Can a crying poor family education raise a child with a pattern?

It is obviously the money that should be spent on raising children, but saying it makes the child feel pressured and becomes a moral burden for the child. In life, there are not a few such parents. Obviously the family conditions are good, but he cries poverty to the child every day, which makes the child feel guilty for spending the parents' money.

This kind of crying poor education cannot raise children who are rich in soul and have vision and pattern.

Writer Edgar Bledsoe once said that if a child is a "poor" person from an early age, she will be a "poor person" for the rest of her life. Parents who love to cry poor may want their children to know how to save. However, crying poor with children makes children feel the pressure and burdens of life too early, and suppresses normal material needs and desires at a young age, which is a kind of shackle for children.

Parents emphasize to their children that it is not easy to earn money, but they often ignore their children's inner feelings. Children will think that their family is very poor, and spending money will make their parents unhappy, and they will not blindly fall into the trouble of money, and become inferior, picky, and suppressed. When the child is young, he will compare with his classmates and friends, and when he sees what others have, he is very eager to have it, and his parents have no money to buy it, and his heart is hit, and after a long time, the child will think "my family is very poor, not as rich as others, I am not as good as others", and become inferior.

Most parents in China seem to be reluctant to inform their children of their true family background. Even if the family is not poor, you have to cry in front of your children, in order to make your children more "sensible". Moreover, in terms of educating children not to spend money indiscriminately, "crying poor education" is indeed the most worry-free way for parents - just a sentence of "the family lacks money, the family has no money", can prevent a lot of rhetoric, and do not need to explain too much to the children about the family's economic situation.

But parents don't know that the sequelae of "crying poor education" to their children are actually very serious. Many people are trapped in the "sequelae of crying poverty" for life, and it is difficult to feel true happiness for the rest of their lives. The most terrible thing about it is that no matter how much money you make, you lack a sense of peace about money, as long as the numbers accumulated in your bank card from time to time make you feel at ease.

There is no way for such a family to raise a structured child. Because children have been tied to money since they were young, they will not let go of their hands and feet in doing anything, and they will have concerns.

No, often crying poor parents have a very bad impact on their children, will make children have low self-esteem and no self-confidence, they will not be big at all but will be smaller and smaller, parents are the best teachers for children, your words and deeds affect children.

I think that this kind of family education will not be able to raise a child with a pattern, because growing up in such a family will only make him more inferior, and he has no confidence and no self-motivation.

Personally, I feel that it can't be raised, because this kind of family education will only make my child's pattern small, and it will also affect the child's psychology and behavior.

Can't raise it. This kind of family education will only raise children who are stingy, no matter what they do, they are very stingy, and they are careful about everything.

Of course not, this kind of family education is impossible to raise children with a special pattern, but it will affect the child's character development.

Although the child's future development has a lot to do with the family, most of the reasons are the child's own attitude towards life and planning for the future.

the bitterness of studying; From ancient times to the present, studying is a shortcut for Qianqian students to change their lives, which also confirms the time-honored wise saying that Dada Xiaoyuan often hears: knowledge is power! In everyday life, you often hear someone say Bill.

Isn't Gates what he is now after he dropped out of school? Didn't Jiang Fangzhou become a well-known director without studying? But we have to understand, Bill.

Gates dropped out of Harvard, and by then he had already accumulated a lot of expertise. Even Jiang Fangzhou, who has been very successful so far, often regrets not being able to study hard at that time when he is interviewed. Therefore, in order to get closer to success, it is very necessary to learn knowledge.

Parents must make sure that their children understand the importance of accumulating knowledge when educating them in their daily lives.

The bitterness of social development；At present, there are many parents who take care of their children too well at home, and they prohibit them from doing any work, so that after the child enters the social development in the future, he does not even have the ability and quality to take care of himself, let alone what achievements he will have in work and learning. Therefore, parents should make it clear that they cannot always cultivate their children step by step, and their true love for him is to moderately start from scratch in the process of their children's growth, so that they can make him suffer less from social development in the future.

the suffering of frustration; I don't know if everyone cares about such a piece of news recently, the child jumped from the teaching building on campus because he had no choice but to bear the teacher's accusation, which caused a big shock in the society. It has to be said that there is indeed a problem in the way teachers are educated, which is also a problem that the education industry must deal with today, but this matter also reveals the widespread lack of parent-child education. If, in ordinary times, when a child encounters difficulties, parents can immediately give some relief and educate the child to heroically get rid of the pain and never give up, how can he clear the collapse in a difficult situation, and the first thing he remembered was not to find a way to solve the difficulty, but to deal with everything with death?

1. The hardship of reading is a shortcut to success. Reading can not only change people's fate, but also change a person's pattern, making Min Wangzhong's mausoleum more far-sighted. 2. Only by the suffering of society can we adapt to the society of living alone.

Children who have endured the hardships of the Qiaoshan society will know how to work hard and be grateful more, and will be more productive in the future. 3. The suffering of setbacks makes them not give up easily. Praise makes people feel confident, but frustration makes people more calm.

I think that parents who really have a pattern will let their children suffer these three kinds of hardships, the first is to let their children suffer from reading, and finally pave the way to success.

In many families, the younger the child, the more fun it is, and many young parents have a child as if they were a permanent toy for themselves. It's cute when it's just born, but it's angry after a long time. Living in a family that is not wealthy, the more rules there are for children, the more restrictions on the child's nature.

