What are the three types of people who are good to outsiders but not good to their families, no matt

The first type is selfish and hypocritical people, the second type is timid and fearful people, and the third type is people who don't know gratitude.

People who love face, people who are hypocritical, people who don't know gratitude. The character of these people is very poor, and they must be cautious when they usually interact.

People with a big temper, people who are two-faced, people who have a bad personality, people who often have conflicts, people who often get angry with their families.

People who don't know how to be grateful, people who look down on others, people who are very conceited, people who are not worthy of making friends, not worthy of trust.

"Filial piety comes first", which has been handed down from China for 5,000 years, so in many people's cognition, children should be filial to their parents, in fact, there is nothing wrong with this in itself, and it should be advocated. However, children do their children's responsibilities, but parents do not do their parents' responsibilities, many parents do not pay enough attention to their children, and at the same time beat and abuse their children, causing a huge shadow to their children's young hearts, so it is normal to not get the care of their children when they are old.

Nowadays, there is a very strange phenomenon that many people are not so good at home, but they are very enthusiastic about the outside world. In fact, we may only see the surface but not see the real scene, the long-term beating, abuse, ridicule, social pressure, and the requirements of their immediate bosses have led to many people's lack of concern for the family and enthusiasm for the outside world.

Many parents of the older generation have wrong ideas, they think that daughters are not as important as sons, because sons are used to provide for the elderly, and the word "raising children to prevent old age" is often mentioned in their mouths. So sometimes when faced with a choice, they will choose to let their daughter suffer, not let their son suffer, and they will also face their son when they do anything, which also leads to their daughter's hatred of them.

In addition to this, there are many people who are out and about in today's society, and they all have their own bosses. For the sake of the family, for the sake of life, for the sake of their parents, they have to pull down their faces and take care of the people in the society obediently, so in the eyes of outsiders, this child may not be so filial, because he does not pay enough attention to his parents, but only she knows that it is because of the pressure of life, if you don't work hard, you will have no food, and if you don't work hard, you can only starve to death, so you can only take care of others, so as to let yourself have your own space for survival.

Therefore, this is also the reason why some people are very good to outsiders, but they are very average to their families.

You don't have to disguise yourself to your family, you need to show the most real side, and you need to deliberately show your good side in front of outsiders to improve your image.

This kind of person is a "double standard", wearing a mask to behave as a person, giving people the illusion that he is a good person, which makes people praise, thus generating a sense of superiority.

It should be because he is not familiar with outsiders, in order to maintain his good personality, he deliberately wears a mask to be a person, and he is very direct with his family and exposes his true side.

I think it's caused by the mentality that your family will be good to you no matter what.

This is a typical psychology of Chinese. This psychology is not only reflected in this situation, but also in the way of hospitality.

Regarding this matter, everyone must feel that it is just that others are unreliable, and their relatives are especially reliable. Such an idea is not wrong, and satisfies everyone Qi Wang pants Chinese traditional style. Kinship is generally the standard of human affection and sophistication that is relatively solid in the development of traditional Chinese society.

However, when the times have progressed to this day, everything has changed dramatically, and the so-called kinship seems to have been able to give full play to the effects of the past. What's more, some people nowadays, they are still doing the opposite, not because they are bad for outsiders, but because they are good to outsiders. It's not good for the family, it's often especially bad for the family.

From a psychological point of view, in fact, in the depths of every person's soul, there are marks of lack of self-confidence. And low self-esteem just accompanies the development of people. When unconfidence develops into a certain link, everyone will have a distorted mental state and do incorrect things.

For example, a person who is often bullied, he is bullied outside, and he doesn't want to say a word, so his inferiority complex will become stronger and stronger.

However, people's inferiority complex is ultimately vented into some "mentality". Especially the psychological imprint of lack of self-confidence, they also want to hide through some things. Therefore, after they have been oppressed by others, he will point the finger at his relatives and lose his temper with them.

In other words, as others treat them, they may do to their families.

This is a manifestation of too much inferiority. People who are very good to outsiders, especially those who are bad to their families, do not know how to be grateful, once an educator once said that the biggest difference between people and animals is that people have emotions and learn to be grateful. With the word gratitude, we have heard it since childhood, believing that we ourselves also want to be a grateful person, and not allow our conscience to be deceived.

However, it is one thing to want to be grateful, and it is another thing to be grateful to others. In daily life, we will find that many people say that they are grateful to their families, but they can be disrespectful to their family members in private. There are even those who will continue to speak ill of each other and treat each other with sincerity.

I believe that we also have such a family around us, you treat him very well, and he is single-minded, but he treats your sincerity as a "riverside grass", disdains, and has no warmth to talk about himself. In fact, everyone is invested in the family, with sincerity, to make the family's life better. But why does this group of people have such a bad mentality towards their families?

It is because they have not yet guaranteed to be truly grateful, and they have not fully felt the sincerity of their families, but they have focused on others and left the wrong path.

The vast majority of them are more hypocritical people, this kind of person is a nest, and he treats his family very well, and this kind of person's character is problematic.

The family is particularly poor, but the Yu Na is a particularly good person to outsiders, most of these people are particularly arrogant and unreasonable, and often lose their temper at will, do not know how to prioritize, bully the soft and fear the hard.

Such people are all people in the nest, and their attitude towards the people in their own family is very bad, they yell at the people in the family, but they are particularly cowardly outside the house, and they are very brave and small, and such people can't become a big deal at all.