If you don t want others to be too nice to you, why? 50

Normal. I've had this happen to me too.

At that time, there was a person who cared about me very much, and I coldly threw a sentence to her: Don't be too nice to me. I don't like that.

Actually, at that time, I didn't know why I said such a thing. But I said it anyway.

I don't know how to cherish it. I should say that I just haven't learned to cherish it yet, right?

Everyone will always encounter something boring.

Others are too nice to him, too caring. On the contrary, I felt uncomfortable.

It's farther away, and there's less contact. That concern is still there, and sometimes I feel that this is normal.

But there will always be a lonely day, and perhaps we can say that loneliness has come to an end for you when you say this.

Our thoughts don't stop others from doing things.

Caring is because you care, and caring is because you are a friend.

Whether while others care about you, you shouldn't throw a cold word coldly, so that his enthusiastic heart is as cold as stagnant water.

If you don't know how to cherish it, shouldn't you be cherished?

It should be afraid that after others treat her well, and then leave her, she will be sad and sad at that time, it is better to be happy by yourself, it is estimated that she has no sense of security. Such a person is the same character as Rainie Yang in (Sweetheart Baby), who has been hurt and sad, so he goes alone and doesn't make friends.

I've hurt someone who was kind to me. Or they are afraid that they will be hurt, so they simply don't want others to be nice to them, and keep their distance to be safe.

She is both kind and arrogant, and she looks down on ordinary men and doesn't want to hurt them.

Maybe it's because of her direct language that she often hurts her friends.

Because people have a comparison mentality, when they see that the people around them are better off than themselves, they will have a kind of hatred of the rich, and even poke each other's backbones in the back. When my husband and I first got married, our family was poor and had no savings. At that time, I quit my job to take care of the baby because I was pregnant, and my family life was very poor, and I was also looked down upon by relatives and friends around me.

Later, my husband and I relied on our own efforts to buy a car and a house in the city, thinking that the people around us would bless us, but we didn't expect them to become more indifferent and sneer at us all the time. Since then, I have understood that you can't care too much about other people's opinions, and no matter how well you are doing, there will always be people who gossip behind your back.

First, the people around you can't see your own good, which is a manifestation of selfishness. Some people who are cold by nature can't see people at all, and the people around them are better than themselves, and they will not be kind to others, and they always live in their own world. Once you find that your relatives and friends are better off than you, you will feel jealous and even slander each other's reputation behind your back, which is the sinister nature of human nature.

Second, human nature is so intricate, even if others don't want you to live well, you have to be self-reliant. We can't gag people, even if they don't want to be well, you have to learn to fight for it. Life is for yourself, you don't need to care about other people's opinions, as long as you keep making progress at all times, for the sake of dreams and having a better life, as for other people's opinions, you can completely ignore them.

Third, in the face of those who don't want you to have a good life, it's better to stay away as soon as possible. When we choose to make friends again, we should stay away from those who are jealous, because once you are better than the other person, they will slander them in every way. We should make some honest and selfless friends, when your life is getting better and better, they will bless you from the bottom of their hearts, and are eager to be your good friends for life, such people are worthy of your eternal cherishment.

Why wish others well? Why wish to be good to people who are not good to you?

Hello, I hope others are good, because every filial piety has their own health, happiness and happiness, and they also hope that they can be friendly with everyone. As for those who treat you badly, there are reasons why you want them to be happy too. First of all, this is a positive and healthy state of mind, which allows you to put aside the bad emotions of the past, no longer hold grudges, release your life space, and also allow yourself to gain psychological comfort when you are cautious.

It takes a certain amount of time and effort to get rid of the mentality that you don't want others to be better than you. Here are some suggestions to help you get rid of this mentality over time:

Accept yourself: Accepting your own uniqueness and individual differences is the first step to eliminating the psychology of comparison. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, focus on their own achievements and progress, rather than making unnecessary comparisons with others.

Build self-confidence: Cultivating self-confidence is the key to eliminating the psychology of comparison. Develop your skills, interests, and talents to boost your self-esteem and self-confidence. Remember, everyone has their own unique value and potential.