It's a child's nature to like to play, but educating a child well is the trickiest problem. Many urban children go to their relatives' homes, not only because they come to an unfamiliar environment for the first time, but also because the child's nature is suppressed, so it becomes very difficult. Relatives have seen this kind of scene, relatives are from the countryside, her daughter married into the city and one day took the child home to play, the child is only 2 years old, the most favorite age to play, but the relative said that his little grandson is not sensible.

I kept telling my grandson that I couldn't do this. That can't be done either.

But her grandson didn't listen to her, and she was reluctant to fight herself, so she had to ask the child's mother to take care of her child. If this kind of child is in the countryside, he will definitely say that he is not educated. A few days later, the child became honest at a relative's house, and when he took things, he had to see that his grandmother was not around, for fear that his grandmother would say.

In other words, in a poor family, the more rules there are, restricting children may be what you call "upbringing". Many people have had this experience as children. When I arrived at a relative's house in the countryside, I was detained, and there were more and more rules for children.

Don't make a noise while eating, don't hold the bowl in your hands, and lift your feet up. Although it is said to be table etiquette, it can really frustrate children to do so. Of course, I still attach great importance to the issue of being humble to my peers and respecting adults.

The old man always said that the child did not do this and did not do that, and even worried that the naughty child would grow up to be bad. But rural children study hard after being naughty. After all, rural children can only find a way out if they study hard, and their parents have stricter requirements for their children than urban children.

Parents think that being strict with their children is for the sake of their children, but sometimes self-righteous "extracurricular" can also have a bad effect on children. Parents can't be blamed for this. After all, parents believe that material conditions cannot catch up with their children, and upbringing is upbringing, but upbringing is not the same as rules, and the rules are too rigid and can completely eliminate the child's nature.

In fact, getting along with others is a sense of identity. As for whether there is a discovery, this is the dividing line after the college entrance examination that year. Educational Concepts in Rural Areas:

The poorer and more disciplined, the more your child will be undermined by upbringing.

My circle of friends is the same as my own, but I don't have classmates who go to school, go out to work early, get married and have children, and we are getting farther and farther away from them. Homeschooling is important, but in the eyes of the poor, education is not worth mentioning to the rich at all. The poor must not enter the circle of the rich.

For example, the concept of consumption and the concept of parenting. Some rules in the rural areas still need to be revised, and if they do not adapt to the pace of society, they will be eliminated sooner or later. Do you speak?

The main reason is that the poorer the family, the higher the expectations of parents for their children.

Rules not only restrain people, but also protect people. From this point of view, the more rules you know, the more rules you follow, the more protection you receive, or the more benefits you get from them. Judging by the results, there is no doubt that the rich have succeeded in this world.

Because the poorer the family, the more shallow the knowledge, blindly pursue the behavior and habits left by the older generation to demand the next generation.

First of all, it's not that the poorer the family, the more rules there are. Some poor families have more rules because the poorer the person, the more self-esteem is needed. Obeying the rules makes people respectful.

It is also important for poor families to educate and raise children, and here are some possible suggestions:

1.Pay attention to children's basic education. Basic education is a very important part of a child's development, and parents can use their own personal time and energy to help their children learn basic education, such as helping their children with reading, writing, and math.

2.Nurture your child's hobbies. Parents can encourage their children to develop hobbies and help them discover their strengths and strengths, such as hobbies, painting, sports, etc., which can help children develop self-confidence and explore future directions.

3.Cultivate a sense of responsibility in your child. Children from poor families often need to take on part of the responsibilities of the family, and parents can make their children aware of their responsibilities and obligations by sharing household chores and taking care of younger siblings, so as to cultivate children's sense of responsibility and independence.

4.Establish a good family atmosphere. The family atmosphere of Zhenhuai has a great impact on the growth of children, and parents can create a harmonious and positive family atmosphere through family activities, family rules, etc., so that children can feel the warmth and love of the family.

5.Seek outside help. Children from poor families may face many challenges and difficulties, and parents can seek social help, such as education, medical care, spiritual support, etc., to help their children grow better.

Family education for children is first of all for parents to learn. Parents learn every day. Children grow up happily and healthily.

When parents educate their children, they must use the right methods and correct education methods to help their children grow. Some parents often say in front of their children that they have no money, so that their children spend less money, and parents work very hard to earn money. Although this method can make children thrifty and not spend money indiscriminately, it will also cause children to have big problems.

Because they are excessively thrifty and unwilling to spend money, it will cause children to cause a kind of stingy behavior, so they will be petty in spending money in the future, take money too seriously, lose a lot of friends, and have problems in their marriage, which is also possible.

It's okay for girls, but if it's a boy, this kind of childish behavior will make it impossible for them to find a wife, and for parents, the gains outweigh the losses. often crying that you are poor, and saying in front of your children that you can't make money will also cause a big gap in your child's heart. After all, they will meet a lot of classmates and friends in school, and when they compare and understand what the situation is in the family, the children will have a different economic environment, which will lead to low self-esteem, and sometimes they will become more and more unconfident.

This way of crying poor will not be able to educate children well, but will also make children suffer from this situation all the time. When you grow up, you may often cry poor like your parents. People who say they are poor every day will actually lead to a more and more negative mentality, so they will not be able to make a lot of money.

Because they have subtly thought in their hearts that they are already very poor, and no matter how much they can't make money.

This negative way will bring some bad effects to the child, if you are in this environment all day, your thinking will not improve, and your academic performance will not improve, then it will lead to a lot of problems. Therefore, parents must not often cry poor in front of their children, if there are no economic conditions, they can tell their children about the economic situation in the family after the children are sensible, and the children can understand that people who often say that they are poor often lead to great problems for their children.