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Nowadays, children are not fed and clothed, children's education is the top priority, many parents ignore the education of their children because of work reasons, usually in addition to learning with children, there seems to be no other topics to talk about, in fact, want to understand what children are thinking, parents should learn to listen patiently to their children's inner thoughts, and at the same time treat children as an equal friend. <

When children are young, they can express their joys and sorrows through crying and laughter, and sometimes crying is hungry or wetting the bed, and parents can understand the needs of their children very accurately. But when the child grows up, they have their own ideas, parents do not know what the child really thinks, mainly because the parents usually lack patience in the process of getting along with the child, sometimes the child wants to express his inner world, but the parents do not have the patience to listen to the child, always to work, reduce the time with the child, after a long time the child is not willing to open up to the parents to tell their thoughts. <

In fact, the correct way to be a parent is to treat the child as an equal friend, to understand the child's inner world, and to understand their preferences. Because only between friends can there be equal communication, so that you can understand your child's real thoughts through communication, so as to reflect on whether there is a problem with your own education, and then correct it. <

Qualified parents will spend a certain amount of time on the child, we can have an equal communication with the child before the child goes to bed, ask him if there is anything to be happy about today, ask him what he has gained in learning today, in the long run, the child will have nothing to say to the parents, and the parents can also accurately know the true thoughts of the child's heart, in fact, the child's idea is very simple, as long as the parents are willing to spend time with him, he will trust the parents unconditionally.

Chat with your child more, play games, watch cartoons, go out with him to buy more food, cry and laugh with him, and after a long time, your child will confide in you.

Talk to your child. Ask your child about his life, take his child's words to heart, and share your story with your child so that he will be willing to open up to you.

You should talk to your child often and become good friends with your child. Keep secrets for your child and let them trust themselves. Watching TV with your child every day can increase the common language of two people.

Children never talk to their parents, and as parents who want to understand their children's thoughts, they should learn to listen at this time. You must know that many parents will always blindly output when they are with their children in life, and when they will educate their children or take their children to express, parents will show doubts or distrust of their children at the first time, which can make the child's desire to express weakened, and slowly will not want to continue to express it, so as a parent, you should pay attention to the expression of each rock crack of the child, so as to stimulate the idea that the child wants to express in a subtle way. It can also make children realize that their parents value their feelings very much.

Children in the process of growing up is actually very much in need of the approval of parents, many parents will always feel that the way of criticism and education is very helpful for children, but in fact, everyone's heart is to hope that they are recognized, as parents also hope that they can be recognized by leaders and colleagues in the work, so let alone children. Then parents can use encouragement instead of blows when facing their children, and praising their children more will make them feel respected, and it will also make the relationship between parents and children more harmonious.

Some parents are indeed not good at expressing themselves, many times what they think in their hearts is not the same as what they say, they may want to comfort their children, but what they say is true, so that children will misunderstand. For this situation, parents can actually write letters to their children, and writing letters is also a very common way of communication, because some words may not be said through words, and through the way of writing letters, parents may be able to express them in words, such as in the text parents apologize to their children, tell their children their inner feelings, so that children can also know what their parents think.

Finally, if parents find that their children are unwilling to express their emotions with themselves, they should first reflect on themselves, whether they are disrespectful to their children or do not listen to their children's inner feelings, hurting their children's young hearts.

You have to find the reason from yourself, why the child is not willing to talk to you in his heart. If you want to understand your child's thoughts, you must communicate with him as an equal, and you can't think that your child should do it just because you are a parent.

Then you should take the initiative to communicate with your child and try to find common topics with your child so that your child will open up.

You can take your child out to play, take your child to learn about what he is interested in, and make your child feel dependent on you.