My husband plays mahjong all night during the holidays, how can I communicate with such a boring lif

This is actually a problem in a marriage between the sexes, and it is not just about communication.

From the point of view of the NLP system, in order for the relationship between the sexes to remain happy for a long time, it must conform to the three principles of wholeness, balance and order. The principle of "balance" is especially applicable to the relationship between good couples entering marriage and daily life. So, how to maintain the "reciprocity of giving and receiving", that is, the "balance" of both sides of the relationship?

When your husband chooses something that is not valuable to himself, to others, or to the marriage, but to affect the harmony of the family, it is necessary to examine whether there is something wrong with your marriage, causing your husband to choose this way to escape his family responsibilities and run away from the family.

Playing mahjong all night seems to be a very frustrating and angry thing, but in fact, behind this matter, it may be that a family no longer has nostalgia for their partner, which will make him annoyed and don't want to face it.

So, instead of repeatedly communicating about "playing mahjong", it is better to examine your marriage, the subject himself also mentioned "boring life", is there no other way for you to entertain in addition to playing mahjong, life hobbies, etc.? Is the subject's own life boring?

Interesting married life.

It's not natural, marriage and family need to be managed, and the said business includes, to operate two people in addition to firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea.

In addition to some interests, personal hobbies, growth, promotion, etc., how two people in love want to be from an intimate relationship.

Growing together is a very important topic in marriage.

When we go from being an independent person to entering a relationship, it does not mean that we should give up on ourselves and ask for each other, and we hope that all the hope of life comes from our partner. When you see that the other person is playing mahjong very boring, what are you doing to make your family life "more interesting"? For example, if you arrange your time very tightly every day, beauty, reading, work, sports, handicrafts, floral arrangement, watching movies, watching dramas, etc., and feel that your life is very interesting, do you think that your husband will really not be affected and join in?

Even if he is still not interested in what interests you, he will be influenced by your positive and disciplined attitude towards life.

InApplied PsychologyOne of the things we recognize is that on both sides of the relationship, who suffers, who changes.

Obviously, it's you, not your lover, who comes for help. Then, you actually have more ways to change your marriage and change your lover by your change. Why not give it a try?

I hope it can help you, and I wish you a happy family life.

I think you should talk to him about it, and finally have a vacation to play mahjong, I feel that he actually doesn't pay attention to you a little bit in his heart, so I advise you to warn him.

Because such a man has less sense of responsibility, he may go to play mahjong because he is at work every day, but this is obviously fooling you, he doesn't feel it, so you should not let him play again, let him spend the holiday time with you better, if he doesn't listen to persuasion, feel that he loves to play too much, you still have to think about whether such a marriage continues. When he doesn't play mahjong, you have to infiltrate him with a thought that you don't like mahjong, so that he will also reflect on it, and it will also make him restrain a little bit during the holidays and find as much time as possible to spend with you, because if he always plays mahjong, you will also feel very annoyed. Such a husband, I ask you, talk to him well, if he does not change this problem, it will have a great impact on your future life.

When I see such a question, I am deeply moved.

My husband used to be like this for a while. As soon as he has time, he won't stay at home, and always makes an appointment with his mahjong friends to play mahjong.

A dozen is a whole day, sometimes even a day and a night do not go home, eating and drinking all in the mahjong hall, like a demon.

As a dad, he is irresponsible. He doesn't know what the child likes to eat, what he doesn't like to eat, he doesn't even know how to change the child's diaper...

As a husband, he is also unqualified. He doesn't communicate with me, doesn't care if I'm tired from taking care of the children, doesn't help me with the family...

I knew that I was enjoying playing mahjong all day long, completely ignoring how our mother and son were doing. I was very angry and very angry and very disappointed in him. I don't know what I'm left with when I marry him and besides the children. <>

At first I had a lot of arguments with him, but it didn't work, he just thought I was unreasonable. I won't make trouble later, and I won't talk about it. I always think, I don't talk about him, let him take the initiative to find out what he did wrong, realize his problems.

But I was wrong, and all I had to do was get him to get worse again and again.

After a long period of suffering, I slowly realized that it is impossible for such men to want them to self-reflect.

They don't know that they have a problem, and if you don't let him take on what he should do, he will always think that you are omnipotent, and you can handle everything at home.

Slowly, I let go of things at home. No matter the small things, the big things are left to him to do by himself. Let him participate in this family, and go out to play mahjong when there is no extra time.

When the two of them were free, I told him what was in my heart and told him everything he had undertaken before, which was very tiring and needed him very much.

I don't object as strongly as I did at the beginning when he wants to go out sometimes, I'll let him go out and tell him to come back early, the family needs you.

Or sometimes I would go out with the kid and watch him play, and he wouldn't play long when he saw us sitting there.

Sometimes he hasn't come back after a long time, I will message him and ask when he will be back, I am waiting for him at home....

Now he has changed a lot, and he won't care about his family as much as he used to. It's fair to say that he's passing now, and of course I'm sure he can do better.

So you can try my method to communicate with your husband, I believe there will be unexpected results!