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Many of us are reluctant to have children because we see raising children as a way to spend money. If your ability is not good, and then you know a little more than the average person, you will feel that the cost of raising a child is too high to afford. In fact, if we look at the countries with low fertility rates in the world, they are basically more knowledgeable.
They also know how to do the math, and they think that it will cost millions of dollars to raise a child well. If you raise a few children, it can cost nearly 10 million dollars. Even if you have too many children, it's still very stressful.
But some people have enough money for themselves, and at the same time they want to have children and grandchildren. And some people are basically emotionally necessary, because if you only have one child, when the child grows up and you are old, there will be no one to take care of you, it may be very sad. And if there is only one child in the family, it will be emotionally unsound.
One is that he is the only one in the family, so he is very favored, and he has what he wants. When you grow up, it is easy to develop a self-respecting character, and when you are frustrated in society, it is easy to have an emotional breakdown. There will be some difficulties in communicating with people.
Because not every parent knows how to educate their children, and if you have one or two more children who can rely on each other, you can digest each other when you encounter something you can't figure out! In terms of emotional development, it will be relatively sound, and when the parents are old, they can take care of the elderly with a reasonable division of labor. Let the elderly have something to rely on, and let the children who struggle outside have no worries.
In our traditional concept, nothing is greater. The so-called queen is that you must have a son! Therefore, they generally want to have a boy, and some people only have daughters at home, and there are no boys, so they want to have one or two more children to see if they can have a son.
This is also the reason why some people have several children in their families.
Different people have different reasons. Having more children and having fewer children cannot be compared purely from an economic point of view. It has to do with personal beliefs, personal values. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you! We must learn to empathize with others!
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Childbearing is the basic right of human beings, and the poor are supported by the poor, and the rich are supported. The poor live poorly, and the rich live richly. I have been exposed to poverty alleviation work, but I have never met a few poor families who are still having four or five children.
The opportunity cost of raising children in poor households is lower than that of families in better economic situations. In human terms, the time of the poor is not as valuable as that of the rich, and they can't make much money except for giving birth to babies and bringing babies. They may not have more or better career opportunities and options.
Compared with the potential benefits of having multiple children, the cost and opportunity cost they pay are lower than the potential benefits of spreading genes, expanding their power, and flying out of the Golden Phoenix. And children who grow up in such families are particularly easy to be grateful, and poor families mean that they have no savings and no belongings, which means that their parents will not be able to provide for themselves after they are old. Therefore, parents instilled a thought from an early age, it is not easy for us to pull you to grow up, and you must be good to us when you grow up.
This is what children have felt since childhood, because everything they have heard and seen since they were young is one word: poverty.
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1.Increase the family labor forceSome poor families, whose income is very limited, are mostly subsidized by hard manual labor in exchange for a certain remuneration. Having more children can increase the labor force of the family, and one more person will give you more strength, and when the children grow up, they will earn more money, which can improve the poor situation of the family.
And when the parents are old, there are so many children who are filial to themselves, and the old age life is also very nourishing. 2.I want my child to get ahead and become promising.
Those who are poor, although they have limited knowledge and do not understand many big truths, will put all the good expectations on their children. There is something similar to"Gamblers"mentality, having a few more children, if one of so many children can get ahead in the future, he will be able to earn a lot of money in the future, and he can give back to the family to support his parents and help the whole family get rid of poverty and become rich. And even if the children are relatively dull, they can accompany themselves when they are old, and they will not feel very lonely.
3.There is a patriarchal mentality. In their concept, the son is a treasure, and he will be responsible for the succession of the entire family in the future, and no son will be looked down upon by others, which is very embarrassing.
And the daughter is going to marry into someone else's family, and sooner or later she will not belong to her own family, and she will only be responsible for raising her daughter. Therefore, when the child is born as a daughter, it will continue to be born until a son is born. And in many cases, the more parents want a son, the more they give birth to a daughter, which will eventually lead to the phenomenon of being poorer and having more children.
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Some particularly poor families have a hard time raising one child, but they choose to have multiple children, and some even have three or four, mainly for the following reasons.
First of all, the traditional concept and idea of having more children and more blessings is that he is very poor, and if he can have one more child, if he has any future interest, he can take care of himself.
Of course, the cost of living for children in poor families is particularly low, and it is enough to barely make ends meet. They really had no choice but to gamble, because it felt like there was no other chance.
The second is that the idea of inheritance is too strong. gave birth to two or three daughters, and always wanted a son, so he kept giving birth to children, hoping to pass on the lineage.
Although the family was very poor, this obsession could not be changed, and finally gave birth to multiple children.
Finally, the parents in poor families have a very low level of knowledge and education, lack the knowledge of contraception, and go with the flow in everything. The country now encourages childbearing, and I feel that although I am very poor now, as long as I survive the current difficulties, my life will be better and better in the future.
People live for hope, and poor families are constantly working for this hope.
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The more poor families have less money, the more they will choose to have many children, in fact, there are several reasons.
First, people from poor families have a relatively low level of education, many of whom are in rural areas or poor areas, and are influenced by local customs or some concepts to feel that they will enjoy more happiness after having more children.
In some remote rural areas or some poor areas, of course, there are a lot of feudal or old concepts, in their minds, children and grandchildren are blessed, and those families who have more children often have a lower level of education for both their husband and wife, they will not consider the quality of children's education, more concerned about the quantity, and in their concepts, having a child is also a child, giving birth to three or five is also a child, they will not think too much about the growth of children, education and so on. As long as the children are raised, the children are healthy, can eat and drink, and this is their task.
In fact, the poorer the place, the more desperate it is to have children, which is caused by backward ideology.
