I don t have an opinion, what should I do? Why am I not assertive

If you don't have an opinion, you have to cultivate.

I can make my own ideas about some small things that can be improved slowly.

That must be improved, otherwise, how will I be a leader in the future?

Why do you say that you are not assertive? What does that mean, exactly?

I always feel that I am an unassertive person, and many times, my opinions are easily swayed by the interference of others, so that I never have a clear judgment and decision.

In the past few years, I have been wandering alone, deciding my own trajectory in the layman, and taking care of my daily life alone.

I carefully analyzed the reasons, and the main reasons for this are the following:

First, family factors. My grandfather was a very strong man, no matter how big or small the family was, he always liked to dominate everything in our big family, from arranged marriages to how much salt to put in stir-frying. Strong parents produce cowardly children, and in this respect it affects not only my uncles and aunts, but also our grandchildren.

Due to the influence of my grandfather, my parents also like to take care of everything for their children, so that I have not been able to exercise for a long time, and I seem to be dispossessed in the face of big and small things in life, and I can't make my own decisions, which also affects me as an adult, and family factors can be said to be deeply affected.

Second, your own character is decided. Due to the influence of his family, coupled with his introverted personality, he is not good at words, and he has an inferiority complex. I am often easy to be dominated by others in many things, and I don't have a voice in a certain matter, but others decide for me first.

I don't know if I'm an honest person, but it's my fatal wound to not have an opinion, which is worse than an honest person.

Third, the limitations of one's own abilities. First of all, I haven't read a lot of books, my cultural level is very limited, and I have been at the bottom of the society for many years, first a big soldier, and then an ordinary worker, and I have a lot of time to listen to other people's orders, but I have no opinion. I don't have a skill and a field that I am familiar with.

Over the years, there is no high position, not to mention, there is no skill and the field that I am familiar with, so that I can not become a veteran of a certain industry, naturally I can't have my own unique views on a certain technology, and naturally I can't talk about my own opinions.

Fourth, your own ability and ability to bear it are not good. If you don't have your own opinions, you are naturally unfamiliar with a thing, or you are also poor at dealing with an unfamiliar thing, and you are not able to bear the consequences.

Not having an opinion is really terrible, not only affecting the quality of work life, but even the value of one's own life, and living a tasteless life. So I have to try my best to change this situation, first point out my shortcomings in this area today, and the next step is to make targeted changes.