It s so uncomfortable, is it divided or combined? What to do

If you love him, try to change his current situation, communicate with him more, talk about your thoughts calmly, and always quarrel.

It can't solve the problem, if he can't change because of you, then you can change yourself, and if you break it, you will break it! Individual. Suggestion.

What do you want him to do with such a man?

It's not that I look down on him, it's not important that I don't have a degree or a job.

The most important thing for a man is to be responsible.

What does it mean to get married?

It's about building a family all over again.

And the man has to afford the family.

Before I messed around, I didn't get married.

But now that I'm getting married, I still have a mixed mentality, what should I do when I get married?

Are you going to raise him for the rest of your life? His parents couldn't support him for the rest of his life.

No matter who you are, you must have a self-motivated heart.

You are an undergraduate student and I don't need to say anything, the social progress is too fast.

You can't catch up even if you chase it, let alone retreat?

The main thing is that you are together, and he has betrayed you.

A guy who doesn't have any capital still betrays you.

Is this still called love?

Why do you love him so much?

If you are ruthless, it will be painful, but time is the best proof.

People often say that it is better to make a pair than to break up a family.

But I can't stand it, to put it bluntly!

Don't be so stupid, after reading your story, I feel that your boyfriend is a irresponsible, self-motivated person, although two people don't need a reason to love each other, but the acquaintance, acquaintance, and love between people all happen in real life, don't you want to live happily and happily in the future? If you think you will be patient, you will be the one who will be hurt in the end, and the long pain is better than the short pain!

He should have some low self-esteem, if you love him very much and he loves you very much, don't separate, talk to him, two people work together, everything will be fine!

Resolutely divided, what man does not have a sense of responsibility.

I don't know what kind of woman who cherishes himself, is a man still worthy of love?

Don't work hard before you get married! After you get married, you just wait to endure hardship!

You said that he was like this, what do you love about him?

Someone who breaks up and gets back together is because they suddenly find that they can't do without each other, and if you love someone for a long time, you are no longer in love, but dependent, and you finally break up, maybe it's really not suitable.

1. When you feel uncomfortable, you should cry out loud.

Crying is a great way to temporarily relieve emotional stress. Crying out loud when you feel upset is a natural reaction to grief and a very natural and necessary first step in repairing your mind, don't ignore or skip it.

2. When you feel uncomfortable, don't carry it alone.

When you feel bad, tell your loved ones how you feel and find a warm embrace or a strong arm. Or find a close friend and pour out your inner troubles. Even if you choke up and can't speak, it is comforting to let him or her be by your side quietly.

In the process of telling, you will also get a kind of catharsis.

3. You can choose to divert your attention when you are psychologically uncomfortable.

If something gets sadter the more you think about it, then try not to think about it, keep yourself busy, and let yourself have no time to think about it. You focus your attention on everyday things like swimming, shopping, listening, watching TV, etc. You can also choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, and undisturbed, take a position where you feel more comfortable, stand, sit or lie down, and imagine something quiet and beautiful.

Or move some of the body's big joints and muscles and do some simple exercises.

Fourth, the ultimate way to deal with psychological discomfort: peek into the depths of your heart.

There is a saying: there must be a reason for everything. Psychological discomfort may be caused by certain events in life, or after an emotional problem has been hit, negative emotions such as sadness, loneliness, and emptiness linger in the heart.

To fundamentally solve the problem of psychological discomfort, we must start with its causes. Peek deep inside and see what is swaying your heart. Try to use rational thinking to analyze the cause of your discomfort and change it completely in response to the event.

5. What to do if you are psychologically uncomfortable: look at the world with another eye.

Rational emotion** says: The cause of the discomfort in the heart is not the event itself, but the person's thoughts. So even after you look for life events that trigger discomfort in our hearts, we can free our minds by changing our perceptions.

Not everyone in this world is going well, just look at how you solve it, and be optimistic about anything you encounter and keep a normal heart. Just remember: don't give up this second, there will be a miracle in the next second, life will inevitably fall and wait to be brave to look up, the sun is always after the wind and rain!

Life is indeed not easy, and there are still many people in this society who are similar to you, but they are all living happily. As long as you work hard to take everything and take life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously, no matter what your life is, I believe that no matter how uncomfortable your heart is, you can get through it well.

If you have a friend to talk to, please tell us, if not, cry out, you will get sick if you hold it in your heart!

And tears are also good, they can cleanse the soul of garbage.

To put it bluntly, it's just about falling in love and not getting married, so why bother talking so much nonsense. A woman's ultimate destination is to find someone she loves, or someone who loves her, to stay with her for a lifetime. A woman's youth is only a few years, so why waste it on someone who doesn't deserve it.

Points, he is persuading you to figure out your own status, aren't you practicing yourself if you don't divide them? Are you willing to destroy someone's home?

..You have an extramarital relationship, he thinks it's good to keep the relationship, he feels that you are a little too far away, he doesn't want to ruin his family, and the rest is to persuade you.

What do you do? For him to be lonely until he grows old?

Two people with families don't have the capital to talk about feelings at all, you know.

It's not because you give up, maybe your heart sees through it, but your consciousness still feels that you need him, people are like this, and you cherish it when you lose it. I didn't say losing him was your loss, or that you shouldn't wait. "Follow your heart"

I suggest, be still and think do you really need him? Why? You have to refute your own answers, and only by conquering your own true heart will you know whether you need to go on or not.

This is just his own mental effect, maybe he just treats you as a spare tire and thinks of a woman, he is with you and reconciled.

When I get tired of you, I kick you away.

Why should such a man be so uncomfortable.

Feelings that are easy to lose are not true feelings.

Divide and combine, must be divided, don't make trouble, everyone will be annoyed if you make too much trouble, if you like it, you can be together, never mention breaking up, if it is not suitable, just point it, divide it.

It's that you feel too good about yourself. The two of them slowly let go.

I don't know that people who cherish also deserve love? That's his loss,

Give up, good horses don't eat back grass, not to mention that if you don't sound good, you are a spare tire ......

Why go back, in this case, you will always be a spare tire, a thousand years spare tire, give up, find your happiness to go.

Change your phone number, delete all kinds of friends, block her messages, don't contact her, or you won't even be a spare tire.

Explain that she is just a spare tire for you and doesn't like you, and make it clear to her for a showdown.

If you want to get back together with your boyfriend, it doesn't depend on whether you feel uncomfortable or not, but whether there is a relationship between you! Before this idea, let's communicate with him well, see if there is a possibility of getting back together, and wish you happiness!