Secondly, many poor families have no concept of having children, and many people do not use contraception, so it causes endless births.
I have seen it on the news before, a couple in a poor mountainous area, they have given birth to seven or eight children, and several children are without hukou, because the child is overborn, they say that there is no way to conceive can only be born, because neither of them knows how to do contraception, and they live in a particularly remote place, the age gap between several children in the family is very small, more than a dozen people are crammed into two particularly dirty and messy rooms, the conditions are also very bad, This is the result of their backward ideology and ignorance.
Third, there are some poor families who want to change the overall situation of the family by having more children.
There are some poor families who have realized the impact of poverty on a family, they feel that their generation has no choice, is to have more children, hoping that some of the children can get ahead, at least a few more children so that the probability of getting ahead will be greater, at least if there are more children, it will be easier to wait until the future pension and the like, what do they think in their consciousness, so even if the family is very poor, they still want to have more children.
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Because they themselves are generally poorer and have a more difficult life, and having one more child is nothing more than an extra pair of chopsticks, they are backward in their thinking, and they will not think about how to concentrate on making one child successful, but by raising multiple children, they want to save a large family through the income of one of the children.
Because the traditional thinking makes them think that fate has its own days, everyone is destined, either poor or rich, so many people conclude that there is no way out in the future when they see some children who are not good at reading when they are young, so they will have the idea of having children again, and want to continue their thoughts through the next new life!
There are still many people with traditional thinking who think that there must be a child who is a boy, otherwise they will continue to give birth until a boy is born, and their obsession with their son is very deep, implanted in the bone marrow, and it is difficult to remove it. What about the daughters who are born, some parents who have no choice will sell their children or even give them away. And then continue to live.
It's horrible!
In fact, the idea of having more children is generally due to the lack of education and training and the unknown. Every child is an independent individual, with their own different ideas, many people's success does not depend on the family and background, nor on how talented they are, but a kind of obsession, a kind of belief to get rid of the status quo and not be willing to be ordinary, and then have a goal, and strive to run forward. All they have is persistence, only continuous learning!
And these things are things that can be seen everywhere in today's society, if you want to learn, as long as you get on the Internet, the overwhelming information will come to you, and if you want opportunities, everyone can succeed in the Internet era. As long as there is a strong heart that is studious, diligent, hard-working, and strong, it is only a matter of time before a child grows into a child.
Therefore, the more children the better, and parents need to pour their sincerity into their children and use love to let their children thrive.
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For many poor families, these parents regard their children as their own economic future, and for them it is a kind of security policy. A savings product, their children, is cheap productivity and labor, in fact, this kind of thinking is to put it bluntly, it is four words, raising children to prevent old age.
Preference for sons over daughters, because in traditional agrarian societies, the productivity of men is more valuable, so there are some relatively poor countries with predominantly agrarian economies. This patriarchal phenomenon is still very widespread. Of course, this is the idea of feudal backwardness.
People in poor countries or families love to have children, because these parents can increase their income by just taking care of food, and children are exploited by these parents, and developed countries do not like to have children, because the cost of raising children is high, and children are not under their own control.
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Many of the children born to poor families are motivated by traditional beliefs that their children will change the fate of their families.
First, it is because of the tradition of their thinking. Although the current rural development is very fast, but the progress of thinking can not be changed overnight, so now many rural elderly people are still very traditional thinking, thinking that only when people are prosperous, the family can develop very well, so although they have no money, they still risk violating the policy to have a few more children.
Second, they hope that their children can change the fate of their families. The main reason why there are many poor families who have more children is that they hope to end poverty through their children, and they do not have a good development, so they put their hopes on their children, as long as the hope of a child is small, but the more children, the greater the hope.
3. I hope to have a son to continue the family's incense. The idea of preference for sons has existed since ancient times, and they feel that only by giving birth to a son can they continue the incense of their family, so when they give birth to a daughter in their first and second children, they will continue to give birth to a son, and they will not stop until they give birth to a son, although their economic conditions are not good, but they can't stop them from giving birth to a son.
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Many people will have heard a little story that can explain the reasons why many people have children. Someone went to a poor area in the west and saw a sheep herder and asked him what he was doing with sheep. Answered: herding sheep and selling money to marry a wife.
Ask him what he is doing with his wife? He said to have children. What do you do when you have a baby?
Give birth to children and herd sheep.
No matter how advanced a person is, he is still an animal, and he also has the natural attributes of animals. Besides, the development of human society is inseparable from the reproduction of human beings, otherwise human beings themselves cannot be maintained, and human civilization cannot continue.
Some people may say that the poorer you are, the more you have to live. There are people who have no money at home and have to have 3 children. Fundamentally, it's because these people have a very low cost of raising children.
People can live both noble and lowly lives. Even if it is just to meet the simplest food and clothing, people can live a good life. As long as the place where you were born is not extremely poor, and you have not suffered serious natural and man-made disasters, the lower the life, the easier it is to live.
A few days ago, there was a news on the Internet that a poor African mother cooked stone soup for her child, which was sad. Some people will immediately ask, why do you have so many children when you are so poor? It's the same as watching people hungry and asking why they don't eat minced meat.
When people's material life reaches a certain level, having children is no longer the main content of life, and people will even consciously control the number of children. Wu Jihong, a student of the People's Republic of China, is a typical example.
In 1998, Wu Jihong graduated from the School of Archives of Chinese University, but after some hard work, he never found his ideal job. Two years after graduation, she returned to her hometown in the countryside, and finally married in the countryside, suffered several remarriages, gave birth to 6 children, and a graduate of a prestigious school became a typical peasant woman. If she had found a decent job, got married and had children, her life would definitely be completely different from now, at least she would not have had 6 children.
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