Why are couples so disgusted with each other when they quarrel?

Even if the relationship is good, there will inevitably be bumps and bumps in life, and quarrels are inevitable. But quarrels do not mean that the relationship between the two is not good, and these behaviors between couples are very annoying to each other during the quarrel. 1. Every time you quarrel, you hold on to the mistakes that the other party has made before.

The ancients said that people are not sages, and no one can do anything. Everyone makes mistakes, and it's normal for people to make mistakes before, as long as they can be corrected, it's actually fine. But no one can stand the fact that others are always turning over his old scores, especially when the couple is arguing.

And some women always clutch the mistakes that men have made when they quarrel, which can make men feel very bored. 2. After one party admits his mistake during the quarrel, he still refuses to forgive. People say that husbands and wives quarrel, bedside quarrels and bedside quarrels.

In fact, a couple quarrel is not a big deal, but if it is not handled well, it can also cause a big thing. Most couples quarrel and apologize to each other after the quarrel, rather than holding on to it. Or generally the man takes the initiative to admit his mistake, and the woman finds a step to go down.

But some women, even if the other party admits their mistakes, they still don't give up, once or twice a man may still be able to coax, but after a long time, men will be tired, and they want to hide when they encounter a quarrel. 3. Love to talk about divorce, or talk about breaking up. Many girls quarrel, they love to break up as a threat, he doesn't bow his head, he easily wants to give up this relationship, this sentence seems to be nothing, but in fact, it is very lethal!

You can say it unscrupulously because you know that he won't say yes and use his tolerance to hurt the feelings between you, but in fact, after the first time, he will silently prepare in his heart, and if he mentions it again one day, he will really break up! In the end, I can only cry without tears and regret not being at the beginning. When two people choose to be together, they actually want to live for a lifetime.

There are some people who will always choose to talk about the breakup when they are arguing. At first, men don't believe that you really want to divorce, but if you talk too much, they will think that you may really want to leave, and after several times of retention, they may choose to let go, and most women don't really want to leave in their hearts, but just say it to scare each other and have a good time. So, no matter how much you quarrel, breaking up is taboo, unless you really can't think about it.

4. Complaining to others everywhere that you quarreled. You two have to quarrel so that the whole world knows about it, and it is absolutely impossible for your sister to want to help you out, scold him, criticize him. Whoever meddles in the matter between you is superfluous, only the parties know what to do and what happened!

If you add fuel to the fire and tell others that he is not, how will he feel, because the closest person will slander him behind his back? Remember that quarrels are a matter of two people, and if you let someone else interfere, things will only get worse, not better. Therefore, no matter how much you quarrel and quarrel with the above things, you can't do them, otherwise, your other half will be farther and farther away from you, and it will be too late to regret it.

In our lives, when husband and wife quarrel, they often turn over old accounts, so that husband and wife gradually lose their minds in the process of quarreling and the more they quarrel, the more they quarrel, the more they hurt their feelings. In fact, it is really very unwise to do this. Quarrels between husband and wife are commonplace in our lives, but quarrels also need to have a certain bottom line, because if they are detached from this bottom line, then there will be cracks in the relationship between husband and wife, which will affect the direction of the relationship between husband and wife.

So why can't husband and wife turn over old accounts during the quarrel? Today we will talk about this truth, hoping to help couples who often turn over old accounts in quarrels. First of all, old accounts prove that you hold grudges or be cautious.

As the saying goes, the past is gone, and there is no point in mentioning it, but if it remains in your heart, it proves that you have not let go of the past at all. If you bring it up during a quarrel, it will make the other party think that you are a cautious person or a person who is prone to holding grudges, which will affect the relationship between you and make an irreparable rift in the relationship between you. Second, turning over old accounts can make the quarrel get out of control.

Quarrels must have a certain bottom line, and quarrels with a bottom line, the more noisy the relationship between husband and wife, the better, but if the quarrel is out of control, then the quarrel means that the relationship will gradually go in a bad direction. If both husband and wife turn over old accounts, then the balance of feelings will become more and more tilted, thus hurting others and themselves. Finally, turning over old accounts can affect harmony among family members.

If they lose their minds in the process of quarreling, the husband and wife will substitute each other's family members into the whirlpool of quarrels, making the quarrel between two people become a conflict between the whole family, thus affecting the harmony of the whole family. Therefore, the most taboo thing to quarrel with is to turn over old accounts, because turning over old accounts not only hurts the feelings between husband and wife, but also makes the quarrel out of control, and even affects the harmony of the whole family. Therefore, if you want the family not to go to the point of no return, husband and wife must not turn over old accounts in the process of quarreling.

Because turning over old accounts is equivalent to revealing other people's scars, which is often a very sad past, which everyone doesn't like.

Everyone does something wrong sometimes, and if you go over old accounts every time you quarrel, it can be really off-putting.

Turning over old accounts often will make people feel particularly annoying and bored, after all, two people are angry, and at this time, turning over old accounts, you will feel that this person is particularly fond of it.

Because when the group is quarrelling, if one party turns over old accounts, it proves that you don't trust him in the process of getting along, so it can cause more dissatisfaction with the other party.

Because the past has become the past after all, a person must always look forward, and cannot always dwell on the past because of a little thing. So we have to talk about things at all times, otherwise we will only make each other further and further apart.

Because the incident has happened, there is no possibility of making up for it, and the other party is still holding on to this matter, which will make us feel that the other party is deliberately finding fault.

Because the past is in the past, everyone makes mistakes, so there's no need to hold grudges.