Am I really immature, how can I judge if I am immature?

It's normal for you to be called a little brother when you're younger, it doesn't mean anything, say that you are a child, it should be a matter of talking and talking, usually pay attention to your own image, be calm and calm in case of trouble, don't overreact, try to laugh less when you speak, that's a childish performance, don't frown so seriously. Introvert, I think, if you are usually free, you will not go to your leader or someone more experienced than you to chat and ask for advice, because of this, others will think that you are shy or immature, or what, lack of communication with others, will feel out of place, and it will be boring to learn alone all day long! You should change from passive to active, you have positive thoughts that should be known to people, especially leaders, how can people know?

Ask more and ask for advice, because they are all from the past, and they are much more experienced than you, and you sincerely ask for advice, so that people will think that you are motivated and studious, and Confucianism can be taught, and they will definitely give you good advice! In addition, if a friend invites you, let's go out and play together, how boring it is to work all day long, and if you go out and mix a lot, you can naturally learn some useful social skills! What I said is a bit messy, to sum up, passivity can only be led by the nose by others!

Be sure to take the initiative!

Maturity is embodied in thought, not in action.

Thinking deeply about the work and coming up with my own unique perspective, I think everything can be solved.

It's easy to play with everyone.

Maybe they think you don't want to play with them.

Of course, just graduating seems to be immature, and experience will be reflected in appearance. Take a look at what everyone usually talks about, pay attention to those aspects of information when you have time, accumulate it, and interject a few words when others chat, and take your time. It doesn't hurt to participate in social activities and learn more.

I think the most important thing is to do a good job of the tasks assigned to you by your superiors, be efficient, and don't look frizzy. Do things seriously, and when you accept them, you should have confidence in your results. Solving problems will make you mature.

Then you just go with the flow, you can learn ...

Mature in their own hearts, their own ability to bear strong, do not procrastinate, assertive, can solve problems objectively and rationally.

Do you still trust others. You're familiar with the accident.

It still depends on the way you deal with specific things.

There are two very important psychological themes in a person's life. One is independent and the other is mature. Independence is a process of finding and building oneself.

For example, in the first half of a person's life, there are two rebellious periods, one is around 3 years old, and the other is the well-known adolescence. During these two periods, the single word that a person said the most was: No!

When a child keeps saying no to his parents, to his teachers, to the people around him who are stronger than him, he is actually expressing the consciousness that I want to live according to my own ideas. So, it's a process of getting rid of dependency and building oneself. There are many people who have talked about this point in many articles and books, and I believe that many people are also familiar with this view.

02 Today we would like to discuss another topic: maturity. The word maturity is not unfamiliar to most people, but its connotation is not so fully discussed.

In my opinion, maturity is a continuation of independence, or a further development. If independence is a process of finding and building oneself, then maturity is a process of expanding oneself. In terms of expression, one of the most typical characteristics of a mature person is that he no longer easily says no.

For example, when something is different from what they expected, they no longer easily say that it is wrong or should not be. For example, when a person thinks or has a different opinion from their own, or even diametrically opposed, they will not be particularly angry, or jump up to attack and refute. In short, the core of the maturity mentality is to make a person more and more accepting and accept all kinds of differences in life.

03 If we look at the people around us, we will find that there are many people who are stuck in the transition period from independence to maturity, and are too obsessed with saying no, so they seem to be less mature. To put it simply, there are three main manifestations of this immaturity: immaturity manifests itself 1:

When someone thinks differently from what they think, there will always be a difference in whether it is a person or a thing. When confronted with these views or attitudes that are inconsistent with their own ideas, the first reaction of immature people is: How can this be?

That is, their instinctive reaction is to eliminate it, not to understand it. One person once described this feeling: "When others have different opinions and opinions than me, I get angry and feel that I have been greatly challenged.

This feeling is very representative, and to put it more precisely, it is also a very important reason why there is only quarrels and no arguments on the Internet today. When a person can only seek common ground and cannot distinguish between them, he will limit his cognition to a small range and cannot grow. When mature people face all kinds of differences, they will not easily say that this is wrong, and will not easily deny it, but first empathize with a mindset of curiosity and exploration to understand, why does the other party think this way?

How does the other person feel? When one does not easily say no to things that one does not understand and goes to explore and explore these inconsistencies.