What should I do if I don t have a good personality with my husband? I am getting more and more inco

This can't be helped, if you can bear it, keep going! If you can't stand it, give each other an outlet!

Everyone is an independent individual, with their own likes and their own way of thinking, so if two people want to live together, there will definitely be friction.

What can I say, I just want to send you two words hehe, didn't you get along before you got married? Haven't you gotten to know each other? Even the personality discord was discovered after getting married, which is too ridiculous, I really don't know why I am in such a hurry to get married.

Anyway, you only have two ways now, the first is to endure each other, think about why you married him in the first place, what is the purpose of your marriage, and then think about it now, do you feel happy? Do you want to continue this marriage, if you want to continue this marriage, then you have to accommodate him in terms of personality, or you have a long talk with him, and ask him what you don't like about his personality, if he is willing to make corrections, then everyone is happy, if he feels that his character is fine, and you don't want to divorce, then you have to change your personality, and you have to be responsible for your own death.

If you don't want to go on, you can't bear this kind of life anymore, you feel that his personality is completely opposite to your own, and you don't want to compromise at all, then you have to talk about it first, and go directly to the divorce after the chat, don't drag it out, the more it drags on, the more it hurts both parties, and you may still feel very irritable about such a nasty person every day.

I think a person really shouldn't be in such a hurry to get married, even if the marriage is in a hurry, you need to understand each other, how a person's personality is basically a few months after getting along, you make me think that your marriage is likely to be a flash marriage after a few days of acquaintance. The advice I can give you is that if you love, then discuss and solve it, if you don't love, let go as soon as possible and give each other a chance to find happiness again.

Since you call him your husband, it must prove that you are married, and if you don't have a married personality, break up! Go back to each house and find a mother. Some time ago, I always quarreled with my husband, and I said that I wanted a divorce if I didn't agree.

Later, my dad found out that we had a quarrel and asked why we were arguing? Why do you say you want to get a divorce? I casually said at the time that my personality was not compatible.

My dad is very domineering, what were you doing?

My dad asked this sentence well, and his personality was incompatible, a ridiculous word. Since you have chosen to get married, you must have entered the palace of marriage after a long period of love running-in. If you know that the other party is not suitable for you, you will not choose to spend the rest of your life with him at all.

Since he has chosen, it must be because his personality and temper are very suitable for you, take care of you, and love you. Otherwise, who would be stupid to live with someone they don't like.

On the merits, if you really don't have the right personality and can't continue to live it, you must first think about your children. If you have children, you should consider the feelings of your children, because the biggest victims of divorce are children. His personality will change drastically because of this, and even affect his studies and his physical health.

If you don't have children, it's a different story. If you don't have children, you and your husband's personality really can't live together, then you can choose the life you want again, and choose the other half you want again.

But then again, what's the big deal if the personality doesn't match? Your husband is not eating, drinking, prostituting and gambling outside, and his personality is incompatible, so he can run in! If you really love each other very much, you can try to change for each other, change your bad temper, and change your bad character.

No one is perfect, it is not easy for two people to be together, and it is even more difficult to be able to get married. Try to change for the other person, because there is nothing impossible in friendship.

Do it and cherish it!

There is no need for a divorce. You can run in with each other to run in the personalities of two people, and at the same time, you should also have a certain amount of communication, so that you can gradually run in with each other.

At this time, you should not divorce, you should run in, learn more about each other's thoughts, and only when there is really no way, it is better to divorce again, because being able to be together is a very fateful thing, and you can't give up so easily.

Personality is getting more and more incompatible, it is definitely the right to divorce, there are a lot of problems in the relationship between two people, and the three views are not the same, there will be contradictions together, divorce is the wisest choice.

Of course, it should be divorced, if the personality of the husband and wife is seriously incompatible, there will be a lot of conflicts, and you can only quarrel every day, it is better to divorce as soon as possible.

In this case, we have no choice but to compromise or divorce. Through your description, you can know that you and your husband are not the most suitable couple, because the personalities of the two people are not very compatible, and the philosophy of life is completely different. I think the main reason why you are still together is to maintain this stable marriage, not love.

You said that you don't want to divorce because of the relationship between your parents, and you are afraid that your parents will be hit, because your sister's marriage is not particularly happy. So your parents pinned their hopes for a happy marriage on you. And since your parents are civil servants, they also want you to marry a civil servant.

Now there are indeed many civil servants, and the good son-in-law in the hearts of parents, after all, has a stable salary, good working conditions, and high social status. These are external hard conditions. It does not mean that you can be happy if you marry a civil servant.

For example, your husband, who is a boring person, is unlikely to have that special feeling when you are with him.

If you can't change him, you can only change yourself. Try to adapt to his lifestyle, and after understanding him, maybe you won't find your husband very boring. He also has things that he himself finds interesting, and if you can have the same interests and hobbies, it will be more enjoyable and envious.

In any case, the husband has to talk about it, this marriage can be very stable, but it is very boring. It can also be stable and fun, mainly depending on how much you communicate.

I want to end this unhappy and depressing married life. Either reconcile with your husband, or divorce him and find another one. For now, there are only two ways to follow your heart.

Before getting married, I was emotionally aware and full of expectations for the future.

After getting married, real life often doesn't change.

When the expectation increases, the disappointment increases.

Sometimes it's really used to it, and it's hard to change.

We all want to change each other and do what we are asked to do, but in fact, we are all right, and what is wrong is that I am all right.