Focus on personal growth: Focus on your own personal growth and development rather than competing with others. Set personal goals, strive to achieve your dreams and pursuits, and be satisfied with your progress.

Positive Mindset and Gratitude: Develop a positive mindset and learn to be grateful for what you have. Attach importance to the little things and happy moments in your life, and be grateful for your accomplishments and the support around you.

Healthy social circles: Build healthy social circles and surround yourself with positive, supportive people. Avoid surrounding yourself with people who only focus on competition and comparison, and choose to build deep relationships with people who share similar values and interests with you.

Develop self-values: Be clear and stick to your own values and beliefs. Know what is really important to you and don't let the judgmental patterns and expectations of others dictate your actions and decisions.

The most important thing to remember is that everyone's journey is unique and everyone has their own path to follow. Focusing on your own growth and well-being, rather than comparing yourself to others, can help you build a healthier, positive mindset.

It shows that you are very jealous, and it is recommended that you adjust your mentality and try to be yourself, so that you will slowly change ......

I am good to others, and others should be grateful, and they must be good to me!

The logic seems perfect and flawless. It's just that you're ignoring one thing, and that's human nature.

Human nature is the most unfathomable.

Some people just like to enjoy the kindness of the people around them, and never think about what to do to repay the people around them.

He thinks that since he can easily get the kindness of others by doing nothing, it shows that his charm is still great.

In that case, there is no need to make any effort to be good to others. Anyway, others are already big fans of themselves.

Those who are kind to others while expecting something in return will often be disappointed, because not everyone will behave exactly like what they imagined to be the perfect persona.

Since you have a purpose in being good to others, and you are not simply treating others well, then there must be situations where you cannot achieve your goal, and you should not be disappointed or irritated because of this.

Isn't that what unrequited love is all about? You give wishful thinking, but you want the other person to give too.

Others don't like you at all, how can you give?

Either you meet a selfish person, and a selfish person will not be kind to anyone, only to himself.

If you do good to others with a purpose, others will be pressured.

You are kind to others and expect to be rewarded, which is also selfish in nature, hoping that you can be treated well by others through hard work.

It's a pity that you don't know the truth of Qiaobai, and you always feel that you are particularly wronged, why no matter how you pay, you just moved yourself and worked hard.

It's easy to say without asking for anything in return, but it's hard to do a collapse, after all, no one is a saint.

Always believe that hard work will be rewarded.

However, it is normal for the object of the effort to be wrong, and there is no reward.

What is the most complicated thing in the world, in fact, everything is very complicated, but some things seem complicated, but when you peel back the cocoon, you find that the principle is so simple...

Some things seem simple and harmless, but when you go deeper and deeper, you find that you are at a loss for complexities, such as people's hearts.

In people's hearts, some friends always say that they hope that you will do well in the exam, do well, marry well, and be happy.

But I slowly found out that he wants you to live well, but just don't be better than him, just don't be better.

When we are no longer simple, when our hearts begin to be complicated, when we also have our own careful thoughts, and slowly approach the human nature that we are not used to.

For example, your best friend is better married than you, for example, the same village is better than you.

For example, a colleague is promoted faster than you.

For example, the children she gave birth to are even better.

In fact, sometimes it is not our selfishness from the bottom of our hearts, but society that forces you to become less and less like yourself.

If your best friend marries better than you.

If you are still struggling and do not have more ability to give your parents a better life, your parents are actually impatient sometimes, waiting for the results you give, but directly see your best friend's life, and give you a comparison that is not as good as her, some comparisons are made by the fermentation of others, and they are still the people you care about the most.

If the same village does well.

The most heard sentence is, you see which university so-and-so was admitted to, you are really inferior to him, which invisibly made me make a secret comparison between you and the same village in my heart, breaking the balance.

If a colleague does a good job, he may indeed be more capable, maybe you will admire his ability, think he is very powerful, if the superior always says, you see who does things more effectively, so that our originally very calm heart becomes sour and evolves into jealousy.

Sometimes it's not that we want to compare, but that this society invisibly gives us too many comparisons, making us little by little show that we don't like people.

Jealousy is actually human nature, broken down, in fact, it can be understood, what we do is to avoid such embarrassment, the loss of friends we don't actually need to lose.