's court to annul the marriage.
Where a request for annulment of marriage is made, it shall be submitted within one year from the date on which the coercive act is terminated.
Where a party whose personal liberty has been unlawfully restricted requests the annulment of marriage, it shall be submitted within one year from the date on which personal liberty is restored. Article 1051 Marriage shall be null and void under any of the following circumstances:
a) bigamy; 2) Have a family relationship that prohibits marriage;
3) They have not reached the legal age for marriage.
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Legal Analysis: It is a crime for parents to interfere in marriage, and the law stipulates that no one can interfere with the freedom of marriage of others, and parents are no exception. If the parents obstruct the freedom to marry, the marriage is null and void and the marriage can be annulled.
If parents violently interfere with the freedom of marriage, and the circumstances are serious, it may also constitute the crime of violent interference with the freedom of marriage, and the sentence is up to two years imprisonment or short-term detention.
Legal basis: Article 1042 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China prohibits arranged marriages, buying and selling marriages and other acts that interfere with the freedom of marriage. It is forbidden to solicit money or property under the pretext of marriage.
Bigamy is prohibited. It is forbidden for a spouse to cohabit with another person. Domestic violence is prohibited.
Abuse and abandonment between family members are prohibited.
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Legal analysis: If the woman's parents interfere with the marriage, the man can sue. According to our law, parents can sue the court for interfering with marriage, because marriage is the embodiment of the will of a free person, and it is a free right of a person to marry or not to marry, and the law stipulates that no one may interfere in any way with the marriage of a citizen, in which parents are not special persons under the law, and have no special status in the law to interfere with the marriage of their children.
Therefore, parents are not allowed to interfere in the marriage of their children, and under certain conditions, parents can file a lawsuit with the court for interfering with the marriage.
Legal basis
Article 1042 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China prohibits arranged marriages, buying and selling marriages and other acts that interfere with the freedom of marriage. It is forbidden to solicit money or property under the pretext of marriage. Bigamy is prohibited.
It is forbidden for a spouse to cohabit with another person. Domestic violence is prohibited. Abuse and abandonment between family members are prohibited.
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Where parents interfere in a marriage, the parties may apply to the relevant unit for intervention and mediation. The freedom of marriage is the basic principle of China's relevant laws, and the so-called freedom of marriage is to ensure that individuals decide to choose their spouses in marriage, rather than being passively decided, including whether to marry, when to marry, and who to marry, etc., are all independent decisions, and arranged marriages are prohibited. The so-called arranged marriage refers to the marriage of a third party who violates the principle of freedom of marriage and ignores the will of the parties to the marriage and forces others to marry.
Civil Code of the People's Republic of China
Article 1042.
Arranged marriages, buying and selling marriages and other acts that interfere with the freedom of marriage are prohibited. It is forbidden to solicit money or property under the pretext of marriage.
Bigamy is prohibited. It is forbidden for a spouse to cohabit with another person.
Domestic violence is prohibited. Abuse and abandonment between family members are prohibited. Article 1051.
Marriage is null and void under any of the following circumstances:
a) bigamy; 2) Have a family relationship that prohibits marriage;
3) They have not reached the legal age for marriage.
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If parents interfere with their children's marriages, the following measures should be taken:
Communicate with parents: First, children should sit down with their parents, communicate patiently, listen to their opinions and ideas, and then explain their thoughts and decisions. Respecting each other's opinions and communicating rationally is the key to reaching a consensus.
Be firm in your decision: If the parent's interference is beyond reason, the child should be firm in his or her decision. Marriage is a matter for the children themselves, and it should be decided by the children themselves.
Seek help from a third party: If communication fails, your child may consider seeking help from a third party, such as a marriage counselor, lawyer, or other professional.
Maintain a good relationship: Children should maintain a good relationship, regardless of whether their parents support their decision or not. Respect the opinions of parents, but also let parents know their thoughts and decisions in order to achieve a situation of mutual understanding and respect.
Consider the consequences of marriage: Children should consider the consequences of marriage when making decisions, including family, financial, and life implications. If there are reasonable grounds for a parent's objection, the child should seriously consider it and make an informed decision so that they do not regret it in the future.
Maintaining the marital relationship: If the child is married, but the parents still interfere in the marital relationship, the child should take timely measures to maintain the marital relationship. For example, you can re-communicate with your parents or seek professional counseling.
Be filial to your parents: No matter what, children should be filial to their parents and respect their opinions and decisions. Even if you disagree, you should communicate and exchange with a positive attitude, showing your filial piety and respect.
Seek support from other family members: If parents interfere with their child's marriage, children can seek support from other family members, such as sisters, brothers, uncles, etc. Their support and encouragement can help children better cope with parental interference.
Maintain a good attitude: In the process of dealing with parents' interference in their children's marriage, children should maintain a good attitude and not be overly emotional or pessimistic and disappointed. Believe in your abilities and decisions, stick to your beliefs, and believe that good results will end well.
Find other ways to solve the problem: If the above measures are not effective in solving the problem, children can find other ways, such as legal means or the help of social organizations, to protect their legitimate rights and interests. However, this needs to be considered on a case-by-case basis.
In short, dealing with the problem of parents interfering in their children's marriage requires their children to have a patient, rational and mature attitude, and at the same time, parents need to be able to respect their children's ideas and decisions.
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